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Some stories need telling again 🥀

In this episode, I sit down with my friend Cassie to retell my story not for sympathy, but for truth. One year on, with the court case behind me and my nervous system finally out of survival mode, I’m able to speak about what really happened in a way I couldn’t before.

This is not a neatly packaged survivor story. It’s an honest, sometimes uncomfortable look at how abuse really unfolds slowly, quietly, and often disguised as love. We talk about how red flags don’t arrive all at once, how control creeps in disguised as care, and how trauma bonding can make even the most intelligent, strong women stay in situations that are destroying them.

I share what it was like living inside a relationship that felt safe one minute and terrifying the next, how my identity slowly disappeared, and why leaving didn’t instantly bring peace it brought grief, fear, withdrawal, and the hardest healing of my life.

This episode is also about what happens after you leave. The confusion. The shame. The urge to go back. The rebuilding. And the moment you finally realise that what you called love was actually survival.

House of H.E.R. was born from this journey not just to tell my story, but to give other women the language, understanding, and community I desperately needed. If you’ve ever felt stuck, numb, anxious, or ashamed for loving someone who hurt you, this episode is for you.

You are not weak.
You are not broken.
You were surviving.

What we cover

• How abuse really begins
• Red flags you don’t see at first
• Trauma bonding and why people go back
• Why leaving isn’t the end it’s the start
• Healing after the court case
• Why House of H.E.R. was created
• Rebuilding your identity after abuse

Trigger Warning

This episode contains discussion of domestic abuse, coercive control, physical violence, trauma bonding, suicide, and mental health.

If you need support

If you’re struggling right now or something in this episode has brought things up for you, you are not alone and help is available.

UK

Samaritans
Call 116 123 (free, 24/7)
https://www.samaritans.org

National Domestic Abuse Helpline (Refuge)
Call 0808 2000 247
https://www.nationaldahelpline.org.uk

Women’s Aid
https://www.womensaid.org.uk

The Survivors’ Handbook (Women’s Aid)
If you’re not sure if your relationship is healthy, worried about someone else, or need guidance:
https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/the-survivors-handbook/

Clare’s Law
Apply to find out if a current or ex-partner has a history of abuse and may pose a risk:
https://www.met.police.uk/rqo/request/ri/request-information/

USA

House of H.E.R. is a space for women who have lived through abuse, trauma, and relationships that broke them. This podcast exists to tell the truth, raise awareness around domestic abuse, and remind you that you are not alone in what you’re healing from.

Resources & support:
https://stan.store/houseofherpod

Join our healing community:
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In the final episode of season one, Hollie and Mollie welcome their first ever guest: Katy Longhurst a survivor, mother, and tech innovator who has transformed unthinkable trauma into tangible change.

With grace and raw honesty, Katy shares her story of surviving years of coercive control, violence, psychological manipulation and how she went on to create Ask Joan, an app designed to help people in domestic abuse situations discreetly call for help from any household appliance.

Instagram: @askjoanapp

www.askjoan.co.uk

This conversation is one of courage, clarity, and deep truth. It’s a testament to every woman who has been told she’s imagining it and proof that healing isn’t just survival, it’s innovation.

⚠️ Trigger Warning: This episode includes discussions of trauma, domestic abuse, stalking, and psychological manipulation. Please listen with care and take space if you need to.

💭 “You didn’t just survive, you rebuilt the system that failed you.”

If you need support right now, here are some resources that may help:

National Domestic Abuse Helpline - 0808 200 0247

Samaritans (UK) – Call 116 123 (free, 24/7)

National Suicide Prevention Helpline (US) – Call or text 988

Crisis Text Line (US/UK) – Text HOME to 741741

Women’s Aid (UK) – womensaid.org.uk

‘I’m not sure if my relationship is healthy/ I’m worries about someone else/ I need support - The survivors handbook: https://www.womensaid.org.uk/

Claires Law - Apply for information about your current or ex-partner because you're worried they may have a history of abuse and are a risk to you: https://shorturl.at/chTXf

We also have direct links to support resources on our landing page: https://stan.store/houseofherpod

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In this episode, Hollie and Mollie open the doors to one of the most silenced parts of abuse, stalking and harassment.

They share lived experiences of what it means to live in constant fear, the reality of coercive control, and the devastating gap between the law and survivors’ safety. From phone hacking to online surveillance, this conversation exposes how digital abuse and psychological terror leave invisible scars that are still rarely recognised as violence.

This episode is raw, real, and a call for change: for systems that protect women, for online accountability, and for survivors to know they are not alone.

Trigger warning: This episode discusses stalking, harassment, trauma, suicidal thoughts and abuse. Please take care of your heart while listening, pause, step away, or come back when you feel ready.

🔗 Mentioned in this episode:
• The Holly Guard app: a free safety app for anyone at risk of stalking or violence.

https://hollieguard.com/

You’re not too much. You’re not too late. You are her. And you’re home now. 🥀