This episode was meant to discuss the conclusion to Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are, which turned out to be a teeny, tiny non-chapter. But not to fear! Tommy and Amy pounce on a recent New Yorker article entitled, "The Billionaires' Vagina Club" and manage to turn it into their longest episode ever—the appetizer becomes the main course!

Mentioned in this Episode:

"The Billionaire's Vagina Club" by Melanie Thernstrom, The New Yorker, June 26, 2026

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

"Women's sexual health: desire, arousal, and orgasms, navigating perimenopause, and enhancing satisfaction with Sally Greenwald, M. D., M.P.H." Peter Attia's The Drive Podcast

Original Music:

Song: Wandering Boy

Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth

Album: Coach Barbarian

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Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed.

In this last chapter of Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are, Amy & Tommy discuss the the practice of happiness, how Nagoski misses the idea of play, and how we are all swimming in a patriarchal hot tub. Also, cross-body bags and DECIDING. To decide is to educate your monitor. It totally works.

Mentioned in this Episode:

"What Science Knows About Grief" in The New Yorker

DTF St. Louis

Hot Jason Bateman

Ted Lasso

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph. D.

Awaken the Giant Within by Tony Robbins

Magnificent Sex by Peggy Kleinplatz, Ph. D. and A. Ménard, Ph.D.

Muistardeaux Collective

Original Music:

Song: Sleepy Little Heart

Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth

Album: Shong's Order

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Are all orgasms created equal? What in the actual world? Tommy and Amy discuss the finer points of Chapter 8 of Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are. Actually, they discuss ALL the points! There are spicy details not to be missed, including a mansplained orgasm. For reals.

Mentioned in this Episode:

The Husbands by Holly Gramazio

Indian Heaven

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph. D.

"I know it when I see it."

Magnificent Sex by Peggy Kleinplatz, Ph. D. and A. Ménard, Ph. D.

WIfehouse by Sonia Walger

DTF St. Louis, HBO Max

Clackamas Fire

Original Music:

Song: Hani Sani

Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth

Album: FM Perspective

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Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed.

Finally! In Chapter 7 of Come AsYou Are, Emily Nagoski. Ph. D. gets to DESIRE: spontaneous desire and responsive desire and desire threshholds. Mind. Blown. Normalizing high threshold responsive desire is life changing and relationship saving. Also, the chasing dynamic. Wow.

Amy comes up with her favorite metaphor to date: the pleasure pool. Fill it up, keep it full, sparkling, and clean, and dive right in!

Mentioned in This Episode:

"Crooked Autumn Sun", Rick Bain and The Genius Position

David Schilling "Backseat DJ"

"Tears" by Sabrina Carpenter

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph. D.

Ray Wiley Hubbard

Magnificent Sex by Peggy Kleinplatz, Ph, D and A. Ménard, Ph. D.

John Gottman

Esther Perel

Original Music:

Song: MC Doomin

Artist: Muistardeaux Collective

Album: KTWE

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Work From Bed Friday is a podcast hosted by Amy Hoffmann and Tommy Borden, a committed couple of 30+ years. Funny, spicy, and insightful, they discuss marriage, sex, and connection through the lens of contemporary books and media. Every Friday. From bed.

Amy & Tommy make it to Chapter 6 of Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are and dive into more of the science of sex (what a fun job!) and more of Nagoski's metaphors (THIS is a restaurant.)—both of which are a little bit mind-blowing. Becoming aware of the dangerous sexual myths embedded in our culture is mind-blowing too. Be prepared. Also, turns out Tommy is a good feminist and Amy is a broski dude-man.

Mentioned in this episode:

Addyi: Pink Viagra

Emily Nagoski's OpEd in the LA Times

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

Fifty Shades of Gray by E.L. James

If I Should Lose You by Craig MackIntosh

Original Music:

Song: The Way You Play Piano (Silver)

Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth

Album: Shong's Order

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Our culture plants many of the weeds that choke our sexual garden. In this chapter of Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph. D., Amy and Tommy discuss cultural context and the "clusterfuck of mixed messages" that effect our sexual well being.

Fifty Shades of Gray by E L James

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

John Craigie

I Feel Pretty starring Amy Schumer

Self-Compassion by Kristin Neff, Ph. D.

Invasive Plants of Portland

Addyi

Original Music:

Song: Tom? Jim Again

Artist: Muistardeaux Collective

Album: Face the Music

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Coming off a celebration of their magical 22nd wedding anniversary, Amy & Tommy dive into a rollicking discussion of Chapter 4 of Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are.

Mentioned in this Episode:

The Sentinel Hotel

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

Burnout by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D. and Amelia Nagoski, DMA

The Lents Bridge Project

Original Music:

Song: Women Only Like Me For My Mind

Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth

Album: Shong's Order

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The most important sex organ is...the brain!! Even so, Amy & Tommy can't help but start with the clitoris and the fact that it's been largely ignored until the 90s. The NINETEEN NINETIES. Soon enough they move on to Chapter 3 of Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are, the author-described "nerdy chapter," chock full of brain science. Don't worry, Amy & Tommy find several reasons turn up the spice level, including examining their own contexts for positive sexual experiences!

Mentioned in this Episode:

The Female Edge by Sara Szal, MD

"The Female Body Was Not Designed for the Sex Most Women Are Having After 35" by Sara Szal, MD

Inside Out

Inside Out 2

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

The Lord of the Rings, by J. R. R. Tolkein

Harry Potter Series by J. K. Rowling

Sexual Pleasure for Dummies by Myisha Battle

Adult Braces by Lindy West

More by Molly Roden Winter

Original Music:

Song: Non Romantic Dust

Artist: Muistardeaux Collective

Album: Mont Roc

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