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It's Not You

How to Identify and Heal from Narcissistic People

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It's Not You

Written by: Ramani Durvasula
Narrated by: Ramani Durvasula
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Brought to you by Penguin.

INSTANT NEW YORK TIMES AND SUNDAY TIMES BESTSELLER

From clinical psychologist and expert in narcissistic relationships Dr Ramani Durvasula, discover the inspiring guide to protecting and healing yourself from the daily harms of narcissism.

REDISCOVER WHO YOU ARE AFTER YEARS OF INVALIDATION

Dealing with a narcissist is hard.

One day their confidence and charisma pull you in, the next day they gaslight, wreck your self-confidence and leave you wondering what you could have done differently. Clinical psychologist and narcissism expert Dr Ramani is here to help.

Drawing on more than 20 years of studying, teaching and helping people navigate the challenging landscape of narcissism, It’s Not You will show you how to:

  • Spot the tell-tale signs of a narcissist
  • Confront toxic cycles
  • Protect your energy
  • Create realistic boundaries
  • Reclaim and embrace your true self


Packed with expert tips and detailed advice, this book will equip you with the tools to stop blaming yourself, regain your power, heal and take back your life.

'A compassionate road map and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships' Jay Shetty, bestselling author of Think Like a Monk and The 8 Rules of Love
‘A must read. Dr Ramani will teach you how to heal from any toxic relationship’ Mel Robbins, bestselling author of The Let Them Theory

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Critic Reviews

“A compassionate roadmap and survival guide for people in narcissistic relationships, helping them understand how to heal and thrive during and after these challenging relationships.” - Jay Shetty
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Thank you Thank you Thank you. Dr. Ramini. You help so many decode the journey to decode and heal.

This book can save your life.

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The different types of narcissism explained and the dependency factor it creates on a victim. the subtle nuances of a narcissist are explained very well.

Terrifically Explained

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Dr. Ramani has excavated and built a safe space for all sufferers of narcissistic abuse, where others have not even dared to venture.

She lays out all the excuses and devaluating behavior that the reality of what it is to suffer in these kinds of relationships.

This should be on the must listen/read list of anyone looking for resources to educate themselves about how to overcome and reach the other side

A must for anyone who suffers from self doubt

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I found it very useful and helpful in my journey towards knowledge and healing.

A must for people stuck in narcissistic relationships.

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This book gives you strength and as it starts from her self experiences gives the author the authenticity and further being a professional she has been very kind but clear for certain misconceptions and false hopes which people may have developed imagining one day everything will be alright
For me as I relate with the section when you have to stay in such a relationship was really helpful. Thank You Doctor Ramani.

The practical approach and nowhere giving you false hope of everything will be alright touched me for the honesty of the author.

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