We unpack how childhood emotional survival maps become adult paradigms that shape choices, risk tolerance, and self-worth. We share CBT tools, new agreements, and practical steps to shift identity, reduce rejection sensitivity, and build lasting change through repetition and compassion.

• defining paradigms as learned lenses and habit loops
• emotional survival maps from childhood shaping adult behavior
• CBT’s think–feel–do model applied to stuck goals
• rejection as difficult not dangerous and why emotions lack time
• shame, self-talk, and compassionate inner parenting
• scarcity mindset, clutter, and money habits
• don’t take it personally and don’t make assumptions agreements
• why chains to trace behaviors to root beliefs
• moving from autopilot to intention with tiny reps
• EMDR’s role in reframing responsibility and worth

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You can find the book, The Four Agreements Here: https://www.thefouragreements.com/

Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation:
https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/

This show is sponsored by:

Core Self

www.coreself.org

Benavieri Counseling & Coaching
www.benavieri.com

Active Healing Psychiatric Services
www.activehealingpsych.com

We unpack why vulnerability triggers fear and how armor—perfectionism, people pleasing, overexplaining—protects us while keeping connection out of reach. We share concrete ways to practice safe vulnerability, build shame resilience, and bring more gratitude, play, and empathy into daily life.

• defining vulnerability as uncertainty, risk and emotional exposure
• childhood wounds shaping adult defenses and armor
• reframing vulnerability as courage not weakness
• authenticity mantras and grounding self-talk
• oversharing versus discerning, earned sharing
• shame spirals, empathy and co-regulation
• accountability without self-condemnation
• nervous system basics and limbic memory
• gratitude practice, play and creativity to rewire attention
• raising joy’s baseline and building resilience with small wins

You can find Brene Brown's book here: https://www.audible.com/pd/The-Power-of-Vulnerability-Audiobook/B00CYKDYBQ?srsltid=AfmBOorcZ3FVBRVjqxdS5iOFUz2iVZGe61LZ2yzKB7hkyiSWIXxeIvAE

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Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation:
https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/

This show is sponsored by:

Core Self

www.coreself.org

Benavieri Counseling & Coaching
www.benavieri.com

Active Healing Psychiatric Services
www.activehealingpsych.com

We dig into why mental health hacks feel so tempting, which ones actually help, and when they quietly make things worse. We share how to set goals, spot toxic positivity, work with trauma-aware pacing, and choose therapy that fits.

• appeal of quick fixes, privacy and control
• stigma fears and the urge to go it alone
• readiness over resistance and avoidance loops
• self-connection and compassionate self-talk
• toxic positivity versus true validation
• habits that help ADHD and daily stress
• limits of behavior change with trauma
• using goals, metrics and timelines
• choosing a therapist and seeking the right fit
• sustainability, balance and being okay enough

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Laura's Free Course on Emotional Development and Regulation:
https://benavieri.com/neuroception-sign-up/

This show is sponsored by:

Core Self

www.coreself.org

Benavieri Counseling & Coaching
www.benavieri.com

Active Healing Psychiatric Services
www.activehealingpsych.com