on this episode of live a little, nikki lilly opens up about something deeply personal she’s experienced for years, but never quite had a name for: limerence.

it’s more than having a crush. it's the obsessive overthinking, replaying conversations, analysing texts, searching for meaning in a look or a delayed reply, and feeling like you need to figure out exactly how someone feels before you can finally relax. for nikki, discovering the word “limerence” was a huge moment of recognition: suddenly, years of thoughts and feelings she’d dismissed as being “too much” started to make sense.

nikki talks about where this fixation comes from, how hypervigilance has shaped the way she experiences relationships and what she’s doing to break the cycle. From separating facts from the stories her brain creates, to learning to sit with uncertainty and asking “what is actually being offered?” rather than “what do they feel?”.

this is an honest conversation about fantasy, attachment, vulnerability and learning to live in the real world rather than inside your own head.

If you’ve ever obsessed over a text, replayed an interaction a hundred times, built an entire future around one tiny moment, or felt like you needed someone else’s feelings to feel okay - this one’s for you.

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