Episodes

  • Exploring the Deep Waters

    Exploring the Deep Waters
    Feb 16 2026
    In this soul-stirring episode, Harinder invites listeners to venture beyond the surface of their daily lives and dive into the ‘deep waters’ of their own psyche. Using the evocative metaphor of diving for pearls, Harvinder explores the internal treasures, talents, gifts, and memories that often remain buried due to childhood conditioning or societal expectations. The episode serves as a gentle yet powerful call to reclaim one’s sovereignty by acknowledging every part of the self, including the shadows. KEY TAKEAWAYS We often present an edited version of ourselves to the world based on what we were told as children, that we were ‘too much’, ‘messy’, or ‘shameful’. True sovereignty is defined as putting your arms around all of yourself: what you like, what you don't like, and what you don't yet know. Many avoid their inner depths out of fear of what they might find, but without exploring these ‘caverns’, we never truly know who we are or what we are capable of. The journey inward is rarely logical; it is driven by emotions like curiosity, sadness, restlessness, or a longing for unanswered questions. Connecting with the ‘shadow self" allows for the release of suppressed energy and memories stored in the body, leading to a more colorful and fully realised life. BEST MOMENTS "Am I really living a full life? Do I really know all that I'm capable of? Do I know what treasures, what gifts, what talents I have that have always existed within me?" "I feel that we have a responsibility to know ourselves … to return to our sovereignty." "If I don’t take a torch down into my deep water, if I don’t take a light and explore those caverns, then what do I really have? What do I really know about who I am?" "The greatest love affair we have is with ourselves." "By understanding our own self more thoroughly, of course it’s going to change our relationship to the world." VALUABLE RESOURCES Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630 HOST BIO I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job. With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities. This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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    15 mins
  • Opposing Values

    Opposing Values
    Feb 9 2026
    In this episode, Harinder explores the paralysing feeling of being ‘stuck’ or oscillating between two seemingly contradictory choices. Using her personal journey with money as a case study, she discusses how she previously held ‘Freedom’ and ‘Hard Work’ as opposing values, believing she had to sacrifice one to achieve the other. Harinder shares the pivotal moment she decided to unify these values, visualising a reality where they co-existed, and how this internal shift led to an immediate external opportunity. KEY TAKEAWAYS Feeling ‘stuck’ often stems from oscillating between two values we perceive as opposites (e.g., freedom vs. hard work), creating a situation where we feel we must sacrifice something important to move forward. Instead of choosing ‘either/or’, we can choose ‘and’. By asking ourselves if seemingly opposing values can both be true, we stop creating false dichotomies that limit our potential. The universe acts as a mirror; when we resolve our internal conflicts and align our beliefs, external opportunities often present themselves almost immediately. The brain does not distinguish between an imagined reality and the real thing. Allowing yourself to deeply feel the emotions of your desired reality (where your values are unified) is a powerful tool for manifestation. If an area of your life isn't moving or feels like a struggle, it is likely a reflection of an internal misalignment. Looking inward to find where you are diametrically opposed to yourself is the first step toward freedom. BEST MOMENTS "I can't make a decision because I feel that I might be giving up something for something else." "What if both of those qualities can be true, are true? And because I've separated them out, I'm creating the 'either/or' scenario, not the 'and.' “ "Our brain doesn't know the difference between an imagined reality and the real thing." "It was that simple. And what had taken so much effort before and hadn't worked out was suddenly possible, suddenly happening." "It's always a reflection of what's going on on the inside. And what bits have we cast out of ourselves, that require that reunification?" VALUABLE RESOURCES Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630 HOST BIO I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job. With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities. This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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    17 mins
  • Cosy Comforts

