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No More Mr. Nice Guy

A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life (Updated)
Written by: Dr Robert Glover
Narrated by: Dr Robert Glover
Length: 6 hrs and 49 mins
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Originally published as an eBook that became a controversial media phenomenon, No More Mr. Nice Guy! landed its author, a certified marriage and family therapist, on The O'Reilly Factor and the Rush Limbaugh radio show. 

Dr. Robert Glover has dubbed the "Nice Guy Syndrome" trying too hard to please others while neglecting one's own needs, thus causing unhappiness and resentfulness. It's no wonder that unfulfilled Nice Guys lash out in frustration at their loved ones, claims Dr. Glover. He explains how they can stop seeking approval and start getting what they want in life, by presenting the information and tools to help them ensure their needs are met, to express their emotions, to have a satisfying sex life, to embrace their masculinity and form meaningful relationships with other men, and to live up to their creative potential.  

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Nice guys finish last in the real world

Makes you think about your own beliefs. Don't be nice, read this book. It's worth it.

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Impressive

A guidebook for life. I managed to understand and loved it. The chapters could have been broken down into a considerable few minutes. Coz each chapter is way too long to complete and feels less motivated to listen and listen.

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This book helps Understanding myself better..

This book changed my opinion/view about myself. I have been a nice guy as for as I know. I don't tell my pain to people when their words hurt me, assuming that, bearing pain is a symbol of maturity. I have been allowing people to hurt me with words again and again, and Dont tell them, because I think I supposed not to tell them, if I love them. This book will help you find more about you and your relationships..

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simply fantastic!!

This is undoubtedly one of the best self help books I've ever read. I could see myself everywhere in it. it's as though this book was written just for me!!

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good one

highly recommended...It really helped me in my life.. I used to be nice guy.... and now I'm improving nice guy...

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one of the best self help books ever written

thank you for giving this piece of great wisdom
it is surely helping me in life to overcome several challenges in life

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Light for life wonderful love changing book

words can't describe
it. amazing book. it's truly life changing.
5 words remaining 😅😅 Cm punk

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entirely changed my perception.

it's an amazing book if you are looking to find yourself the true yourself not the Mr nice guy

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Must Read for Nice Guys

The narrator gives good examples of how nice guys act. All the things he said was relatable to my own traits

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Good one!

A must read for every nice guy! Precise and direct. Repetitive at times but worth every moment and dime

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  • 05-02-18

literally fixed me

I struggled to find the answer to why my marriage failed and my ex girlfriend cheated on me. the book cured me of my condition. real help inside. actionable and practical.

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  • Charles Mckeever
  • 25-03-18

Nailed me right between the eyes

As a 46 year old male, ex-Marine, and self professed “nice guy” I finally understand that all this time, I have been causing my own pain. It hasn’t been my career, my spouse, my friends, my environmental conditions. The common factor in all those things has been me. No more Mr. nice guy described many of my own internal feelings like someone was reading my mind. Things that I’ve never told anyone. Now that I have clarity on these issues, I now have a way to work through them to be set free. I’ve already applied some of the techniques with immediate results. Mainly because the change started with me, which then encouraged positive responses from others. So basically, now I’m in the process of reviewing all of my thoughts and actions to challenge and change the defaults. If you even think this book might help you, take a chance. I did and I’m so very thankful to the author.

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  • The Adventure Medic
  • 26-10-18

Life Changing

Every man needs to read this book. Period.
It's everything you missed growing up, and everything you need to be a happier and better man than you ever thought possible.
There's no clearer way to say this, do not skip this book. It literally saved my life, my relationships, and opened the door to a life I never dreamed was possible for me.

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  • Utilisateur anonyme
  • 09-08-18

Only for nice guys!

Overall, this book tries to explain the origin of the nice guy and why he acts like he does. Some good excercises to help overcome nice guy syndrome, but I only recommend this book if this is your first read on the topic.

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  • Bjorn Thorkelson
  • 30-12-17

Practical guide for people pleasers

This book really resonated with me. It details many of the reasons and solutions for overcoming toxic shame. This is the updated version of the book. I’m not sure if the previous version had a pdf, but this one doesn’t. Tough to practically implement the recommended exercises without that.

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  • Justin Cain
  • 29-01-19

amazing book

listened to it multiple times. cant say enough about how its helped me, in my personal and professional life. this contained innumerable revelations about why I do the things I do, and how to better myself in those situations.

