When co-parenting becomes another way to control, provoke and maintain emotional access to you, how do you protect your peace—and your child?

In Episode 24 of the Family Court Survival Series, Abi shares how she stopped responding to every allegation, defending herself against every accusation and participating in circular email arguments that were never intended to reach a resolution.

Some conflicts are not really about the child. They are invitations back into chaos—and proof that the other parent can still affect your emotions.

Abi discusses recognizing that trap, shortening communication, involving your lawyer when necessary and accepting that you cannot force another person to develop empathy, accountability or emotional regulation. Instead, you can redirect your energy toward supporting your child, creating an emotionally safe home and modelling the kindness and respect you want your child to expect from others.

Choosing peace does not mean the other person was right. It means their behaviour no longer gets to control your life.

Through prayer, gospel music and trusting God with what she cannot change, Abi explains why you do not need the other parent’s cooperation—or permission—to protect your joy.

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Their behaviour is their responsibility. Your healing, peace and joy belong to you.