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Friend… we’re jumping right back in. Part two of our diaspora conversation turns into a full Socratic seminar (with jokes, because we’re still us), because the questions are big:
What does it mean that “African” can be tied to place, while Blackness isn’t location-dependent? What happens when your culture is everywhere, but your “home” is nowhere on the map? And how do we build relationships across the Atlantic without reenacting empire?

In this episode, we talk diaspora tension, identity, culture, land, and the longing underneath it all. We get into: Black culture in the US as survival tech, the idea that “we echolocate each other because we are each other’s continent,” the grief of being told you don’t belong from multiple directions, and the difference between “I’m moving somewhere” vs “I’m trying to be in relationship with people and place.”

If you’ve ever wrestled with:
Black diaspora identity, African identity, “diaspora wars,” reclaiming culture, ancestral memory, place-making, migration, reverse migration, belonging, Black community, Black women’s inner lives, self-actualization, or how to build a life that can actually hold your dreams… this one’s for you.

Also: we do not let white folks off the hook. Please go get your Celtic and Norse ancestors. They are hungry.

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Content note: explicit language + deep talk on identity, belonging, diaspora tension, colonialism, and cultural grief.

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What actually sits at the root of the “diaspora wars” — the jokes, the tension, the misunderstandings between Black Americans and Black folks across the continent? And what happens when two best friends, one raised in the U.S. South and one born in South Africa, decide to talk about it with honesty, humor, and a whole lot of care?

In this episode of You’re So Real For That, Monèt and Amo dig into the grief and tenderness beneath the jokes, the propaganda we all inherited, the media moments that shaped our early perceptions of each other, and the complicated histories that got us here. From “African booty scratcher” playground trauma to the real impact of U.S. education, from Wakanda nostalgia to the ache of language loss, we ask what repair could look like if we led with curiosity instead of defensiveness.

We talk culture as lived practice — food, music, dance, the ways we show love, the ways we misunderstand each other, and the surprising places where we’re already aligned. And yes: capitalism, colonial borders, feudalism, Coming to America, Living Single, Busy Corner, and BeBe & CeCe Winans all make an appearance.

This episode is for the Black women who want to feel seen in their complexity. For the global Black girl who’s felt foreign in the very place her ancestors once lived. For the African who’s been flattened into a stereotype. For the American whose grief runs deeper than she can explain. For the daughters of the diaspora who are ready to heal — without performing for a single white gaze.

If you love nuanced cultural conversations, softness and smoke in equal measure, friendship as spiritual practice, and laughing while you unlearn, you’re exactly where you belong.

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If your brain feels like 47 tabs open, you send voice notes that turn into TED Talks, and you are a Black woman trying to build a life that hugs your body just right, this podcast is for you. Start here for the origin story of "You’re So Real For That".

In this debut episode, we sit down and reminisce about how a random afternoon at the bank with a teller named Brandon turned into a podcast about real life, real decisions, and real conversations Black women are having off-mic every day. One conversation about dreams, money, self-respect, and not abandoning yourself for a paycheck literally pushed Brandon to quit his job and chase the life he wanted. That was the sign: WE NEED TO TURN ON THE MIC!

This episode is for you if you crave conversations that live somewhere between “I'm that girl” and “I have no idea what I am doing”.

Inside this episode, we talk about:

* How this podcast was born cuz we were "banking while yapping"
* Being in a love affair with your own life, not just your job
* Money as both survival and tool for self-actualization
* What it means to be a “capital H Human” as a Black woman
* The gap between the life you imagined and the life you are actually living
* Why we wanted a podcast that talks *to* Black women, not *about* Black women

You will hear us reflect on:

* Being Black women at different life stages (20s and 30s)
* Navigating careers, creativity, travel, and relationships without a map
* Wanting representations of Black women who are not married with kids by 30, and not ashamed of that
* The fatigue of constant self-improvement and the desire to rest without “falling behind”
* The power of friendship, accountability, and being lovingly challenged

If you love podcasts like "Getting Grown", enjoy long, layered conversations, and want to feel like you are sitting at the table with two smart, ridiculous, tenderhearted Black (Virgo) women who care about your joy and your growth, you are in the right place.

Listen in if you are ready for:

* Honest talk about money, work, and purpose
* Big feelings about love, sex, family, and friendship
* Diaspora stories, Virgo energy, and “do it for the plot” moments
* Laughter that makes you snort and truths that make you pause

This is the beginning. The start. The inception.
Hit play, get cozy, and if it resonates, send it to the friend who is always the first person you text when life is living.