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  • David Rivera
  • 16-01-19

dissatisfied with life? buy the book

exellent book! it helps you see, how you in childhood from not getting your needs met, adapted to patterns of not making a lot of trouble, not asking for things and putting other people needs before your own (to deserve love, attention or whatever you need ), and how that's making it difficult getting your needs met as an adult.
it forces you to see your darker, disfunctional sides and how you sabotage for yourself. it's hard and felt heavy sometimes, but in the end I think it's worth it.
it encourages you to seek support and help from safe people, therapist or join a support group, to help you through your problems and help you get your needs met. there are 45 different exercises with questions to help you see and change your behavior. I will listen to this book again and do all of them. thanks for a great book!

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  • david rocabado
  • 06-08-18

Very insightful...

Upon listening to the book, I listened the sample and from there it started describing certain things that made sense in describing the type of person I may be. So now I want to learn more in which I did, but it definitely takes another listen. So much information about what you can learn from being too passive and explains just enough for you to understand ways to control your niceness. I'm hoping to learn more the second time around, so I can better understand myself and how I treat others... thank you!

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  • Bernardo C
  • 11-08-19

This book is mind blowing!

I will definitely be doing a reread while taking notes.
It has help me recognize and understand why I do certain actions. I am also learning to apply techniques to counter these problems to live a happier life.

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  • MatthewFF
  • 04-07-18

This book changed my life

Absolutely the worst best thing to ever happen to me. Finding this book saved my life. If you have ever been called a nice guy too much or consider yourself a nice guy read this book!

The first chapter was a punch to the gut and a knee to the face. my world was turned upside down immediately for the better. don't take my word for it. Get this book!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 30-08-18

for guys really struggling maybe... for others no.

this book is for guys who are really struggling in their relationship and life. I'm talking about guys who aren't allowed to go out, have the missus control the purse strings, have a dominant partner that treats then like shit etc. It endorses alot of support groups, 12 step groups etc

I bought this book to try and get some tips on how to say "no" to people at work and be a little more assertive... it focussed too much on a male being not too strong in his relationship at home and didn't really focus on work (although I'm sure transferable).

there is some good aspects of the book, but I felt 90% just wasn't applicable to my situation.

For: guys who are having trouble getting what they want at home (their own time, speaking up etc)

Not for: guys who feel their relationship at home is good, but feel they could do with some more assertiveness.

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  • Saundg
  • 04-12-18

Conflicted

I have to say that I am somewhat conflicted about this book. On one hand I found some of the personal observations ‘spot on’, but I could not relate to any of the supposed causes of the ‘Nice Guy’ syndrome. I think the root cause analysis is far to simplistic and not really based on current scientific thinking on how our personalities are formed. That said, their are some nuggets to be found in the section ms on self sabotaging behaviour

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  • 23-05-18

Game Changer

I didn’t know what to expect from the book, but it helped me realise who I am and I can make big changes in my life now. A really helpful listen.

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  • Lyndsey
  • 31-01-19

every man needs to read

this is an amazing book for both men and women an eye opener and a new happy life

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  • Anonymous User
  • 17-03-18

A turning point in my life.

The same as what the author/narrator states, every chapter will resonate with the 'nice guy'.
The author has had enough experience dealing with nice guys to be able to hit on alot of signals associated with the issue to which i was not prepared for. To say he knows my deep seated issues is an understatement.
Quality of narration and subject knowledge is top class.
If you want to get the most out of this audio book, do not take this as a fleeting past time that you listen to on the way to work for 15minutes; dive into it head first, set a few hours aside regularly to do the activities and dig down deep to confront all the shit and sort out all that preprograming that is holding you back.

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  • ChuzzyChu
  • 14-11-19

I learned so much about myself in this book...

Dr. Robert Glover did a phenomenal work in researching and penning this book to help men get out of their own way.

I discovered and learned so much about myself which I didn't like, I also realised things I have been doing that hasn't been serving me for years. But most importantly, I love that Dr. Glover also gave recommendations on how I could overcome my shortcomings a live a more powerful and super successful life as a strong man... Even in today's gyno-centric world.

While reading the book, I was already taking some of its recommended actions, and I already started liberating myself from discomforts about sex, talking about sex, and expressing myself more powerfully to the opposite sex.

I highly recommend this book to every man, even if you think or believe you're an alpha male. A lot of my friends identified me as an alpha male from my secondary school days, but this book spoke to me deep in my gut, and I learned a lot - for which I'm eternally grateful to Dr. Glover for.

Once again, this is a highly recommended read to every man.

