Get Your Free Audiobook
-
How to Be Yourself
- Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety
- Narrated by: Ellen Hendriksen
- Length: 7 hrs and 44 mins
Add to cart failed.
Add to wishlist failed.
Remove from wishlist failed.
Follow podcast failed
Unfollow podcast failed
New to Audible Prime Member exclusive: 2 credits with free trial
How to Be Yourself
Buy Now for ₹134.00
No valid payment method on file.
We are sorry. We are not allowed to sell this product with the selected payment method
Publisher's Summary
How to Be Yourself is the best audiobook you'll ever listen to about how to conquer social anxiety.
"...a groundbreaking road map to finally being your true, authentic self." - Susan Cain, New York Times and USA Today best-selling author of Quiet
Up to 40% of people consider themselves shy. You might say you're introverted or awkward, or that you're fine around friends but just can't speak up in a meeting or at a party. Maybe you're usually confident but have recently moved or started a new job, only to feel isolated and unsure.
If you get nervous in social situations - meeting your partner's friends, public speaking, standing awkwardly in the elevator with your boss - you've probably been told, "Just be yourself!" But that's easier said than done - especially if you're prone to social anxiety.
Weaving together cutting-edge science, concrete tips, and the compelling stories of real people who have risen above their social anxiety, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen proposes a groundbreaking idea: you already have everything you need to succeed in any unfamiliar social situation. As someone who lives with social anxiety, Dr. Hendriksen has devoted her career to helping her clients overcome the same obstacles she has.
With familiarity, humor, and authority, Dr. Hendriksen takes the listener through the roots of social anxiety and why it endures, how we can rewire our brains through our behavior, and - at long last - exactly how to quiet your Inner Critic, the pesky voice that whispers, "Everyone will judge you." Using her techniques to develop confidence, think through the buzz of anxiety, and feel comfortable in any situation, you can finally be your true, authentic self.
More from the same
Narrator
What listeners say about How to Be Yourself
Average Customer RatingsReviews - Please select the tabs below to change the source of reviews.
-
Overall5 out of 5 stars
-
Performance5 out of 5 stars
-
Story5 out of 5 stars
- Lisa
- 22-05-18
"Life" Changing
First off, I don't write reviews. I don't have the time. But the audio version of this book has made me such a braver, better person, I felt compelled to add a review so it might help someone else like me. For once, I'm not afraid and I feel like I'm living and not just going through the motions. I chose this book because of the title. I do feel like a fake most of the time. Always saying or acting the way I think others would expect me too. I remember my Mom being hyper aware of how others viewed her and her family and I picked up on that and didn't even realize. I didn't know I had social anxiety, but every example in this book sounded like me. I don't sleep well because I'll wake up in the middle of the night replaying things I did during the day. Things I could have done or said better than I did. And then the stress kicks in and the next thing I know I've laid awake for two hours pondering something that should have not been given a second thought. This book made me aware of what I was doing and I am falling back asleep quicker than ever before. It also gave me several different tools to help overcome my negative thoughts. And for once, it's not unrealistic tools that don't work. For once, they are working. Now when I start to replay a scenario, I think about Ellen's "movie theatre" scenario. And if that doesn't work. I put my inner critic on trial. A bonus was her chapter on "how to make friends." I've always avoided relationships for fear that someone would find out I'm not who I really am. But now I feel compelled to connect with someone on a friendship level. I highly recommend purchasing the audio version of this book. Ellen does a phenomenal job narrating and I honestly feel like I was sitting in her office at times. But instead of paying $$$ for a therapy session, I got so much more by purchasing this book. If you ever feel awkward in any type of social situation, you must read/listen to the book. It's a game/life changer.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
74 people found this helpful
-
Overall5 out of 5 stars
-
Performance5 out of 5 stars
-
Story5 out of 5 stars
- Anonymous User
- 25-08-18
Best book on social anxiety I have come across!
loved it!! I came across this book at a very difficult time in my life. I have suffered from anxiety for 18yrs. That combined with hard situations in life I was at a very lost point. The stories in this book felt familiar and the lessons and advise felt real and tangible. I have started applying things I have learned in this book to the way I do and handle things and for the first time in a long time I truly feel better. I am not cured but after this book I feel more determined to learn more, live more and figure out how to work with who I am so I can finally live my best life. If you have Social Anxiety, read this book!!! Or listen to this book, just get it in asap so you can start your healing process.. I'm on my way and this book was a clear starting point for me!
