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Episode Overview

In this episode of the Get Trauma Informed Podcast, we take a deeper look at why setting boundaries can feel uncomfortable, heavy, and even wrong.

What if the guilt you feel is not a sign that you are doing something wrong… but a sign that something is changing?

This conversation reframes guilt as a natural part of trauma recovery and personal growth, especially when you begin choosing yourself in ways you never have before.

In This Episode You Will Learn:

• Why guilt often shows up when you begin setting boundaries
• How past conditioning shapes your emotional responses
• The connection between people-pleasing and safety
• Why guilt is not an indicator of wrongdoing
• How to reframe guilt as a sign of growth
• A simple question to help you navigate emotional discomfort

Key Insight:

Guilt is not always a warning sign.
Sometimes, it is a signal that you are doing something unfamiliar… and necessary.

Reflection Question:

When guilt arises, ask yourself:
“Am I doing something wrong, or something unfamiliar?”

Spiritual Reflection:

Galatians 1:10 reminds us:
Are we seeking approval from people… or alignment with truth?

This shift allows us to move from people-pleasing into purpose-driven decisions.

Call to Action:

If this message resonates with you, I invite you to take the next step.

Inside the Oasis Wellness Academy, we explore these patterns with structure and support so you can begin to understand your experiences differently.

You do not have to carry this alone anymore.

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Episode Overview:

In this episode of the Get Trauma Informed Podcast, Coach Liz reframes one of the most misunderstood concepts in trauma recovery: boundaries.

If setting boundaries feels uncomfortable, it does not mean you are doing something wrong. It means your body is learning something new.

Coach Liz walks listeners through how trauma shapes the nervous system to overextend, why boundaries can trigger guilt and fear, and how to begin viewing boundaries as a form of self-support rather than rejection.

This episode invites you to shift from survival patterns into regulated, supported living.

In This Episode You Will Learn:

• Why boundaries feel uncomfortable and what your body is actually responding to
• The difference between rejection and regulation
• How trauma conditions the nervous system to overextend and stay available
• Why guilt, anxiety, and fear show up when you begin setting limits
• How boundary-setting becomes an act of self-support and responsibility
• The spiritual foundation of boundaries through Proverbs 4:23
• How to begin honoring your limits without overexplaining

Reflection Questions:

• Where do you feel overextended right now?
• What situations make it difficult for you to say no?
• What would honoring your limits without overexplaining look like for you?

Call to Action:

If this message resonates with you, I invite you to take the next step.

Inside the Oasis Wellness Academy, we explore these patterns with structure and support so you can begin to understand your experiences differently.

You do not have to carry this alone anymore.

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Remember, Trauma was not your fault, your were collateral damage on someone else's warpath. Trauma was not your fault, however Recovery is your Responsibility. I am your host, Wellness Coach Liz Blanding, and this is The Get Trauma Informed Podcast.

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info@oasiswellnessctrs.com

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Episode Overview:

In this episode of the Get Trauma Informed Podcast, Coach Liz Blanding challenges the belief that being emotional or sensitive means you are “too much.” She reframes emotional intensity as a response to a lack of protection and safety, not a flaw in identity. This conversation invites listeners to shift from self-blame to self-awareness by understanding how unmet needs and unsafe environments shape emotional responses. Through personal reflection and spiritual grounding, this episode offers a new perspective on emotions as meaningful signals rather than problems to suppress.

In This Episode You Will Learn:

• Why emotional intensity is not the problem, but a response to unmet needs
• How beliefs about being “too much” are formed in unsafe environments
• The connection between emotional suppression and identity-based shame
• How to begin reframing emotions as information instead of problems
• A spiritual perspective on being created with depth, awareness, and feeling

Key Takeaway:

You are not too much. You were carrying what was never meant to be carried alone.

If this message resonates with you, I invite you to take the next step.

Inside the Oasis Wellness Academy, we explore these patterns with structure and support so you can begin to understand your experiences differently.

You do not have to carry this alone anymore.

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Remember, Trauma was not your fault, your were collateral damage on someone else's warpath. Trauma was not your fault, however Recovery is your Responsibility. I am your host, Wellness Coach Liz Blanding, and this is The Get Trauma Informed Podcast.

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info@oasiswellnessctrs.com

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Episode Summary:

In this episode of the Get Trauma Informed Podcast, Coach Liz explores how many of our adult behaviors were not intentionally chosen but formed through survival.

Patterns like people-pleasing, emotional shutdown, and control often begin as childhood adaptations to unsafe or unpredictable environments. Over time, these patterns can feel like identity.

But recovery invites a different question.

What if that is not who you are?