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  • Dreamer
  • 28-11-18

Sensible Observations

The book details a (male child's) defective self development at childhood and how it affect his choice of spouse and subsequently his conduct in the relationship by passing on the buck, when in reality the man uses pkeasing behaviour to cover up for his short coming , and sonehows sees the other person as the issue, despite the man (child) best effort ar deceptive an overt pleasing behaviour. The pleasing behaviour is includes but is not limited to the following. Buying his partner gifts, helping with house work and generally doing whats expected of a (beta male) or man child

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  • Dave Blundell
  • 08-09-18

The best book a man can read!

Where do I start? After trying to find a cure for struggling with life and love. Having read books on self help, spirituality and the meaning of life this book diagnosed me 100%. Yep I am a Nice Guy! This was like reading my own life story.... because it was! I read this book open mouthed and amazed, after 50 years of hell I now know the problem that has been my constant curse. I owe Robert Glover a debt of gratitude, because now I can hopefully become a "Man" and not a "Nice guy" anymore. If you're a male out there struggling in life and love and never getting to where you think you deserve to be you have to read this book. In fact I think every man needs to read this book to stop and to halt the nice guy/half man plague that has afflicted the male population. BUY THIS BOOK YOU WILL NOT BE SORRY 10/10

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  • Joe Bloom
  • 24-11-18

Probably the most important book I have ever read

See your relationships for what they are/were. This book shows you how you have a nice guy mentality that in fact causes more problems, insecurities and manipulation within you.

Just read this damn book, and then read it another 3 times.

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  • Gabriel
  • 01-02-20

The best book I've ever read.

This book changed the way I look at the world, definitely worth reading it.

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  • Thadeus
  • 02-07-18

Absolute Godsend!

I was one of those guys many years ago, 10 yrs in the same job too scared to start my own business. After listening to this I started training in Muay Thai at age 28. It was one of the best things I ever did for myself. My confidence exploded. Left my job, started my own business, married the girl of my dreams.

Sadly once married I slipped back into Nice guy / AFC / Beta guy tendencies. My business failed, marriage failed and here I am almost 10 years later starting over again.

The takeaway is once you break out, don’t stop doing the stuff recommended in this book that got you out. It’s so easy to slip back in.

Go time!!

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  • Anonymous User
  • 30-08-19

From a woman’s perspective.. from my perspective

I wish that I had had the benefit of listening to the Wisdom of this content. Listening to some parts of the book make me realise how cringeworthy some of my behaviours have been to past partners and raising my son.
I would encourage men and women to listen to this content and glean what is relevant to your life and relationships. It will undoubtedly improve some aspect(s) of your current relationships.
And the best part .. you don’t lose any down time listening to Audible which keeps me on task when driving and undertaking my chores. 💕

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  • Antonino
  • 29-07-18

life changing.

I feel like the book was written based on my life. would definitely recommend to other people

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  • Anonymous User
  • 22-07-18

Life Changing

Initially, I wasn’t sure if this book was for me. If I could get something out of it that would be great, but instead it really hit me with some home truths that will transform my life in all areas

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  • Michael
  • 01-06-18

Thank you.

This book was a well deserved & overdue slip in the face. Thank you so much.

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  • Val
  • 22-02-18

a must read for all blokes

absolutely blew my mind
I never felt so understood before and it answered so many nagging feelings I've had within myself

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  • Anonymous User
  • 21-05-20

Truly thought provoking. Prepare for reflection.

Not only does the material in the book give you comfort that you're not the only one experiencing this, but it lays out actionable steps to move towards becoming the man you've always wanted to be. Couldn't recommend it more highly.

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  • Anonymous User
  • 18-05-20

Realistic, Relatable and Refreshingly Honest

As a "Recovering Nice Guy", I cannot recommend this book highly enough. In a society where men's issues are shoved under the carpet and men seeking their personal identity are crushed under the weight of innumerable mixed messages, this book is a unique source of clarity and genuine support. Dr Glover unflinchingly tells it how it is - this book is not about becoming Captain America. It is not about dominating others or changing the world around us. It encourages us to take ownership of our own attitudes, values and behaviours in the challenges of everyday life. And by so doing, learn the art of self-respect.

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  • jared
  • 02-04-20

<br />Great great great

This book will help nearly anyone lay foundations to give them a rebirthing that they may need

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  • Ken Metz
  • 19-01-20

A gem

Found this book to be VERY helpful. This is for real , from a psychologist who has been on the journey that “nice guys” like me desperately needed to travel. Author has a website with additional podcast materials for sale addressing specific issues in more detail. Well worth the price. Has literally changed my life !