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
37 people found this helpful
-
Overall5 out of 5 stars
-
Performance5 out of 5 stars
-
Story5 out of 5 stars
- Abed
- 14-01-19
Life-changing
I have always struggled with having a conversation, even with the closest people in my life. Funny enough, the only people I am quite confident talking to are my brother and sister who I have spent a lot of time with. But, yes, I fumble through conversations, trying to speak the right words and in the process sound gibberish.. which makes me more anxious and sweaty and freaked out. This book has literally pushed me out of my comfort zone and into what I dread the most, conversations. Midway through this book, I walked out of my room and struck a conversation with a student sitting in the lounge. I cared not how awkward I looked. It was the most eye opening, genuine conversation I have ever had in a long, long while. I can't wait to meet new people and challenge myself in the very situations that limited me in the past(rather it's I who limited myself)... As a matter of fact, I came out of it feeling AWESOME! I highly recommend this audiobook to anyone who has faced social anxiety in their life for whatever reasons. I would have loved to highlight my reasons for my anxiety now but I am learning as the day goes by. I will update this comment accordingly when I have established those reasons sufficiently.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
28 people found this helpful
-
Overall2 out of 5 stars
-
Performance1 out of 5 stars
-
Story4 out of 5 stars
- Anonymous User
- 09-05-18
Lots of filling
The useful information can be summed up in 2 pages but of course you need 200 pages to publish a book.
I recommend you to google "social anxiety treatment" and any of the first websites sums up all the useful information presented in this book
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
22 people found this helpful
-
Overall4 out of 5 stars
-
Performance4 out of 5 stars
-
Story5 out of 5 stars
- Katrina
- 06-06-18
Enjoyable listen about social anxiety
Just want to start off this review in response to a couple other reviews. I’m not too sure why they put that this book is trying to change introverts into extroverts, but there is a whole section on the difference between introversion and social anxiety and how being an introvert affects your social anxiety. The author even says she doesn’t want to change who you are as a person. She wants to help you overcome your anxiety.
This book was really eye opening in the sense of how many other people in this world have social anxiety. The author has great examples and some good suggestions to slowly challenge yourself to help overcome being anxious by confronting the problem head on and I look forward to trying them out. I would definitely recommend this book!
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
18 people found this helpful
-
Overall1 out of 5 stars
-
Performance1 out of 5 stars
-
Story1 out of 5 stars
- Oliver
- 05-02-20
dreadful narration
This may have been a good gook but after suffering through the first 20 min I had to give the book back due to the terribly annoying piercing voice of the narrator who happens to be the author.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
13 people found this helpful
-
Overall5 out of 5 stars
-
Performance5 out of 5 stars
-
Story5 out of 5 stars
- Margaret Gill
- 25-02-20
Best book on Social Anxiety ever!
This is by far the best book on Social Anxiety I have ever come across, and I’ve read quite a few! As someone with both a degree in Clinical Psychology and somebody who has dealt with Social Anxiety herself, I found this to be both enlightening and full of useful and practical advice.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
11 people found this helpful
-
Overall1 out of 5 stars
-
Performance2 out of 5 stars
-
Story1 out of 5 stars
- Kathryn
- 07-04-22
Cute
This writer is really sweet, but she's describing being anxious about having too much milk in her cart.
If you're anxious because of ptsd, or deep rooted shame, these tactics are overly simple. A lot of this doesn't resonate with me, because while she says anxiety decreases as we get older and stop caring, mine increased as I was exposed to more and more hurt and consequences. Her answer is to just go out there and see that it's not that bad... But that's why I'm like this. It is infact that bad.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
9 people found this helpful
-
Overall5 out of 5 stars
-
Performance5 out of 5 stars
-
Story5 out of 5 stars
- Kerry Young
- 30-07-18
Exactly what I needed
I’ve read several books on social anxiety, but of all of them, this one feels like it was written just for me. Ellen Hendriksen gets it. If you have social anxiety I highly highly recommend reading this book.
Before buying the book I read some comments about the author wanting to change introverts but that’s just not the case at all. I even looked for any indication that that’s what she was doing but couldn’t find it. I’m not quite sure where those comments are coming from so please don’t let that keep you from giving this book a shot.
