Dominique is heading to business school this fall to pivot from PR and communications into venture capital, and she wants to know: How do I turn my non-traditional background into a differentiator instead of something I have to explain away?

This week on Please Advise, the call-in show of Becoming You, Suzy knows exactly how Dominique feels. When she arrived at Harvard Business School in 1986 as a Miami crime reporter, nobody wanted her in their study group. Suzy’s non-traditional background made her an outsider, until it didn’t. Suzy shares how she turned that outsider status around, then looks at Dominique’s Values Bridge results and finds something that changes the way she answers the question.

Then Suzy gets to the question Dominique actually asked, with advice for anyone making a career pivot: Stop leading with your resume, and tell your own story, values, aptitudes, and interests included.

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Is this the best town in the world, or do you need to get out of here? For some people, there’s only one answer, and it’s never negotiable.

This week on Becoming You, Suzy skips the scholar and brings in someone who lives the value of Place, which is the value of location, out loud: Fabrizio Brienza, the “Door God” who decides who gets into Paul’s Casablanca, one of the hottest clubs in New York. Born in Campobasso, Italy, and shaped by Miami and Los Angeles, Fabrizio is clear that after New York, everywhere else feels like going from a Rolls-Royce to a Toyota Corolla. Yes, with the rats and all.

In this latest installment of a 16-part series on the values that drive how we live, Suzy tells the story of how Place became a gatekeeping value in her scientifically-validated assessment, The Values Bridge: Where you live is one of the first things to figure out before you plan anything else.

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How long can you hold your breath? That's what it feels like when you're not living one of your top values: like being underwater, searching for a surface you can't see.

This week on Please Advise, Suzy talks to Michelle, an architect and firm partner in her early 40s with three kids in first, second, and third grade. Michelle took the Values Bridge last year and found the results transformational, but one thing surprised her. Her top values are a tie between Eudemonia (wellbeing, self-care, balance) and Beholderism (a love of beautiful things), yet work has always felt central to her life. Her question: can work or family be how you live your values, even if they aren't values themselves?

Then Michelle shares a number that stops the conversation: a 72% Authenticity Gap on Eudemonia, which is the distance between how much she wants to live that value and how much she actually does. Suzy's rule of thumb is that anything over 50% means the house is on fire.

Why is the gap so big, and what closes it? Suzy's diagnosis comes from a value Michelle barely mentioned, and the prescription is surprisingly doable.

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