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Finding Fertility

Finding Fertility

Written by: Monica Cox
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Most women aren't infertile. They're dealing with fertility issues. There's a difference.

And when you stop over-identifying with a diagnosis that was never the whole picture, that's when things can start to change. Most "infertility" advice starts with one assumption: something is wrong with your body.

Your eggs aren't good enough ... hormones are off ... you're too old ... nervous system dysregulated .... inflammation is too high. So you need a better diet, more supplements and another round of IVF. You keep overdoing and searching for the thing you haven't fixed yet, until one day you look at your life and can't even remember when you entered infertility hell.

I'm Monica Cox. After eight years of fertility issues, miscarriage, failed IVFs and being told I couldn't improve my situation, I improved my egg quality, had an IVF baby and then got pregnant naturally at 36.

What I discovered changed everything:

Your body isn't the problem. The internal environment your body has been living in is.

The cellular health of your whole body — not just your fertility bits. The patterns, subconscious beliefs & the identity that's been built around the struggle. That's the conversation nobody was having. And it's the conversation that can change how you move toward your ultimate goal: getting and staying pregnant.

Finding Fertility is for the woman who's done everything right and is exhausted from wondering what she's still missing. We go deep on egg quality, unexplained infertility, IVF, holistic fertility, nervous system health and what no fertility panel can fully measure: the patterns running the show that seem normal because they feel like you.

No miracle protocols, toxic positivity or pretending you can mindset your way into pregnancy. Just the honest, sometimes confrontational conversation your body has been waiting for you to have.

Copyright 2019 All rights reserved. Alternative & Complementary Medicine Hygiene & Healthy Living
Episodes
  • Fertility Burnout: The Hidden Pattern Nobody Talks About During IVF & Infertility

    Fertility Burnout: The Hidden Pattern Nobody Talks About During IVF & Infertility
    Jul 17 2026
    You know what nobody tells you about the fertility journey? That the woman doing everything right, the one who's researched every protocol, optimised every habit, and shows up perfectly every single day, is often the most stuck. This episode is different. No blackboard. No graphics. Just Monica, her eye patches, a pile of clean laundry on a semi-dirty floor, and one of the most honest conversations she's ever had on this podcast. Because the laundry isn't about the laundry. And the fertility journey isn't about the protocols. It's about the emotion underneath all of it that you've been avoiding, again and again, because feeling it is so much harder than just doing more. In this episode Monica gets raw and vulnerable about her own buffering, her own patterns, and the four stages of awareness that actually move the needle when you've already done everything right and you're still stuck. In this episode you'll discover: The four stages of awareness that create real, lasting change in your fertility journeyWhy awareness and understanding alone aren't enough — and what the missing action phase actually looks likeWhy there is no quantum leap without first sitting in the uncomfortable emotions blocking youWhat clean laundry on a dirty floor has to do with your fertility (seriously)Why the Type A identity you've been glorifying is contributing to the chaos in your bodyHow changing the emotion connected to an event literally changes your cellular realityWhy most people stop just before the stage that actually shifts everything Timestamps: 00:00 — Welcome to Finding Fertility01:02 — Why Monica is folding laundry in her pyjamas and what inspired this episode01:59 — Why she's been buffering and struggling to articulate this next phase of her work03:28 — The knowledge is out there — why Monica's work has had to evolve beyond information04:20 — When clients knew more than she did and what that revealed05:18 — Observing yourself in real time — what true awareness actually looks like06:17 — The four major stages of this work (awareness, understanding, emotion, action)07:43 — Why most people stop before the action phase and what that costs them08:39 — Stop adding knowledge — start calling yourself out with grace09:34 — The clean laundry story and why the Type A identity was running the show10:33 — How you get through what you want to change (it's not one session)13:55 — There is no quantum leap without sitting in the fire first14:51 — Why the people who make it look easy spent years sitting in the uncomfortable15:22 — It's not the laundry. It's the emotion towards the laundry.16:16 — What happens to your stories and emotions when you actually do the work17:10 — When quantum leaps are real and when they're bypassing18:08 — From AIP diet prison to eating lasagna again — what actually changed19:12 — Where to start. Right now. Today.19:36 — Closing reflection and leave a review 📖 Read the full blog post: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/fertility-burnout-the-hidden-pattern-nobody-talks-about-during-ivf-infertility Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.
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    20 mins
  • Doing Everything Right But Still Not Getting Pregnant? Here's Why [Infertility & IVF]

