The most important sex organ is...the brain!! Even so, Amy & Tommy can't help but start with the clitoris and the fact that it's been largely ignored until the 90s. The NINETEEN NINETIES. Soon enough they move on to Chapter 3 of Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are, the author-described "nerdy chapter," chock full of brain science. Don't worry, Amy & Tommy find several reasons turn up the spice level, including examining their own contexts for positive sexual experiences!

Mentioned in this Episode:

The Female Edge by Sara Szal, MD

"The Female Body Was Not Designed for the Sex Most Women Are Having After 35" by Sara Szal, MD

Inside Out

Inside Out 2

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

The Lord of the Rings, by J. R. R. Tolkein

Harry Potter Series by J. K. Rowling

Sexual Pleasure for Dummies by Myisha Battle

Adult Braces by Lindy West

More by Molly Roden Winter

Original Music:

Song: Non Romantic Dust

Artist: Muistardeaux Collective

Album: Mont Roc

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Amy & Tommy begin to connect the dots: have our favorite stories from childhood and teenhood shaped our romantic and sexual selves? Emily Nagoski explains as much in Chapter 2 of Come As You Are. Nagoski first blows the mind with the explanation of the dual-control model: we've all got sexual accelerators and sexual brakes. And not all of us are Lamborghinis! But then, there's CONTEXT. Nagoski is a terrific tease and the anticipation for Chapter 3 is PALPABLE!

Mentioned in this Episode:

First Love by Gay Head

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph. D.

Henry Danger

Harry Potter Book Series

The Forest Princess by Harriet Herman

For Keeps

The Destroyer Series by Warren Murphy and Richard Sapir

Penthouse Forum

Dressed to Kill

Less Than Zero

Original Music:

Song: Charles' Name

Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth

Album: Shong's Order

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Baby gherkin clits and shameful pudendums. Shleimige flüssigkeiten and pillow talk. Hard AND wet. It's all here in Amy & Tommy's discussion of Chapter 1 of Emily Nagoski's groundbreaking book, Come As You Are. Beginning at the beginning, In Chapter 1, Nagoski guides her readers through genital development from the point of conception through adulthood. We all have the same parts, just organized differently. All incredible!

"Heated Rivalry: The Unauthorized Musical Parody"

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

Intersex statistics

TED Radio Hour on aging

Chana Bloch, poet

Original Music:

Song: Saintes Maries de la Mer

Artist: Ian and The Deep Sheets

Album: Lick the Razor Clean

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What IS our human-ness? Is it the SOUL? Or is it the BODY? What is it that reminds us that we aren't supercomputers and that AI-generated bots aren't human? Amy & Tommy dig into that question as they open up Emily Nagoski's Come As You Are for in-depth discussion.

Amy confuses the beloved San Francisco Chronicle columnist Herb Caen with an artist at the paper, Warren Goodrich. No matter. We just gotta keep on talking.

Mentioned in this episode:

Maybe Happy Ending

Homo Deus by Yuval Noah Harari

"My AI Loves Me Better Than Anyone Ever Could" from Where Should We Begin with Esther Perel

"We Got AI Boyfriends" from Dire Straights with Amanda Montei and Tracy Clark-Flory

FOUND! First Love short stories selected by Gay Head, featuring "EPICAC" by Kurt Vonnegut, Jr.

Come As You Are by Emily Nagoski, Ph.D.

Herb Caen

Magnificent Sex by Peggy J. Kleinplatz, Ph. D and A. Dana Ménard, Ph.D

Joel Embiid

Original Music:

Song: Piano Man (Live at Hidden East Tavern)

Artist: Muistardeaux Collective

Album: Abstractio's Prestige

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Welcome to Season 3 of Work From Bed Friday! Inspired by the feminist podcasting duo Amanda Montei and Tracy Clark-Flory of Dire Straights, Amy & Tommy try an AI experiment—in the name of research, of course. Eye-opening, spicy, fascinating, and ultimately disturbing, they discuss the experience candidly, wondering what effect this technology will have on our future love, sex, and connection as a culture.

Mentioned in this episode:

"My AI Loves Me Better Than Anyone Ever Could" from Where Should We Begin with Esther Perel

"Love in the Time of AI Companions" in the New Yorker

"We Got AI Boyfriends" from Dire Straights with Amanda Montei and Tracy Clark-Flory

Dire Straights Substack

Candy AI

Joi

Greenpeace article on the environmental impact of AI

Original Music:

Song: Can You Get Me a Flashlight?

Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth

Album: FM Perspective

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Amy & Tommy welcome their first podcast guest EVER—Stasia Savasuk! Stasia is a somatic coach and the founder of Stasia's Style School and other empowering courses for women. Stasia first introduced Amy to All About Love by bell hooks. Stasia's transformative experience with the book is what inspired Amy to give it to Tommy which ultimately led to the breakthrough in their marriage.

It's like an episode-long Let's Make It a Threesome! Join us for the fun!

Mentioned in this episode:

Stasia Savasuk on Instagram

Stasia's webpage

Stasia's Tedx Talk

Stasia's Style School (live course)

Stasia's Style School (self-paced)

All About Love by bell hooks

"The Camps Promising to Turn You —or Your Son—Into an Alpha Male" by Charles Bethea in The New Yorker

Come As You Are by Emily Nagowski, Ph.D

Original Music:

Song: It Don't Rewind

Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth

Album: It Don't Rewind

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Closing in on the end of Season 2, Amy & Tommy discuss I Love Dick, the 1997 cult feminist classic by Chris Kraus. Lucky for them, the book was made into a fabulous television series in 2016. They discuss both of these works, digging into themes of art, desire, femininity, the patriarchy. The conversation is long and rambling and juicy—following Chris Kraus's lead!

Mentioned in this Episode:

I Love Dick by Chris Kraus

I Love Dick, TV Series

More by Molly Roden Winter

All Fours by Miranda July

Richard Serra

Kennedy School Hotel

Hinge

Miranda July's Substack

Original Music:

Song: Lost Dogs

Artist: Ian and The Deep Sheets

Album: Ball Simon

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What would bell hooks say about AI? Can we imagine her angels as AI bots? How does this chapter's discussion of The Divine figure into the overall philosophy of love? Amy & Tommy jump into all the big questions: the Divine, the cosmos, the Tarot. And AI.

This episode discusses the final chapter of All About Love by bell hooks and leads into the completion of Season 2! Stay tuned for a brief discussion of I Love Dick by Chris Kraus AND a special guest on the pod before Season 3 begins on April 24!

Mentioned in this Episode:

"Love in the Time of AI Companions" in the New Yorker

"My AI Loves Me Better Than Anyone Ever Could" from Where Should We Begin with Esther Perel

All About Love by bell hooks

Modern Tarot by Michele Tea

The Emperor

Brené Brown on shame

Bone Black by bell hooks

Stasia Savasuk

I Love Dick by Chris Kraus

Original Music:

Song: Blind Equally

Artist: Rick Real and The Warmth

Album: You Too, October

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