    Cosy Comforts
    Feb 2 2026
    Today, Harinder and Alicia explore the theme of ‘Cosy Comforts’. Together, they dive into the sensory experiences that bring us peace, from the warmth of a blanket on a rainy day to the emotional safety found in a loved one’s embrace. Harinder and Alicia discuss how ‘escapism’ can actually be a grounding form of self-care and share personal stories about family, childhood memories, and the simple rituals that help quiet the mind. KEY TAKEAWAYS Creating a cosy moment is often a premeditated act of self-love. It is about consciously choosing to relish an experience without guilt. Allowing yourself to ‘escape’, whether into a K-drama or by staring out a window, can be a way to centre yourself, affirming that you are safe enough to let your mind wander. You don't need to be in your living room to find peace; comfort can be found in a busy train station, a coffee shop, or even just by looking up at the sky. Just as we seek safety, we can become a source of stillness and security for the people we love, creating a beautiful, mutual cycle of care. Children are experts at identifying and demanding exactly what they need to feel safe, reminding adults that it is vital to recognise and honor our own needs for comfort. BEST MOMENTS "It's very much a place we go to, to relax, take it easy... melting, being able to let go, feel safe and secure." "There's no guilt involved. It's something that you are consciously doing to love yourself, to say, 'Yeah, you know what? I count.' Let me do something that's going to be fun for me." "Just allowing myself to fully be physically. I know that I'm in a safe enough place that I can go and do that with my mind." "There's a portable cosy memory, a memory you have you could use to bring you back to that cosy and safe space." "For me to feel that he feels so anchored and so still, there's a huge benefit to our health when we experience something like that." VALUABLE RESOURCES Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630 HOST BIO I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job. With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities. This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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    19 mins
  • Spirit and The Wound

    Spirit and The Wound
    Jan 26 2026
    In this episode, Harinder explores the profound duality between our ‘wound’, the pain and limiting beliefs stemming from childhood and past trauma, and our ‘spirit’, the eternal, authentic self connected to divinity. Harinder delves into how our wounds often drive us to seek external validation through relationships or material possessions, creating a cycle of scarcity and dissatisfaction. In contrast, she illustrates how connecting with our spirit allows us to experience universal abundance, peace, and wholeness. KEY TAKEAWAYS Our wounds typically stem from childhood experiences and redundant programming, manifesting as limiting beliefs, triggers, and a constant sense of lack or neediness. The spirit represents our authentic, immortal self, deeply connected to divinity and the universe, existing purely in the present moment without the burdens of the past or future. Operating from the wound creates a transactional mindset focused on filling a void (scarcity), whereas operating from the spirit reveals an innate sense of completeness and universal love (abundance). Attempting to heal internal voids with external things, like shopping or relationships, is a temporary fix that fails to address the underlying feeling of incompleteness inherent to the wound. Healing isn't about ignoring the wound but enveloping it with the spirit's love. By connecting to the body, breath, and nature, we can shift from reactive pain to a state of wholeness and gratitude. BEST MOMENTS "Our wound typically comes from our childhood experience. It's an old redundant program that keeps on running unless we check in on it, unless we build some sort of awareness or consciousness to it." "With the spirit, we're accessing divinity through the present moment, and there is no past, there is no future. We're just in the now." "I think the biggest difference for me is that the wound comes from angst, anxiety, fear, envy, jealousy, anger, whereas with the spirit, simply, it comes from a place of love." "It almost feels like it's a transactional thing. 'I feel that I have a perceived hole in me that I'm incomplete, and therefore I need something to fill that.'" "With the spirit, I'm already complete. I don't need anything. I'm already in a place of love." VALUABLE RESOURCES Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630 HOST BIO I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job. With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities. This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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    12 mins
  • Resistance and Possibility

