After a breakup, it's common to hear advice telling you to "reconnect with yourself" and "build your self-worth." But knowing what to do and knowing how to do it — or whether it's actually helping — are very different things.

In this episode, I explore why so many people feel stuck after a breakup, even when they're doing everything they're told should help. We look at what happens when self-worth has historically come from external validation, why breakups can feel like a loss of identity, and how the nervous system seeks reassurance when emotional safety is suddenly removed.

I talk about why healing doesn't always feel better straight away, how to recognise whether your efforts are genuinely supporting you, and how to tell the difference between discomfort that's part of growth and patterns that may be keeping you stuck. This episode also explores how self-worth is rebuilt through self-trust, emotional self-containment, and learning to stay with yourself during difficult emotions — rather than outsourcing them.

This conversation is for anyone who feels lost after a breakup, questions whether they're healing "correctly," or wants a deeper understanding of what rebuilding self-worth actually looks like in real life.

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Starting over can feel like failure — especially after a breakup, divorce, or major life change. We tell ourselves we've wasted time, that we're behind, or that we should have tried harder to make it work.

In this episode, I'm reframing the idea of starting over and exploring why it feels so heavy — and how it can actually become one of the most liberating and clarifying seasons of your life.

We talk about the sunk cost fallacy, why staying just because you've already invested so much keeps people stuck, and how the meaning you attach to "starting again" shapes your future far more than the circumstance itself.

This episode is for anyone who feels ashamed about having to begin again, feels rushed by comparison, or is struggling to let go of a past they thought would last forever.

• Why starting over feels like failure — and why it isn't

• How the sunk cost fallacy keeps people stuck in relationships that no longer serve them

• The difference between learning from the past and ruminating on it

• How lessons can turn into wisdom — or emotional weight

• Why the belief that you're "behind" creates panic and poor decisions

• Letting go of timelines, comparison, and external pressure

• How starting over can actually be a sign of self-trust and alignment

• Practical ways to approach a new chapter without rushing or settling

Starting over doesn't mean you failed.
It means you're listening.
It means you're integrating what you've learned instead of repeating it.
And it means you're choosing to move forward with more awareness, clarity, and self-respect than before.

If you're in a season of rebuilding — after a breakup, divorce, or identity shift — this episode will help you reframe where you are and reconnect with the power of the present moment.

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After a breakup, everyone tells you to "find yourself" — but what does that actually mean? And more importantly, is it even the right question to ask?

In this episode, I'm breaking down why the whole concept of "finding yourself" after a relationship ends might be setting you up for frustration, and what you should focus on instead.

In this episode, we cover:

• Why "finding yourself" is the wrong framework (and what to ask instead)
• The neuroscience of heartbreak — why breakups feel like physical pain and why separation is so difficult
• How relationships create neural coupling and nervous system co-regulation (and what happens when that suddenly stops)
• The difference between losing yourself and becoming enmeshed — and why women are particularly vulnerable to this pattern
• Why the standard advice (yoga, journaling, solo travel) often becomes performative rather than transformative
• Values archaeology: Whose values have you actually been living? How to trace back what's truly yours vs what you inherited
• Desire mapping: How to relearn what you actually want when you've spent years accommodating others
• Boundary experimentation: Small steps to reclaim your space without isolating yourself
• Integration work: What becomes possible now that wasn't before? How to take everything you've learned and consciously choose what to keep
• The Emily in Paris example: How exposure to new experiences reveals parts of yourself that were always there but never had room to exist

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