What happens when the path you've been told to follow starts to feel intolerable?

In this episode, we explore the uncomfortable space of not knowing what's next and the courage it takes to choose what actually delights you instead. Jay and Sasha dive into the friction between cultural expectations of consistency and the messy, multifaceted reality of a life lived in alignment with one's curiosity.

Sasha has done a lot of different things. She's published 3 books—two on cheese and one on menopause. She's been a project manager, cheesemonger, podcaster, shopkeeper, restaurant manager, human resources assistant, copywriter and book coach. Her latest venture is Paper Jam Reuse, which is a reuse project focused on using paper to inspire people to create low-stakes, high-satisfaction creative projects.

Her numerous professional reinventions have given Sasha deep insight into the internal "ick" that signals a need for change.

In this episode, Jay and Sasha discuss:

► Distinguishing between what you think you should want and what actually brings you delight.

► Recognizing the physical and emotional cues that a role or project is no longer aligned.

► Why it's so tempting to reach for crummy opportunities just to avoid the embarrassment of being unmoored.

► How unpredictable bodily changes can destabilize your sense of identity and reality.

► A simple and surprising tool to stay present during moments of overwhelm.

Learn more about Sasha Davies

► Websites:
https://paperjamreuse.com
https://www.sashadavies.com/

► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/paperjamreuse/

► Other links: The Menopause Companion (Book)

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Stay connected with Jay

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com

► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/

► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B

► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching

► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

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Credits

This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA.

For collaboration or podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com

Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

Today's episode is about grief. Or at least it starts out that way, but the conversation evolves into being about authenticity, purpose and desire. And weirdly, as you listen, you'll find that these topics make sense together. Because for as heavy and all-encompassing as grief feels while you're in it, it's inseparable from some of the most essential questions in life. Who am I? What am I here to do? And what do I really want?

Uma Girish is a Grief Companion, Human Design guide, and the author of four books, including Sacred Fire: Memoir of a Marriage. She works with women who are grieving a loss and feeling lost, helping them navigate not just the death of a loved one, but the "lower-case losses"—breakups, changing roles, diagnoses, empty nesting, and the years spent not choosing themselves. Uma serves as a compassionate witness, helping women listen to what grief is asking of them and who they are becoming in the process.

► Grief as an Identity Reset
► Spiritual Bypassing vs. True Feeling
► The nervous system's and mind's common responses to loss
► Human Design as a Soul Map
► Reclaiming Desire

► Website: https://umagirish.com/
► Substack: Light After Loss (via website)
► Book: Sacred Fire: Memoir of a Marriage
► Special Offer: Uma is offering a free 20-minute Human Design Highlights reading to the first two listeners who email her with their birth details.

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B
► Coaching Program: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode.

This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA.
For collaboration or podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com

Original Music produced by Dalton Grant

Have you ever felt like your nervous system is pressing the gas pedal and the brake at the same time? In the first solo episode of Season Two, Jay explores the often-overlooked "Fawn" stress response, a survival strategy that prioritizes connection over authenticity. If you find yourself shape-shifting to please others or losing touch with your own needs to keep the peace, this episode will help you understand that it isn't a personality flaw; it's your nervous system trying to keep you safe.

Jay Moon Fields is a somatic coach, author, and the host of Hey Wait. She works with people who struggle to stay connected to themselves while connecting with others, bringing deep insight into nervous system regulation, embodiment, and "unfawning."

► The "Hey, Wait" Tool: Using two simple words as a reset button to interrupt default patterns and reorient to your own needs.
► Defining the Fawn Response: Understanding the fourth stress response (alongside fight, flight, and freeze) as "responding to a threat by becoming more appealing to the threat."
► The High-Functioning Fawner: Why fawning often hides in plain sight, looking like competence, empathy, and success on the outside while feeling like numbness and resentment on the inside.
► A Personal Confession: Jay shares a vulnerable (and slightly ridiculous) story about fawning at the airport with her husband.
► The Path to "Unfawning": An introduction to the steps required to heal, including nervous system regulation, reparenting, and parts work.

If you're interested in learning more about Jay's signature online program, Yours Truly, that teaches you the steps to heal fawning, visit https://jaymoonfields.com/yours-truly.

Use the code heywait-100 at checkout to receive $100 off your registration.

If you loved this episode, please help get it to others by subscribing, rating the show, or sharing it with a friend! You can learn more about how to support Jay's work and the show at https://buymeacoffee.com/jaymoonfields

► Website: https://jaymoonfields.com
► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/heywaitwithjay/
► Books: https://www.amazon.com/less-lost-finding-yourself-ordinary/dp/B0FSDSG63B
► 1:1 Coaching: https://jaymoonfields.com/coaching
► LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jaymoonfields/

Have a question for the podcast? Send it in — it may be featured in a future episode.

This podcast was produced by Viv – First Click VA.
For collaboration or podcast support, contact: viv@firstclickva.com

Original Music produced by Dalton Grant