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Any married person will tell you, there's a huge difference between what you expect marriage will be like, and what marriage is actually like. For so many couples, the struggle is real as the "reality check" of marriage begins to unfold with each passing year. But while marriage may be hard, a healthy marriage doesn't stop there. Because by learning to journey through the hard things, you get the opportunity to experience the great things on the other side.

With a candid, yet compassionate, approach, licensed counselor and relationship expert, Debra Fileta, walks you through eight significant choices involved in taking marriage from hard to great. Throughout each chapter, Debra shares astonishing survey results from thousands of singles and married couples, revealing intimate details about things like love, sex, conflict, communication, and attraction. From her experience as a professional counselor and wife, Debra believes that a beautiful exchange occurs when spouses learn what it means to choose we before me.

Discover practical steps you can take on the hard, but great, journey of choosing marriage. Single or married, Choosing Marriage is the audio guide for you!

©2018 eChristian (P)2018 eChristian

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  • Jessica Smith
  • 04-10-18

Every couple needs to read this

Practical and Christ-focused advice for all stages of marriage - read it while you are single, newlyweds, struggling, celebrating, married for 40 years... something for everyone. Very encouraging.

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  • Jonathan
  • 02-05-18

Well thought out and full of good advice

Just to give perspective, I have read or listened to many dating and marriage books and one thing I really appreciate about Debra Fileta is that she discusses topics in a very balanced and full pictured way. I loved reading her book True Love Dates and was excited to hear that she was coming out with Choosing Marriage. Even though I am not married yet, I was convicted of different issues I see in my life and was encouraged to discover them and start dealing with them now instead of after getting married. This book goes to the core and helps discover heart issues that need to be healed to have a healthy and thriving marriage as well as talking through the misconceptions we often have of marriage and the actual reality of day-to-day life onced married. Marriage really is about making many choices of loving another even when you don't feel like it and also learning to discuss both of your needs with each other so you can both meet those needs in a balanced and healthy way. Both partners need to be on the same page and choose marriage. Very well written book! I will definitely add this to my books to re-listen to and would definitely recommend this to married couples, those who are dating, and singles.

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  • candace
  • 18-12-18

This book helped our relationship thrive!

it was fantastic! We'll definitely listen to it again. Before we listened to this book we were arguing multiple times per week for hours sometimes. Now that we've listened to it we actually are more graceful, empathetic and caring towards one another. I recommend it!!!

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  • Des H
  • 18-07-18

Amazing

This book was perfect and much needed!!!! I enjoyed learning more about marriage and found the book very informative, especially for someone newly married.

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  • Julie Smith
  • 20-02-21

We>Me

Such a great book! Practical counseling for a married couple. Wise counsel for a single person.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 29-07-20

Incredible...!

This book is Spot on and should be the endeavor of every married couple.. A marriage built and based on Gods principles will ALWAYS weather any storm. I am so very grateful that Debra points to so many supporting scripture as foundational Truth to support the text. Though I am in the middle of divorce - I am believing God for Divine Restoration. In marriage, 'WE' must ALWAYS be Greater than me. Thank you...

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  • Victoria F.
  • 06-08-18

Christian focused but has transferable nuggets

Central themes: regular and intentional communication, centering the relationship over self, and the "work" marriage entails.

Audience: Another theme is expectations going into marriage. Aside from married couples, I recommend the book to single people and couples who are considering marriage to address these expectations in advance.

The pros: The book seemed the best out of many options I looked at, but despite all my researching I missed that the book was published by "Christian Audio." I found most of the books on marriage were religiously focused so options were limited. As a non-religious person, I decided to give it a try and swap alternatives that resonate for me when the book was overtly Christian, ex. god = values, relationship with Jesus = moral compass. By doing that, there were many valuable nuggets of advice from the author that can be applied to non-secular relationships. Although the book has a conservative slant, the author incorporates a section on modern gender roles and also talks about sex in marriage.

The cons: The author talks about relationships beyond traditional gender roles, but still has a very conservative view of relationships and one based on a heteronormative perspective. She also talks about practices like avoiding personal relationships with people of the opposite sex and, even if she doesn't say it outright, implies premarital sex is a sin.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 15-06-18

must read if getting married. page Turner

Great book for anyone who is going to get married! Nice job deb. I really enjoyed.

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  • Lana Thomas
  • 15-05-18

Completely worth your time.

I am blown away by the truth and vulnerability of this book. Debra has so much experience and wisdom on this subject and I am so blessed by her work.

I plead for everyone to read this book whether your single or many years down the road in your marriage. There is always room to make God bigger and choose marriage. I’m recommending this to ALL o my friends. Thank you so much, Debra.

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  • Matthew Metcalfe
  • 01-09-19

If you’re engaged, read this!

My fiancé and I are about to be married. I wanted to learn more about marriage before stepping in and it has deepened my love and understanding for this beautiful covenant. Debra goes through all aspects of marriage - sacrificial love, learning to communicate, and most of all having Jesus at the center. My biggest takeaway is that marriage is not about me and what I get out of the relationship but learning to lay myself down for the one I love again and again and again, just as Jesus did for us.

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  • Elishia
  • 03-12-18

Perspective is everything

I loved this book. great conversation starter for me and my fiancé. would definitely recommend :)