Mrs. Hendriksen, thank you for writing this book. It’s everything I needed to hear and changed the way I looked at many things. Every chapter was perfect but the final chapter on popularity really struck me. I’m 37 and am not as concerned with popularity as I was when I was 16 years old but I teared up during that chapter. I’m planning to share it with my two children as, even in elementary school, popularity is already a concern.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
9 people found this helpful
-
Overall1 out of 5 stars
-
Performance1 out of 5 stars
-
Story1 out of 5 stars
- Linda
- 03-12-18
could not listen to the whole audio! so boring!
the audio book was so boring and unrelatable. the stories and the wau it was told was unbearably boring. The narrator voice was horrible. very disappointed
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
8 people found this helpful
-
Overall5 out of 5 stars
-
Performance5 out of 5 stars
-
Story5 out of 5 stars
- Mcehudson
- 11-04-18
A great read
Humorous, well written and scientifically based self help book. A great read for anyone who suffers from anxiety with lots of tools to help you get back on track. Loved it.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
13 people found this helpful
-
Overall5 out of 5 stars
-
Performance5 out of 5 stars
-
Story5 out of 5 stars
- Amazon Customer
- 11-02-19
Life changing listen!
After suffering with what I didn’t understand to be social anxiety for over 10 years. This book has helped to guide me towards a place I never thought I would find again. It has hit on many nerves and opened up a whole new world that I had shut myself away from.
I am sharing my learnings from this with others it’s a gift that keeps on giving.
Can’t thank the author enough! I feel like I have a second chance to live my life and be happy.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
8 people found this helpful
-
Overall2 out of 5 stars
-
Performance2 out of 5 stars
-
Story2 out of 5 stars
- Wendy
- 12-01-19
Uninspiring
Just started to listen to this
I thought it might be helpful for my daughter. So far it is so basic, it’s cringe worthy.
It probably gets better but I am not sure I have the incling to persevere.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
7 people found this helpful
-
Overall5 out of 5 stars
-
Performance5 out of 5 stars
-
Story5 out of 5 stars
- Dayana
- 04-05-18
Amazing book
All the way from the beginning to end of this book, I found amazing advices, relatable examples, interesting stories and very clear and comprehensive theoretical frameworks. The boom is read with a very cheerful voice and the message is delivered very positively. Bringing all these elements together helped me to fully understand the message and to easily apply the advices.
This book is great for everyone who wants to go out there and just be yourself with ease.
Huge well done to the author!
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
7 people found this helpful
-
Overall5 out of 5 stars
-
Performance5 out of 5 stars
-
Story4 out of 5 stars
- Phoebe
- 14-04-18
sooo relatable
what i needed to change my perespective on social anxiety and take away the stigma.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
7 people found this helpful
-
Overall1 out of 5 stars
-
Performance1 out of 5 stars
-
Story2 out of 5 stars
- alexandra varlot
- 21-07-19
Aggressive voice and pace and tone
I don’t like the voice, tone and speech of the reader . After 5 minutes I switched to another book . What a waste of my money
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
6 people found this helpful
-
Overall1 out of 5 stars
-
Performance1 out of 5 stars
-
Story2 out of 5 stars
- Anonymous User
- 11-01-21
This book increased my anxiety
I really wanted to love this book as from the reviews it sounded like it was exactly what I needed. I enjoy parties and large social events but I feel that in small groups or worse one on one conversations. my conversation is boring or I have nothing to say leading to me feeling awkward and overthinking what I say/said. I wouldn't say I ever had severe social anxiety but since listening to this book I have become hyperaware of every small situation many of which I had never even considered to be a socially awkward situation. I now spend 90% of my time analysing what I said or thinking about anxious behaviours such as blushing that I have never had before. I believe that for many people the methods in this book would work but for me it has just highlighted every aspect of social anxiety and I have found myself in a much worse position than before I listened to it. I really wish I had just been content with mild social anxiety as I was much happier before trying to find a solution.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
5 people found this helpful
-
Overall5 out of 5 stars
-
Performance5 out of 5 stars
-
Story5 out of 5 stars
- surreymum
- 17-10-18
Fully recommend - the best Social Anxiety resource I have come across
Having utilised many resources on the topic of social anxiety, this book is the first that really felt like it was talking to me. Dr Hendriksen’s relaxed and humorous approach made it very easy to listen to the audiobook and it is backed throughout by scientific research which makes the insights and tools extremely credible. It has helped me understand myself better and there are many “ah ha” moments throughout. It doesn’t claim to cure social anxiety and convert you to a confident extrovert, but to help you recognise and manage Social Anxiety and to stop it controlling aspects of your life. If, like me, you’ve struggled to find a resource that really helps you understand why you struggle to be yourself in group or social situations and how to deal with it, then I recommend this book.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
5 people found this helpful
-
Overall5 out of 5 stars
-
Performance5 out of 5 stars
-
Story5 out of 5 stars
- Anonymous User
- 09-02-22
be yourself
long but very usefull time spent...made me to see some things from different perspective.time to put things to practice👍
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
2 people found this helpful
-
Overall3 out of 5 stars
-
Performance3 out of 5 stars
-
Story3 out of 5 stars
- Zoë
- 07-07-19
Useful
How To Be Yourself is a useful and casual little guide through social anxiety. The narrator’s voice was wonderfully positive for a time, but became far to intense if listening for a long time!