Through personal reflection and spiritual grounding, this episode introduces the possibility of separating learned survival patterns from true identity. Awareness creates space for choice. And choice opens the door for renewal.

This is not about becoming someone new.
It is about returning to who you were before survival became your identity.

In This Episode, You Will Learn:
• How childhood survival patterns shape adult identity
• Why people-pleasing, control, and emotional shutdown are learned responses
• The difference between survival-based identity and true identity
• How awareness creates the opportunity for change
• A spiritual perspective on renewal and identity restoration

Key Reflection Questions:
• What patterns in your life feel automatic?
• Where were these patterns first learned?
• What becomes possible if you begin to question them?

Next Steps:
If this message resonates with you, you are invited to continue your journey inside the Oasis Wellness Academy.

This is a structured, supportive environment where we walk through identity, recovery, and leadership one step at a time.

Recovery comes first.
Awareness builds over time.
And you are not expected to rush the process.

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🎧 Episode Summary

In this foundational episode of the Get Trauma Informed Podcast, Coach Liz explores one of the most important questions in recovery:

Who am I without the trauma?

Many of us unknowingly build our identity around survival. We become “the strong one,” “the people pleaser,” or “the peacekeeper,” not because that is who we are, but because that is who we needed to be.

This episode gently shifts the focus from what happened to you… to who you are beyond it.

Recovery is not about becoming someone new.
It is about returning to who you were always created to be.

🔑 In This Episode You Will Learn:

• How trauma shapes identity through survival roles
• Why survival patterns can feel like your true self
• The difference between identity and adaptation
• How recovery begins with awareness, not judgment
• Why transformation starts with renewing your mind, not forcing change
• How to begin reconnecting with your true identity

🧠 Key Concepts Covered

Survival-Based Identity

When safety is missing, identity forms around protection.

You may recognize yourself as:

• The strong one
• The fixer
• The caretaker
• The one who holds everything together

These roles helped you survive.
But they are not the full truth of who you are.

Identity Beyond Trauma

Recovery invites a new question:

“Who am I beyond what happened to me?”

This is where transformation begins.

Not through pressure.
Not through performance.
But through renewal.

Romans 12:2 reminds us:
“Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.”

Awareness Is the First Step

Before change comes awareness.

Awareness allows you to:

• Observe your patterns without judgment
• Recognize what is survival vs identity
• Create space for something new

✨ Reflection Questions

Ask yourself:

• Where did I learn to become who I am today?
• What part of me feels like survival instead of identity?
• What am I beginning to notice about myself?

There is no judgment in the answer.
Only information.

🌿 Continue the Conversation

This work is explored deeper inside the Oasis Wellness Academy – Foundations of Recovery Pathway, where we walk through structured recovery, identity work, and trauma-informed leadership step by step.

We are recovering one breath at a time.
Give yourself grace and stay fearless.
Bye for now.

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Special Release: Domestic Violence Series Episode 8 of 8

🎧 Episode Summary

This episode is being released out of order as we continue aligning the Foundations Podcast Series inside the Oasis Wellness Academy.

You may also hear a reference to the All Things Recovery Patreon Community. That community has been retired and transitioned into the Oasis Wellness Academy, where everything is now housed in one structured, trauma-informed space.

This episode remains an important part of the journey. It focuses on what happens after awareness begins to take root.

Recovery is not the end.
Recovery becomes responsibility.
Recovery becomes leadership.

Your comeback becomes a blueprint for someone else.

🔑 Key Themes Covered

1. The 5-Step Bottleneck Breakthrough Method (0:00)

• Identify the Bottleneck
• Release the Backlog
• Reclaim Your Flow
• Expand into Connection
• Step into Abundance

2. Walking in Purpose After Recovery (3:53)

• Practice peace daily
• Give from overflow, not wounds
• Stay connected to safe community

3. Continue the Journey (8:14)

• Pathway to Trauma Recovery Book and Journal
• Oasis Wellness Academy — Foundations Pathway
• Pathway Professional Mentor Association (PPMA)

All resources are now centralized within the Academy for a more structured and supportive experience.

4. Closing Encouragement (9:09)

A broken brain does not mean a broken destiny.

Recovery is responsibility.
Recovery is consistency.

Continue your journey inside the Oasis Wellness Academy, your central space for structured recovery and support.

You are not behind.
You are rebuilding.

🌿 Final Reminder

We are recovering one breath at a time.
Give yourself grace and stay fearless.

Bye for now.

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info@oasiswellnessctrs.com

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Episode Overview

Many people think of recovery only as relief from pain. However, trauma recovery produces something much deeper. It produces wisdom, compassion, and understanding that can help others find freedom.