    Resistance and Possibility
    Jan 19 2026
    In this episode, Harinder explores the paradox of resistance, how our efforts to keep ourselves ‘safe’ and comfortable often drain our energy and block the flow of life's possibilities. Using powerful metaphors like a boulder in a river and the game kerplunk, Harinder illustrates how focusing entirely on what we don't want can inadvertently stop everything else from flowing in. She invites listeners to rethink surrender not as giving up, but as an act of acceptance that opens the door to infinite potential and new outcomes we might never have imagined. KEY TAKEAWAYS When we put all our focus on preventing a specific outcome or circumstance, we drain our mental and physical energy, leaving little room for anything else to enter our lives. While resistance is designed to keep us safe and maintain the status quo, it can also trap us in a cycle of limited possibilities, preventing growth and new experiences. By fixating on what we ‘don't’ want (e.g., avoiding a certain type of person or outcome), we unintentionally block the flow of positive alternatives that could surprise and delight us. Surrender isn't about defeat; it's about accepting the possibility of an unwanted outcome to release the fear and control that binds us, allowing life to flow freely again. Instead of using imagination to terrify ourselves with ‘what ifs’, we can use it to visualise acceptance and openness, redirecting our energy toward outcomes we truly love. BEST MOMENTS "Resistance for me, simply put, is not allowing something to exist. We're just not ready to allow that in." "If I put all of my energy and my focus on what I don't want, it stops everything. It stops the flow." "We might be successful in stopping the possibility of that happening, but because it takes so much energy from us, it potentially also prevents other energy from flowing as well." "Surrender is allowing for the possibility of something to happen that is potentially not what I want, but I'm being in the allowance of that." "Just leaning into the universe having our backs, letting go of the reins and allowing it to be."
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    14 mins
  • Stir The Pot

    Stir The Pot
    Jan 12 2026
    In this episode Harinder and Alicia explore the intriguing concept of 'stirring the pot'. They delve into how external influences and interactions with others can stir up our emotions, beliefs, and memories, often leading to unnecessary angst. Through personal anecdotes and relatable examples, they discuss the importance of recognising our own power in shaping how we feel about ourselves, rather than allowing others to dictate our emotions. KEY TAKEAWAYS The concept of "stirring the pot" symbolises how external influences and interactions with others can disrupt our internal state, bringing unresolved emotions and beliefs to the surface. It's essential to recognize that we often give away our power to others by allowing their opinions and actions to dictate how we feel about ourselves. Taking control of our self-perception is crucial for emotional well-being. Understanding our emotional wounds and how they affect our reactions is vital. Being aware of these wounds helps us navigate interactions without being overly influenced by others' perceptions. Taking a moment to pause before reacting can provide clarity and perspective. This pause allows us to assess our feelings and responses, leading to more thoughtful and constructive interactions. Life is a mix of chaos and stillness. Acknowledging that both movement and calm coexist can help us navigate emotional turbulence, allowing us to breathe through challenges and maintain a sense of balance. BEST MOMENTS "Stirring the pot creates a disruption. Whatever had settled - mostly memories, beliefs, thoughts, feelings - suddenly gets into motion." "We place so much power behind what people think, how someone else feels, that's their own choice." "If we can just focus on our own selves, it makes things a lot simpler, and you know you're just accountable for yourself." "Stirring the pot isn't necessarily a bad thing, it's an opportunity for us to double-check that something I've always believed is still valid." "We are too quick often to jump to our autopilot. That one-second pause can provide us with all the panoramic perspective we require." VALUABLE RESOURCES Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630 HOST BIO I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job. With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities. This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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    25 mins
  • My Creation, My Baby

