You don’t have to choose between being present and building your future.

You’re home with your family and you want to enjoy it. But you’ve also got goals, a job, and a life you’re trying to create. Focus only on the present and nothing moves. Focus only on the future and you miss what’s right in front of you.

This episode breaks down how to hold both by being grateful for the future you’re creating, before it shows up.

In this episode:

• Tony Robbins’s three places to put your focus: the past, the present, and the future
• Why a client’s positive vision “felt fake,” and why his worst-case scenario was just as made up
• The question Tommy asked a CEO who studied meditation for years before returning to corporate life
• Joe Dispenza’s idea that gratitude is the ultimate state of receivership
• The study where only the grateful group chose to wait for the bigger reward
• How gratitude shows up as patience in your business and with your kids

Mentioned: Episode 22 (Clean Up Your Past so You Can Crush Your Future), Episode 23 (How to Better-Leverage Your Future), Episode 118 (You’re Busy, But Not Going Anywhere), and the Joshua Tree trip

Takeaways:

• Focusing on regret and second-guessing the past rarely brings the fulfillment you’re after.
• The present is where fulfillment and appreciation live.
• Your worst-case scenario is just as made up as your best-case one, so pick the one that helps.
• Feeling good didn’t make people more patient. Feeling grateful did.
• Write down what you’re grateful for right now, then what you want to create, and be grateful for that too.

Be grateful for where you are. Be grateful for where you’re going. Then notice how much less rushed you feel.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

JOSHUA TREE TRIP

To be the best version of you, you need time and space to clear the head and create the vision.

In this bonus ep, we lay out the full day-by-day plan for our Joshua Tree trip and explain why we built it to create both adventure and a real plan for the year ahead. We also break down how the training, accountability, and group talks work so you can show up confident and leave sharper.

• Arrival flow from Palm Springs and why the first night matters

• Daily rhythm of workouts, meals, and structured group talks

• Ryan Mountain as the sunset warm-up hike and a gear test

• Quail Mountain as the big headlamp summit day and how we manage safety, layers, and pacing

• Sauna and cold plunge as optional recovery tools

• Three-month training plan with weekly hikes, a scrimmage hike, and strength work for hiking durability

• Bi-weekly coaching calls plus WhatsApp accountability and support

• What’s included on the trip and what you need to book yourself

If you have questions and are interested in the trip, shoot us an email, info@tommygcoaching.com, or check out the trip page here.

Or you can find the link to the trip website in the show notes.

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap

Some life changes come with a party and a clean finish line, but most don't.

Becoming a dad, watching your kids grow up, going from the guy you were in your twenties to the man your family needs now. Without a marker, part of you stays stuck in the old version. Craig Speer is back to talk about transitions and a simple framework for actually closing them out.

In this episode:

• What the Yosemite hike taught us about becoming a team
• Why falling back on old habits under stress is a sign you haven’t transitioned fully
• Grief as a tool, and how Marie Kondo can help
• The 5-minute family ritual that closes out summer
• Shutting down the workday so you actually walk into the house as dad
• Why hard challenges mark the shift from who you were to who you’re becoming

Takeaways:

• If you don’t name the transition you’re in, you’ll keep living like the old version of yourself.
• Thank the immature you for what it gave you, then let it go.
• Resentment builds when you never let go of what you lost.
• A marker doesn’t have to be big. A slideshow at the dining room table counts.
• Decide who you are now, then build the habits to stay there.
• This isn’t linear. You’ll slip back. That’s why accountability matters.

Every season ends whether you close it or not. Close it on purpose.

Joshua Tree — Free Live Info Call
Thursday, Oct 22 · 8pm ET / 5pm PT

Craig and I are taking a group of men to Joshua Tree. We’ll do a sunrise hike to the top of Quail Mountain, a warm-up hike on Ryan Mountain, daily workouts, cold plunge and sauna.

On the call, we’ll walk through the route, the training plan and the full itinerary.

Save your seat → https://joshuatree2027-info-call.netlify.app/

Stop Losing Your Temper Road Map

This roadmap will teach you how to have more patience.

To give your kids more time and attention.

Anger isn't your fault, but it is your responsibility.

Learn how to manage it so it doesn't get the best of you.

https://www.tommygcoaching.com/roadmap