In this episode, Coach Liz explains how recovery becomes a form of wealth. The lessons learned through recovery become valuable guidance that can support others who are walking through similar struggles.

Coach Liz also explains the three stages of trauma recovery and how the final stage activates purpose and responsibility to share the wisdom gained through the recovery journey.

In This Episode You Will Learn

• Why trauma recovery creates wisdom that can help others
• The three stages of trauma recovery: Awakening, Application, and Activation
• How recovery becomes purpose rather than just personal survival
• Five questions that help reveal your calling
• The next step for those who feel called to guide others

The Three Stages of Recovery

Trauma recovery unfolds in three stages.

Awakening is where someone begins understanding their story and recognizing patterns that shaped their life.

Application is where recovery practices begin. Emotional regulation improves, boundaries strengthen, and a healthier identity begins to form.

Activation is where recovery becomes purpose. The wisdom gained through the journey becomes a resource that can help others find direction and hope.

Activating Your Purpose

Many people sense a calling to help others after recovery begins. These questions can help guide that process.

• Who is waiting for my story
• Where has God been tugging at my heart
• What cycles end with me
• What wisdom do I now carry that others need
• How can I offer what I never received

Recovery does not require perfection. It requires responsibility to use the wisdom gained through the journey.

Pathway Professional Mentor Association

For those who feel called to guide others, the Pathway Professional Mentor Association (PPMA) provides training for trauma recovery mentors and peer support leaders.

Participants begin by completing two foundational courses inside Oasis Wellness Academy.

• Pathways to Get Trauma-Informed – Level 1
• Trauma Recovery One Breath at a Time – Level 2

These courses provide the foundation for serving others safely and responsibly.

Call to Action

If you feel a pull to help others through trauma recovery, your story may be part of someone else's breakthrough.

Explore the next step inside Oasis Wellness Academy and begin activating the purpose connected to your recovery journey.

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Contact us at:

info@oasiswellnessctrs.com

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Episode Overview

Many people begin trauma recovery with one simple goal. They want the pain to stop and the patterns to change. However, as recovery progresses, many people discover something deeper. Their story begins with helping others find hope.

In this episode, Coach Liz explores how trauma recovery often moves beyond personal recovery and becomes an assignment to help others find freedom. The experiences that once caused pain can produce wisdom, compassion, and understanding that guide others who are walking through similar struggles.

In This Episode You Will Learn

• Why trauma recovery often becomes a calling to serve others
• The three stages of trauma recovery: Awareness, Application, and Purpose
• Why many people stop at healing and never step into their assignment
• How to recognize who you may be called to help
• How trauma recovery mentors can guide others safely and responsibly

Trauma recovery often unfolds in three important stages.

Stage One: Awareness

Stage Two: Application

Stage Three: Purpose

Finding Your Assignment

Many people ask how they discover their calling after trauma recovery.

Often the answer is already hidden within their story.

You may notice that people come to you with certain questions. Others may seek your support because they recognize that you understand their experiences.

Your assignment may be connected to:

• The people you naturally feel drawn to help
• The parts of your story others ask about most often
• The patterns that God helped you overcome
• The hope your story can provide to someone else

Scripture reminds us in 2 Corinthians 1:4 that we comfort others with the comfort we have received.

Pathway Professional Mentor Association

For those who feel called to guide others in trauma recovery, the Pathway Professional Mentor Association (PPMA) provides a certification pathway for trauma recovery mentors, coaches, and peer support leaders.

PPMA focuses on teaching leaders how to serve responsibly while honoring emotional safety, ethical boundaries, and spiritual leadership.

During the certification program, students complete two foundational courses:

• Level 1 – Pathways to Get Trauma-Informed
• Level 2 – Trauma Recovery: One Breath at a Time

These courses help participants build the foundation needed to guide others safely and responsibly.

Call to Action

If you feel a pull to help others through trauma recovery, this may be part of your assignment.

To learn more about the Pathway Professional Mentor Association and trauma recovery training opportunities, visit Oasis Wellness Academy and explore the next step in your recovery journey.

Support the show

Remember, Trauma was not your fault, your were collateral damage on someone else's warpath. Trauma was not your fault, however Recovery is your Responsibility. I am your host, Wellness Coach Liz Blanding, and this is The Get Trauma Informed Podcast.

Contact us at:

info@oasiswellnessctrs.com

https://www.skool.com/oasis-wellness-academy-3841/about

Disclaimer:
This podcast is for educational and informational purposes only. It is not therapy or clinical treatment. Please seek licensed support where appropriate.