    My Creation, My Baby
    Jan 5 2026
    In today's episode, Harinder reflects on the emotional journey of creation, and takes a look at the process of bringing ideas to life. She shares her personal experiences of doubt, vulnerability, and the joy of creation, likening the act of creating to giving birth. Harinder emphasises the importance of appreciating the intimate connection we have with our creations before they are exposed to the world and its judgments. She encourages listeners to cherish their creative journeys and to recognise that their relationship with their work is deeply personal, independent of external validation. KEY TAKEAWAYS Creating something new involves a complex emotional journey, including feelings of doubt, frustration, and joy. It's important to acknowledge the range of emotions experienced during the creative process. While creations can be seen as separate from the creator, there is a deep personal connection to the work. This bond is akin to a mother-child relationship, where the creator has invested love and energy into bringing the creation to life. Before seeking external feedback, it's beneficial to take a moment to appreciate and savour the creation. This internal reflection helps reinforce the personal significance of the work, independent of others' opinions. The importance of recognizing that external opinions do not define the value of a creation. The relationship with one's work is deeply personal and should not be overshadowed by the judgments of others. Creators hold the authority over their work, and remembering this can help alleviate the pressure of seeking validation. The love and intention behind the creation are what truly matter, regardless of external feedback. BEST MOMENTS "What kind of meaning do we attach to our creations? Many books will talk about the fact that our creation is separate from us. I think I would probably agree with that." "Whenever we do that, it may be subject to opinions, projections, people having thoughts about it that are different to yours." "The reason I would create anything, if it's from a pure place, would be for its own sake, for no reason, just because I felt like it." "It feels very much like a mother giving birth to a child. All that love and energy poured into the embryo that grows into a child." "Our connection to what we create is deeply personal and has nothing to do with what people think about it or put on it." VALUABLE RESOURCES Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630 HOST BIO I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job. With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities. This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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    13 mins
  • What Would I Love for Myself Now

    What Would I Love for Myself Now
    Dec 15 2025
    In this episode, Harinder and Alicia consider the transformative question, "What would I love for myself now?" They explore the importance of self-reflection and the power of choosing joy in everyday life, especially during challenging times. Alicia shares her personal journey of seeking clarity and the impact of allowing oneself to pause and consider personal desires, while Harinder emphasises the significance of small, joyful moments. KEY TAKEAWAYS The importance of asking oneself, "What would I love for myself now?" can help pivot from negative emotions and lead to greater clarity about personal desires and needs. Acknowledging and being kind to oneself is crucial. Simple acts like taking a nap or enjoying a cup of tea can significantly improve emotional well-being and foster a sense of joy. Life is a continuous journey where clarity and purpose can evolve over time. It's essential to take small steps without the pressure of having everything figured out. Reflecting on what others might think can reveal how much power we give away to external opinions. Recognising this can help reclaim personal agency and focus on what truly matters to oneself. We always have the choice to pivot towards joy and fulfilment, regardless of circumstances. Embracing this choice allows for a more conscious and intentional approach to life, leading to a more joyful existence. BEST MOMENTS "One of the things I've been practicing has been exactly this question, what would I love for myself now? To gently move me out of my current emotional state into something that is of my choosing." "When you actually pose it as, wow, what would I love for myself now, it totally changed the question. We don't pause long enough to ask what is it we would like ourselves." "Sometimes it's just that first step that will allow other things to happen. We don't have to have everything figured out." "This is about those projects that are heartfelt, that you really want to do from a space of, this is true for me to participate in." VALUABLE RESOURCES Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/harinderkv LinkedIn - www.linkedin.com/in/harinder-virdee-73a54630 HOST BIO I am Harinder. Having worked closely with people from all over the world professionally in a corporate setting and since, carving out my own path in the past few years. I am an illustrator, artist and designer. I use intuitive creativity and my leadership skills for transformational coaching. I also create tools for personal and team development. Not new to podcasting, I have previously co-created a mini podcast series called How to Land Your Ideal Job. With this podcast series, I wanted to share my life learnings particularly during the fallow period of life when my life’s direction has not been clear and I’ve had to dig deep below the various identities I had collected and assumed to reconnect with who I really am. Digging through the proverbial lead to share golden nuggets of insight. I hope to take people on mellow belly button contemplations that lead to questions for self inquiry and open up new imagined possibilities to new realities. This Podcast has been brought to you by Disruptive Media. https://disruptivemedia.co.uk/
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    28 mins