Free gift from Stan & Tracey: get an excerpt of Stan's book In Each Other's Care, including the introduction and the full "Fighting Dos and Don'ts" chapter:
https://www.thepactinstitute.com/ieoc-giveaway

"If your driving guiding force in a relationship is love only, you're not going to make it." Dr. Stan Tatkin, the developer of PACT, and his wife Dr. Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, co-founder of the PACT Institute, say love is real, but it rises and falls like the weather. What holds a couple together under stress is something you design on purpose.

Courtney Wren-Mabbutt and Mike Elliott sit down with Stan and Tracey for an honest, funny and deeply practical conversation about secure functioning: a relationship built on shared purpose, clear agreements, fairness and quick repair. They explain why it's not him or her. All of us get difficult under stress, because a lightning-fast threat system takes over before we've chosen anything, and suddenly the person we love looks like the problem.

The invitation: decide together why you're here, plan for your hardest moments, and learn to catch the shift in each other before it runs the show.

Chapters:
0:00 Cold open
2:24 Welcome to The Sacred We
3:21 Welcome Stan and Tracey Tatkin
6:03 It's not him or her
11:43 Mentor couples and pro-relationship teams
15:37 Most couples never design their relationship
16:50 Secure functioning and one crazy at a time
18:32 Shared vision, agreements and purpose
23:11 Return to love
26:45 Protecting each other
30:07 The red wagon: attachment is survival
34:13 Know your partner's nervous system
37:38 Why love alone isn't enough
41:36 Pillow talk after 27 years
45:03 From island to clingy
54:37 Rituals and the touch-toes rule
58:02 Never fight in the car
1:00:40 The "it", the threat loop and catching the shift
1:09:51 Worth it, but hard
1:11:59 Their legacy and the Real Life Report Card

Stan & Tracey resources:
Stan & Tracey (official site):
https://www.stanandtraceytatkin.com/

The PACT Institute:
https://www.thepactinstitute.com/

Wired for Love retreats and workshops:
https://www.thepactinstitute.com/retreats

Stan's books:
https://www.stanandtraceytatkin.com/books

Stan's TEDxKC talk:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1kKTsz0OcuI

Stan on Instagram:
https://www.instagram.com/drstantatkin/

About Stan & Tracey:
Dr. Stan Tatkin, PsyD, MFT, is a couple therapist, researcher and the developer of PACT (A Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy). His books include Wired for Love, We Do and In Each Other's Care. Dr. Tracey Boldemann-Tatkin, PhD, AMFT, co-founded the PACT Institute with Stan in 2010 and co-leads Wired for Love retreats and workshops with him.

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https://www.courtneywren.com/bring-your-oracle-to-him

Rebirth 1:1 with Courtney:
https://www.courtneywren.com/containers

Work with Mike:
https://www.itsmikeelliott.com/coaching

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