Amy & Tommy begin to connect the dots: have our favorite stories from childhood and teenhood shaped our romantic and sexual selves? Emily Nagoski explains as much in Chapter 2 of Come As You Are. Nagoski first blows the mind with the explanation of the dual-control model: we've all got sexual accelerators and sexual brakes. And not all of us are Lamborghinis! But then, there's CONTEXT. Nagoski is a terrific tease and the anticipation for Chapter 3 is PALPABLE!

Mentioned in this Episode:

First Love by Gay Head

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph. D.

Henry Danger

Harry Potter Book Series

The Forest Princess by Harriet Herman

For Keeps

The Destroyer Series by Warren Murphy and Richard Sapir

Penthouse Forum

Dressed to Kill

Less Than Zero

Original Music:

Song: Charles' Name

Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth

Album: Shong's Order

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Baby gherkin clits and shameful pudendums. Shleimige flüssigkeiten and pillow talk. Hard AND wet. It's all here in Amy & Tommy's discussion of Chapter 1 of Emily Nagoski's groundbreaking book, Come As You Are. Beginning at the beginning, In Chapter 1, Nagoski guides her readers through genital development from the point of conception through adulthood. We all have the same parts, just organized differently. All incredible!

"Heated Rivalry: The Unauthorized Musical Parody"

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

Intersex statistics

TED Radio Hour on aging

Chana Bloch, poet

Original Music:

Song: Saintes Maries de la Mer

Artist: Ian and The Deep Sheets

Album: Lick the Razor Clean

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What IS our human-ness? Is it the SOUL? Or is it the BODY? What is it that reminds us that we aren't supercomputers and that AI-generated bots aren't human? Amy & Tommy dig into that question as they open up Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are for in-depth discussion.

Amy confuses the beloved San Francisco Chronicle columnist Herb Caen with an artist at the paper, Warren Goodrich. No matter. We just gotta keep on talking.

Mentioned in this episode:

Maybe Happy Ending

Homo Deus by Yuval Noah Harari

"My AI Loves Me Better Than Anyone Ever Could" from Where Should We Begin with Esther Perel

"We Got AI Boyfriends" from Dire Straights with Amanda Montei and Tracy Clark-Flory

FOUND! First Love short stories selected by Gay Head, featuring "EPICAC" by Kurt Vonnegut, Jr.

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

Herb Caen

Magnificent Sex by Peggy J. Kleinplatz, Ph. D and A. Dana Ménard, Ph.D

Joel Embiid

Original Music:

Song: Piano Man (Live at Hidden East Tavern)

Artist: Muistardeaux Collective

Album: Abstractio's Prestige

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