• The Double Bind of Confidence & Guilt in Modern Motherhood - with Lauren Currie OBE
    Jan 14 2026

    In this episode of Challenge Your Guilt, I’m joined by Lauren Currie OBE - social entrepreneur, author, activist and founder of Upfront, a global movement supporting women and marginalised genders to build confidence, take up space and feel braver together.

    I’ve admired Lauren’s work for a long time, because so much of what she explores - confidence, visibility, shame, shrinking and self-censorship - sits right at the heart of the maternal guilt conversations I have with mothers every day.

    In our conversation, we explore how guilt and confidence are deeply interconnected, and how many women - particularly mothers - are trapped in a cultural double bind where confidence is encouraged in theory, but punished in practice.

    Lauren explains why women don’t “lack confidence” - and how living in a system that penalises confident women leads many of us to avoid conflict, over-function, and take responsibility for everything and everyone. The result? Guilt, exhaustion and a constant sense of not being enough.

    In this episode, we talk about:

    • Why the so-called “confidence gap” is systemic, not personal
    • How women are praised for being accommodating, but punished for being assertive
    • The double bind that keeps mothers stuck between being too much and never enough
    • Why guilt often feels safer than conflict - and what that costs us
    • Lauren’s idea of “runaway guilt”, and how low confidence erodes boundaries
    • How motherhood intensifies guilt even when you intellectually “know better”
    • What it looks like to notice guilt without letting it run the show

    Lauren also shares honestly about guilt in her own motherhood journey - from early working-mother guilt, to the emotional pull between ambition, presence and rest - and how she now meets guilt with awareness rather than self-attack.

    We also talk about Lauren’s children’s book Taylor Meets the Trick, and how giving families simple language to name patriarchy can remove shame, defensiveness and silence - not just for children, but for adults too.

    I close by asking Lauren one question I return to often on this podcast:
    What is one small act of courage a mother could take this week if she’s feeling stuck in guilt, self-doubt or invisibility?

    Her answer is deceptively simple - and incredibly powerful.

    🔗 Links & Ways to Connect with Lauren

    If this conversation resonated and you’d like to explore Lauren’s work further, here are the best places to find her:

    📲 Follow Lauren on Instagram:

    Lauren Currie (personal account)

    Taylor Meets the Trick (children’s book)

    Upfront (confidence & community)

    Lauren also writes regularly on LinkedIn and Substack, and I know she’d genuinely love to hear what landed for you from this episode.

    📚 Books Mentioned in This Episode

    Taylor Meets the Trick
    A playful, powerful children’s book that gives families simple language to talk about patriarchy, gender roles and “the trick” - without shame or blame.

    Be Upfront: 24 Rules for Life-Changing Confidence (published February '26)
    Lauren’s first non-fiction book, distilling over a decade of confidence-building work into practical, culture-shifting insights.

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    46 mins
  • Laughing Through the Guilt: Motherhood, Mental Health & Finding Freedom in Humour - with Alyssa Kyria (aka @thefunnymummyuk)
    Dec 17 2025

    What if laughter isn’t just a coping mechanism for motherhood - but a quiet act of resistance against guilt and shame?

    In this episode of Challenge Your Guilt I'm joined by comedian, actor and creator of the much-loved Instagram account @thefunnymummyuk, Alyssa Kyria. Known for her razor-sharp parodies and unfiltered honesty, Alyssa shares the story behind her work, her experiences of maternal guilt, and why humour has become one of her most powerful tools for survival, connection and self-compassion.

    Together, we explore guilt in all its messy forms - from working motherhood and being a parent of an only child, to phone addiction, mental load, screen guilt and the pressure to look like you’re coping. This is a conversation about honesty over perfection, empathy over shame, and why laughing at the chaos might just help us put some of the guilt down.

    Warm, funny and deeply validating, this episode will leave you feeling less alone - and very likely laughing along.

    What We Cover in This Episode

    • Alyssa’s journey from actor and character comedy to @thefunnymummyuk
    • Why becoming a mother changed how she shows up creatively
    • Maternal guilt through the lens of having one child
    • The guilt of working, touring and missing key moments
    • Mental health, burnout and the pressure to always appear “fine”
    • Why curated social media feeds fuel maternal guilt
    • Phone addiction, boundaries and the impact on family life
    • Screen guilt, mental load and modern motherhood
    • How humour helps dissolve shame and restore connection
    • Laughing at ourselves as a form of emotional resilience
    • Alyssa’s upcoming podcast Cringe & Tell and future projects

