In this episode of Similarly Different, licensed marriage and family therapist Alyx Allen joins me to unpack a term I had never heard until recently — hyper-independent codependency. We talk about what it actually looks like, why high-functioning women fall into it, and how "I got you" can secretly be a need for control disguised as helpfulness.From there we get into anhedonia, the difference between healing and learning to live with what you've been through, why dating apps are killing real connection, and what it actually takes for men to open up about their insecurities.If you've ever wondered why you can't seem to slow down, why relationships feel harder than ever, or why you feel emotionally flat even when life looks good — this episode will give you language for what you've been feeling.In this episode, we talk about:• Hyper-independent codependency and how to spot it in yourself• Why "healed" might not be the right word for what you're looking for• Anhedonia, burnout, and feeling flat even when life is good• Compartmentalizing emotions — and why men and women do it differently• Why dating apps are draining our ability to actually connect• How to reset your nervous system in an anxious moment• Men's mental health, insecurity, and why they struggle to open up• Finding your own version of a non-negotiable self-care practice• When to walk away from therapy and when to stay🎓 This episode is sponsored by National University, to find out more information see here: https://bit.ly/4vJfyKQ📲 Alyx Allen’s Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/theselfishcontract🌐 Website: https://www.tscbecomingher.com🎙️ Podcast: How I Ended Up Here — https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/how-i-ended-up-here/id1754056081🔔 Don't forget:✔️ Subscribe for weekly episodes✔️ Leave a rating & review (it helps more than you know!)✔️ Drop a comment — I always read them✔️ Tag me in your stories @similarlydifferentpod — I'll repost! 💬📲 Let's stay connected:Instagram: @similarlydifferentpodTikTok: @similarlydifferentpodSubmit a 'Similarly Curious' question: https://www.youandmemedia.co/similarlycurious