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
2 people found this helpful
-
Overall2 out of 5 stars
-
Performance3 out of 5 stars
-
Story2 out of 5 stars
- Amazon Customer
- 20-10-20
Could be a lot shorter
Book could be 1/3 the length it is. Some good tips though. I don’t feel shortening the stories would take anything away from the underlying points.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
8 people found this helpful
-
Overall1 out of 5 stars
-
Performance2 out of 5 stars
-
Story1 out of 5 stars
- Anonymous User
- 23-08-21
Very basic
I’ve only listened to a few chapters in fairness. However, the author seems to be addressing the average Jo who’s just embarked on college / university. Tone is overly upbeat, simplistic and a lot of the light hearted garden variety scenarios are simplistic and not very relatable IMO. In summary, the presentation feels exactly like a pep talk from a well meaning youth leader at your local church. Better options include the book Loving Bravely.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
3 people found this helpful
-
Overall5 out of 5 stars
-
Performance5 out of 5 stars
-
Story5 out of 5 stars
- Anonymous User
- 25-08-20
What a pleasant surprise!
I wasn't sure what to expect but this book has literally saved my life! I have always struggled with social anxiety most of my life and always thought it was just me. After listening to this wonderful book, I now know that there is nothing wrong with me. This book gets straight to the point and offers great exercises that actually work and it is so funny! The author is very engaging and humorous. Loved every bit of it and will be listening to it over and over again :-)
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
2 people found this helpful
-
Overall5 out of 5 stars
-
Performance5 out of 5 stars
-
Story5 out of 5 stars
- Anonymous User
- 27-06-20
Wonderful
Fantastic book for anyone who feels insecure & struggles with forming relationships due to anxiety. Filled with wonderful anecdotes from the authors clients & tried & true evidence from the world of psychology focusing on social anxiety.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
2 people found this helpful
-
Overall5 out of 5 stars
-
Performance5 out of 5 stars
-
Story5 out of 5 stars
- Anonymous User
- 20-10-20
Thank you for this awesome book
Thank you very much for a book that described so much of my past and, in the three days I have taken to read it, is already helping to shape an improved future.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
1 person found this helpful
-
Overall5 out of 5 stars
-
Performance5 out of 5 stars
-
Story5 out of 5 stars
- Anonymous User
- 29-12-21
So relatable, feel understood, validated and empowered
Just amazing. It feels so good to be understood and to feel that things I’ve known all along really are supported by evidence. It is also really great to hear a psychologist talk about their personal experience with social anxiety, as I am a budding psychologist who experiences/experienced very difficult social anxiety. It has helped me to realise I can experience mental health difficulties to the degree I do and still help others. I would definitely recommend, and any book or anything else Ellen has or will publish I will definitely be reading :)
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
-
Overall5 out of 5 stars
-
Performance5 out of 5 stars
-
Story5 out of 5 stars
- Ashley
- 18-11-21
Highly recommend
This audible was amazing. Highly recommend it. Want to hear it again. Ellen narrated it perfectly, could relate to so many situations and puts everything into perspective!
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
-
Overall5 out of 5 stars
-
Performance5 out of 5 stars
-
Story5 out of 5 stars
- Anonymous User
- 09-11-21
So Insightful
Excellent book! This book personally made me relate to alot the struggles I have with anxiety. I found it so insightful too understanding the physcology behind it. Nor just with myself, but understanding others too. I was able to start identifying where I could improve and its given me confidence to make changes. Thank you!
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
-
Overall5 out of 5 stars
-
Performance5 out of 5 stars
-
Story5 out of 5 stars
- Anonymous User
- 16-08-21
Helped me get out of my head
This book is great for those with social anxiety, something that is all the more prevalent in these strange times. The book has several techniques to help you be more confident in social situations and I am grateful for this book
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!
-
Overall5 out of 5 stars
-
Performance5 out of 5 stars
-
Story5 out of 5 stars
- Kyle Oemcke
- 09-06-21
CHANGED MY LIFE
Brilliant book with practical tools. if only I had read this 20 years ago.
Something went wrong. Please try again in a few minutes.
You voted on this review!
You reported this review!