    Doing Everything Right But Still Not Getting Pregnant? Here's Why [Infertility & IVF]
    Jul 10 2026
    Link to YouTube video & Blog post :: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-you-keep-repeating-the-same-fertility-struggles-even-after-doing-everything-right-infertility You're doing the yoga, protocols, inner child work & meditations. You've read every book, listened to every podcast, tried every supplement. And you're still stuck. Still not pregnant. Still wondering what the hell you're missing. This episode is for the woman who is doing everything right and still not getting the result she deserves. Monica breaks down the framework she's been living and observing for years — why knowledge alone will never be enough to shift your fertility, and why the unconscious and subconscious patterns running through every cell of your body are the real reason you keep cycling through the same loops. This isn't about adding another thing to your list. It's about finally understanding why the list isn't working. In this episode you'll discover: Why smart, high-achieving women are often the most stuck in their fertility journeyThe difference between collecting knowledge and actually changing your patternsWhy your unconscious and subconscious beliefs live in your body, not just your mindThe role of radical honesty, radical awareness, and radical responsibility in shifting your fertilityWhy cellular health and energetic work are not either/or — and why doing one without the other keeps you stuckWhat it actually means to take contradictory action and why it's the scariest and most essential step Timestamps: 00:00 — Welcome to Finding Fertility01:02 — Why you feel stuck even when you're doing everything right01:32 — Monica's personal story and how she started observing these patterns04:45 — The type A burnout cycle and what finally woke Monica up05:13 — The quick fix nobody can actually do (and why)05:39 — Your unconscious beliefs don't live in your mind — they live in your body07:29 — You don't need to be perfect — the real goal is enjoying your time here07:58 — Your default frequency: where it comes from and why it was never yours08:58 — The cycle most people stay stuck in and what keeps them looping10:26 — Why we avoid going deeper and what that costs us11:53 — Radical honesty, radical awareness, radical responsibility12:53 — The danger of hyper-independence and rejecting support13:51 — Neurons that fire together wire together — and you have decades of rewiring to do14:48 — Your body is always fighting for you, even when it's fighting the wrong battle15:15 — Why woo-woo work alone won't shift your human patterns16:09 — The 3D game: why cellular health still matters alongside energetic work17:35 — What happens when you actually sit with your subconscious instead of avoiding it18:02 — Mind AND body — you can't energetically bypass a physical issue18:32 — The first step: denouncing what was given to you that was never yours19:31 — You are not on the timeline they sold you21:56 — Closing reflection and leave a review Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.
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    23 mins
  • Why You're Still Not Pregnant Despite Doing Everything Right | Infertility, Failed IVF & Egg Quality

    Why You're Still Not Pregnant Despite Doing Everything Right | Infertility, Failed IVF & Egg Quality
    Jul 3 2026
    Link to Youtube & Blog Post: https://www.findingfertility.co/blog/why-you-re-still-not-pregnant-despite-doing-everything-right-infertility-failed-ivf-egg-quality In This Episode Why "doing everything right" can still keep you stuck How cellular health affects fertility and long-term health My personal IVF, miscarriage, and natural pregnancy journey Why subconscious work isn't just affirmations The hidden patterns that quietly keep you stuck How awareness—not more information—is what changes your life What if the reason you're still struggling isn't because you need more information? In this episode, I share one of the biggest shifts that's happened in my own work over the last year. After spending more than a decade teaching fertility, I've realized that knowledge alone doesn't create transformation. Most women I work with already know what to eat, what supplements to take, and what lifestyle changes they "should" be making. The real question is: Why aren't those things changing your reality? Using a simple timeline, I walk you through the way I now understand fertility, health, and life itself. We explore how your cellular health, inherited patterns, nervous system, subconscious beliefs, and identity all interact to shape the life you're living today—and why healing isn't about becoming perfect. It's about changing the direction you're moving. I also share my own fertility story, from two failed IVF cycles and recurrent pregnancy loss to eventually becoming pregnant naturally after being told my egg quality couldn't improve. More importantly, I explain why that wasn't the end of the journey. Because having the baby wasn't the biggest transformation. Becoming aware of the patterns that had been running my entire life was. 00:00 – Welcome to Finding Fertility 01:00 – Why I'm moving away from teaching and toward awareness 03:55 – My fertility story begins: what eight years of infertility taught me 05:20 – The timeline that changed everything: cellular health vs. simply getting older 08:00 – My first failed IVF and refusing to believe there was "nothing I could do" 10:30 – The fertility line: why improvement happens long before success 11:50 – Discovering immune issues, inflammation, and the gut connection 13:15 – My first pregnancy after years of infertility 15:10 – IVF success, miscarriage, and the natural pregnancy I never thought was possible 17:30 – The biggest lesson wasn't fertility—it was my subconscious patterns 19:25 – Why high-achieving women plateau despite doing everything right 21:20 – "How do I actually change?" 21:45 – Why affirmations work for some people—but not everyone 25:55 – The emotional blocks and identity patterns keeping you stuck 27:10 – "But what about women who do nothing and still get pregnant?" 29:10 – Doing vs. Being: the trap so many women never see 30:35 – Consistency creates evidence: rewiring your nervous system and subconscious 31:25 – Final thoughts Book a Fertility Breakthrough Session Today : https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation If this episode resonated with you, I'd love if you left a review. Every review helps another woman discover this work and reminds the algorithms that awareness matters just as much as information. Let's Do This Together 💚 Monica Instagram: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityIG YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@findingfertility TikTok: https://bit.ly/FindingFertilityTikTok 🌺 Book Your Fertility Breakthrough Session Today here: https://calendly.com/findingfertility/discoveryconsultation?month=2022-10 🎙 Subscribe on your favourite podcast platform:⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Apple: http://bit.ly/FINDINGFERTILITYAPPLE⁣⁠⁣⁣⁣ Stitcher: http://bit.ly/FindingFertilitySTITCHER Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/0BMtwCvdyR4aJyfSfcKh6i 🍍HELP SUPPORT THE SHOW🍍 You can shop for your favourite fertility support products over on: Seeking Health:https://bit.ly/FFSeekingHealth & Amazon:http://bit.ly/FindingFertilityAmazon Anything written or said about health and diet are my opinions, that I have formed over the years, through trial and error, study, reading, listening and observing. What worked for me, may not work for you. I am not a doctor, nutritionist or dietician and all medical advice should be gotten from a qualified professional. Product recommendations are based on what I used during my infertility journey or wish I had.
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    32 mins
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