    Key Takeaways

    • Guilt shows up no matter how many children you have - there is no “right” way to mother
    • Shame thrives in isolation, but laughter creates connection
    • You are not failing - you’re responding to impossible standards
    • Humour can help us step out of self-judgement and into compassion
    • Being honest about the hard parts of motherhood matters

    Find Alyssa online:

    • Instagram & Facebook: @thefunnymummyuk
    • Website: https://alyssakyria.com/

    Links & Resources

    • Buy the book: Challenge Your Guilt: How to Flourish in Motherhood, Work and Life
    • Apply for a free Motherload Breakthrough Call with Belinda
    • Subscribe to Belinda’s weekly newsletter for reflections on motherhood, work and guilt

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    45 mins
  • Maternal Guilt, Identity Loss & Rewriting the Narrative Through Creativity - with Vicki Broadbent
    Dec 9 2025

    In this rich & energising conversation, I'm joined by writer, multi-award-winning blogger & long-time flexible working campaigner Vicki Broadbent - known to many as @honestmum - whose digital career began after leaving her role as a screenwriter & TV director when motherhood collided with an inflexible industry.

    The author of Mumboss and Greek Myths, Folk Tales & Legends, Vicki has built one of the UK’s most recognisable digital platforms while raising her three children - & advocating for mothers’ rights, visibility & creativity along the way.

    We explore how guilt showed up in Vicki’s early years of motherhood, how identity loss & creative reinvention shaped her path, & what 15 years online has taught her about women’s voices, misogyny, stigma, & the pressures mothers still carry today.

    What we cover:

    ✨ The early career pivot that wasn’t really a choice

    Vicki shares how the TV & film world made it almost impossible to combine directing with raising a baby - & the subtle (and not-so-subtle) stigma she faced for becoming pregnant at 27 in a male-dominated industry.

    ✨ The constant undertow of mum-guilt

    We discuss guilt as the “side dish of motherhood” - from being physically separated from your child for work, to trying to work around them at home, to the emotional whiplash of being endlessly stretched, responsible & tired.

    ✨ Flexible work: blessing or burden?

    Vicki shares how working digitally gave her more presence with her children - but also came with increased expectations & mental load, reinforcing gendered roles even when both partners wanted equality.

    ✨ Fathers, stigma and the pressure to “provide”

    We discuss how stigma, financial norms & patriarchal expectations also constrain fathers - keeping equality stalled & mothers overloaded.

    ✨ The mental load and the quiet crisis of modern parenthood

    From crying in the car after drop-off to the exhaustion of juggling kids, care, work, after-school clubs & emotional labour - Vicki names the hidden strain so many parents carry.

    ✨ The culture of comparison & social media’s influence on maternal guilt

    We talk candidly about how curated feeds, beauty standards, pressures on girls, & toxic masculinity messages shape how children grow up - & how mothers feel.

    ✨ Creativity as the thread back to yourself

    Vicki shares how blogging, writing & storytelling helped her rebuild a sense of identity after traumatic birth & career upheaval - & why creativity is still her anchor.

    ✨ Her new book: Greek Myths, Folk Tales & Legends

    Vicki explains the emotional & ancestral pull behind retelling Greek stories for a modern audience, how she researched & reimagined characters, & why writing this book was unexpectedly grounding & healing.

    Links

    • Buy Vicki’s book: Greek Myths, Folk Tales & Legends
    • Connect with Vicki: @honestmum
    • Buy Belinda’s book: Challenge Your Guilt
    • Apply for a free Motherload Breakthrough Call
    • Subscribe to the Flourishing Mother newsletter

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    45 mins
  • Raising Children in a Broken World - with Siobhan Strode
    Nov 25 2025

    In this episode, I'm joined by Siobhan Strode - writer, campaigner, business owner, and mother of three - for a raw, wide-ranging conversation about the evolving nature of mum guilt and what it means to raise children in a world that can feel increasingly fractured.

    Together we explore:

    • How guilt shifts across the seasons of motherhood - from toddler tantrums and TV time to teenage independence and phone boundaries.
    • The transition from employment to self-employment, and how freedom and flexibility can both ease and amplify maternal guilt.
    • Why guilt isn’t a personal flaw but a systemic issue rooted in patriarchal expectations and the undervaluing of care.
    • The challenge of mothering in a broken world - climate crisis, global conflict, and social injustice - and the deeper “existential guilt” that many parents feel.
    • Raising socially conscious, compassionate children through honest conversations, empathy, and action.
    • Finding hope by nurturing imagination, community, and collective change.

    This is an honest, moving, and ultimately hopeful dialogue about guilt, grief, privilege, and purpose - and how mothers can model both empathy and agency for the next generation.

