You and your partner are the authors of your relationship story. But what happens when your childhood triggers begin writing the script?

Today, my guests are Michael and Penny Gold from Relationship Alchemy.

1. They share examples of relationship triggers and how to recognize the patterns underneath them
2. They'll invite you to see how you can create a tiny ritual that strengthens intimacy
3. And they have an endless supply of 10-minute dates to refresh your relationship

Triggers Identified, Demystified, and Disarmed

Have you ever found yourself in the middle of a conflict and wondered, "Why is this bothering me so much?" Penny has 40 years of clinical work to help you identify and disarm the triggers that are currently adding drama to your relationship.

Triggers can stop you from receiving the love your partner wants to give you. So, Penny will also help you calm your system down so that you can actually truly receive the appreciation and love your partner is offering.

Michael has an enormous rabbinical history in storytelling and meaning-making.

Habit for Your Happily Ever After

Take Penny and Michael’s customizable 10-Minute date quiz and create a simple ritual of connection together. Even a few intentional minutes can strengthen intimacy and help you reconnect.

Connect with Michael and Penny Gold

Michael is an ordained rabbi, ceremonialist, and transformational guide with decades of pastoral experience working with couples and families. Penny is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in trauma, attachment, and relational healing. Together they lead sacred ceremonies, couples retreats, and medicine journeys guided by the methodology that transformed their own marriage. You can visit their website to learn more and take the 10-minute date quiz.

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Why is either/or thinking toxic for your relationship? Because it boxes out possibilities. Why is either/or thinking so tempting? Because it simplifies our complicated lives.

Today we’re noticing how toxic the unconscious but super seductive question “Either/Or” can be.

1. I’ll take you through 3 reasons your brain loves to default to either/or thinking and how to use 2 words to free your mind from the limitations that either/or thinking can impart.
2. Then I’ll offer you the magic words that will open your mind.
3. And not only will I share with you the far-reaching consequences of this paradigm shift, we’ll practice together so you can hear how shifting the question shifts your mindset.

Habit for Your Happily Ever After

Practice changing sentence structures from either/or to both/and.

Date Night Discussion

This week I invite you to employ the word "because" to change either/or thinking into an invitation for you and your sweetheart to cultivate your happily ever after.

Want more?

• In this episode, I talk about how resistance is where suffering lives.
• I talk a lot about how changing the words you use when you talk to your partner can change your relationship. Discover the power of hello and how “yes-but” kills connection.

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One word can change the character of your relationship.

Don’t believe me? I invite you to notice how you say hello to your partner.

Does your hello say, “I’m glad to see you!” or is your hello flavored with the taste of goodbye?

I am always sending people to episode #8 of my podcast where I tell the story of how hello changed the course of my relationship with my husband. This week, I’m bringing the episode back from the archives.

Habit for Your Happily Ever After

To help you avoid a sandpapery hello, and to cultivate a tender goodbye with your partner, notice the character of your hello and goodbye.

Date Night Discussion

This week, ask your partner about their most memorable goodbye.

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