What do blueberry pancakes and butterflies have to do with your happily ever after?

They’re part of divorce mediator Joe Dillon’s advice for staying married.

I’m a relationship coach. It's odd that I would want to introduce you to a divorce mediator, but he has so much great information to share with us about what he sees when it comes to divorces:

1. I found Joe Dillon online and his body of work was so extensive that I wanted to share it with you.
2. Joe is going to help you understand what typical patterns bring people to his office so that you can use those as a cautionary tale.
3. He'll also tell you what butterflies and blueberry pancakes have to do with your happily ever after.

Habit for Your Happily Ever After

This week’s habit helps you make space for the individual inside of the shared life.

Joe and Cheryl have regular marriage meetings, and it was at one of these meetings that they exchanged legal pads full of their bucket list items. This helped them realize that even though they share a life, they may not share every dream. Joe and Cheryl decided that although they live in Southern California where there's a beach for Cheryl, they'll take a month during the year to move to Chicago so that Joe can get his city fix.

I invite you to trade bucket lists with your partner. What dreams do you share? Where will you have to compromise?

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Joe Dillon is a divorce mediator at Equitable Mediation. His unique blend of financial acumen, mediation expertise, and personal insights enable him to skillfully guide couples through complex divorce negotiations and reach fair agreements that safeguard the family’s emotional and financial health.

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What kind of Friendship date is good for your relationship?

Has life been noisy and busy and you just need some time of shared silence to both reset? What style of date would help you hush the ever-present noise filling your life? Maybe you need a date where you have some dedicated time to understand what your sweetheart is feeling.

Remember my framework of Partner, Lover, Friend? I’ve identified 3 roles inside your singular relationship: Partners want to achieve together. Friends assure each other we belong together. Lovers want to explore together.

1. Valentine’s Day is coming up and there is a lot of pressure to have THE PERFECT date, but I want to challenge this notion of THE PERFECT date.
2. Instead, I’d like to talk about great dates for the three roles inside your relationship. Let’s break it down into three episodes to talk about each role: Partner, Friend, and Lover.
3. Today we’re talking about designing a great date for the Friend inside your relationship.

Habit for Your Happily Ever After

This week’s habit for your happily ever after is to put a Friendship-building date night onto your calendar.

Date Night Discussion

This week I invite you to talk about the kinds of dates that promote Friendship in your relationship. Your Friendship will be deepened by two things: talking and listening.

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What type of date does the Lover inside your relationship need?

Remember my framework of Partner, Lover, Friend? I’ve identified 3 roles inside your singular relationship: Partners want to achieve together. Friends assure each other we belong together. Lovers want to explore together.

1. Valentine’s Day is coming up and there is a lot of pressure to have THE PERFECT date, but I want to challenge this notion of THE PERFECT date.
2. Instead, I’d like to talk about great dates for the three roles inside your relationship. Let’s break it down into three episodes to talk about each role: Partner, Friend, and Lover.
3. Today we’re talking about designing a great date for the Lover inside your relationship.

Habit for Your Happily Ever After

This week’s habit for your happily ever after is to put a Lover date (or several!) onto your calendar.

Date Night Discussion

This week talk about the types of Lover dates that your relationship might need.

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