You’ve tried to cut off the fruit, but the root is still there. In this episode of the Free From Porn Podcast, Richard Young goes through John 8:43–44, where Jesus calls the devil “a liar and the father of lies.” He shows how every bad behavior grows out of a lie you believe.

Many Christian men believe Jesus and still hold on to the enemy’s lies. “I’ll always be an addict.” “Sin doesn’t really hurt me.” “I’ll never be enough.” “I’m not worthy of love.” These lies bring guilt, shame and condemnation. They stir up your emotions until you want to escape, and that escape often leads back to porn. You aren’t in the flesh anymore, and you aren’t sold under sin. When you believe you are, you keep doing the very thing that’s destroying you.

In this episode:

• Why behavior comes from what you believe, and why “the truth will set you free” (John 8:32)
• How the enemy uses guilt, shame and condemnation to work on your emotions
• Why walking in the Spirit (Galatians 5:16) is living from your new heart, not trying harder
• A key question to ask the Holy Spirit: What lie is leading me into this behavior?
• A guided prayer asking God to show you the lies about your worth, your value and your salvation so you can reject them and walk in the truth

Freedom starts when you live from forgiveness, because living from forgiveness is living from the truth.

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Freedom is your new normal.

What if your past was gone and tomorrow never showed up? How would you live today?

This week, Rich starts something new: three episodes in one week. He kicks it off with a story about Sir William Osler, the celebrated physician who said he wasn’t a genius at all. His secret was living in “day-tight compartments.” Osler borrowed the image from an ocean liner’s watertight bulkheads. Shut the iron doors on yesterday, shut them on tomorrow, and you’re safe for today.

Jesus taught it first: “Give us this day our daily bread.”

For men fighting for freedom from pornography, this changes everything. Guilt, condemnation, and shame drag yesterday’s mistakes into today. Anxiety pulls in fear of a future that hasn’t happened yet. Rich explains how to stop carrying both, and why the answer isn’t to fight your thoughts. You notice them, set your mind on what’s in front of you, and trust that God’s grace is enough for today.

In this episode:

• Osler’s famous Yale speech on day-tight compartments
• How “daily bread” teaches us to live one day at a time
• Why your mind is the only place your past mistakes still live
• What to do when your mind keeps offering guilt and fear: watch it, don’t wrestle it
• A closing prayer for today’s manna, no more and no less

Freedom is your new normal, one day at a time.

“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.” (Proverbs 23:7)

When life squeezes you, whatever is inside comes out. If you’ve been fighting porn by managing behavior (keeping your phone out of the bedroom, cutting out the doom scrolling), you’ve been working on the fruit and leaving the root alone. In this episode, Richard Young looks at Proverbs 23:7 and shows that the real battle is in what you believe about yourself.

The enemy is the father of lies, and every bad fruit in your life grows from a lie you’ve accepted as true. You might believe “I’m not worthy of love,” “I’m worthless,” or “I’m the sum of everything I’ve ever done.” Those lies hide in plain sight, and they keep you going back to porn to numb yourself. Richard explains how to find the lie, remove it, and replace it with the truth of what Jesus has already done for you.

In this episode:

• Why behavior was never your real problem
• The toothpaste principle: what comes out when you’re squeezed
• How to “put on your Sherlock hat” after a slip-up and trace it back to the thinking that caused it
• A two-step process: remove the lie, then meditate on the truth
• A prayer asking God to reveal the lie keeping you stuck

Freedom isn’t about trying harder. It starts with seeing yourself the way God sees you.