    Connect with Siobhan Strode
    👉 siobhanstrode.com
    👉 Instagram @siobhan.strode

    Work with Belinda Jane Batt
    💬 Book your free Motherload Breakthrough Call
    — a pre-coaching conversation for mothers ready to reflect and take action.
    📖 Buy Challenge Your Guilt: How to Flourish in Motherhood, Work and Life

    📰 Subscribe to the weekly newsletter

    🎧 Listen to previous podcast episodes

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    52 mins
  • The Perfect Mother Myth: How Society Shapes Our Guilt – with Dr Sophie Brock
    Oct 22 2025

    Why do mothers feel guilty no matter what we do?

    In this episode, I’m joined by Dr Sophie Brock – sociologist, motherhood studies expert, and one of the biggest influences on my own work – to explore how maternal guilt isn’t a personal flaw but a product of the world we’re swimming in.

    Sophie introduces her powerful Fish Tank of Motherhood model, explains the roots of the Perfect Mother Myth, and shows how guilt, privilege, and social expectations intersect to shape our daily experience of mothering.

    We talk about the difference between mothering and motherhood, why “good enough” is healthier than “perfect,” and how small acts of self-care and rebellion can help mothers reclaim space, joy, and self-worth.

    If you’ve ever wondered why it feels impossible to get motherhood “right,” this conversation will change how you see guilt – and yourself.

    🎧 Listen now, and let’s start dismantling the myth together.

    📖 You can also read more in my book Challenge Your Guilt: How to Flourish in Motherhood, Work and Life.

    👉 And if you’re ready to go deeper, apply for a free 60 minute Motherload Breakthrough Call – a pre-coaching conversation for mothers ready to reflect and take action.

    💌 Or subscribe to my newsletter for more reflections and resources each week.

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    42 mins
  • Breaking the 9–5 Trap: How Flexible Work Reduces Mum Guilt - with Amy Grilli
    Sep 27 2025

    What if your career could fit within school hours instead of forcing you to choose between work and family?

    In this conversation, I’m joined by Amy Grilli, co-founder of The Five Hour Club, a platform that connects parents with meaningful professional roles that fit between the school run. Amy shares how her own identity crisis at the school gates led her to create a community and job board that’s now helping thousands of parents globally.

    We explore:

    • Amy’s story of stepping away from her teaching career, the loss of identity she felt, and how a viral LinkedIn post (40 million views in 14 days!) kick-started a movement.
    • Why traditional 9–5 work doesn’t fit with family life—and the systemic issues behind it.
    • The link between rigid working structures and maternal guilt.
    • How flexible five-hour workdays help parents reclaim their confidence, purpose, and reduce guilt.
    • The importance of boundaries: carving out work time without letting “fake flexibility” spill over.
    • Sharing the mental load at home and tackling “maternal gatekeeping.”
    • What employers can do differently—and why progressive organisations are already seeing the benefits.

    This is a hopeful episode for any mother who feels stuck between wanting to work and being the default parent. Amy’s story proves you’re not alone—and that change is possible.

    Connect with Amy & The Five Hour Club

    • Website: fivehourclub.com
    • Instagram: @fivehourclub

    Resources & Next Steps

    • Buy my book: Challenge Your Guilt: How to Flourish in Motherhood, Work, and Life
    • Book a free call with me to explore how coaching can support your next steps
    • Subscribe to the podcast so you don’t miss future episodes

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    42 mins
  • Rest Loudly and Release the Guilt with Anna Mathur
    Aug 26 2025

    Welcome to the very first episode of Challenge Your Guilt!

    I couldn’t imagine a better guest to start this journey with than Anna Mathur — psychotherapist, bestselling author, mother, and someone whose words on guilt have shaped my own work.

    In this episode we explore:

    • Why mothers so often believe we’re the problem — and how to flip that script.
    • How to ask, “Have I actually done anything wrong?” when guilt strikes.
    • The power of practicing self-compassion instead of bullying ourselves with the inner critic.
    • Why it’s vital to “rest loudly” and model rest for our children.
    • Making the invisible load visible in relationships, and having honest conversations about resentment.
    • Anna’s practical ACT tool (Address, Compassion, Tweak) to move through guilt.

    This is a conversation packed with wisdom, laughter, and lightbulb moments to help you dismantle guilt and step into a more flourishing motherhood.

    Links & Resources:

    1. Find Anna on Instagram: @annamathur
    2. Check out Anna’s new book: The Good Decision Diary
    3. Buy my book: Challenge Your Guilt: How to Flourish in Motherhood, Work and Life
    4. Book your free 60 minute Motherload Breakthrough call with me here

    ✨ If this episode resonated, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with a mother who needs to hear that guilt was never hers to carry.

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    42 mins