Worthiness, Attachment & the Art of Letting Go

In this episode of In-Bodied, we’re talking about something most of us avoid—but desperately need to face: worthiness.

So many women say they want to detach, let go, or stop being anxiously attached… but the truth is, detachment doesn’t happen through willpower. It happens through radical honesty.

If we can’t admit how unworthy we feel beneath the surface how much we seek validation, reassurance, or proof that we matter we stay stuck repeating the same attachment patterns.

Today’s conversation is about:

• Owning your shit without shame

• Understanding how worthiness fuels attachment

• Why detaching isn’t cold it’s self-respect

• And how healing begins the moment you stop pretending you’re “fine”

This is an episode for the woman who’s tired of overgiving, overthinking, and over-attaching and is finally ready to choose herself.

What We Cover in This Episode:

• The hidden link between low self-worth and anxious attachment

• Why we cling harder when we secretly believe we’re replaceable

• How “needing” someone is often a cover for unworthiness

• The difference between detaching and disconnecting

• Why you can’t heal what you refuse to admit

• How self-awareness—not self-criticism—is the doorway to freedom

• Letting go without bitterness, punishment, or shutdown

Key Takeaways:

• You don’t detach by pretending you don’t care—you detach by caring for yourself more.

• If you won’t admit where you feel unworthy, you’ll keep chasing proof that you are.

• Detachment is not abandonment; it’s self-loyalty.

• Healing requires ownership, not blame.

• The moment you stop lying to yourself is the moment things start to change.

Reflection Questions (Journal Prompts):

• Where in my life am I seeking reassurance instead of self-trust?

• What am I afraid will happen if I let go?

• What would change if I believed I was already enough?

• Who am I trying to be worthy for?

• What does detachment look like when it comes from love instead of fear?

Resources & Next Steps:

• 🖤 Order the Reclaim Her Journal — designed to help you unpack worthiness, attachment, and emotional patterns with honesty and compassion.

• 🎧 Listen to more episodes of In-Bodied for real conversations on healing, midlife growth, boundaries, and self-trust.

• 🌿 Explore free resources on my website to support your healing journey.

Final Note from Tracy:

You don’t heal by becoming someone else.

You heal by finally being honest about who you are and choosing yourself anyway.

If this episode resonated, share it with a woman who’s ready to let go and come home to herself.

Acceptance, Aging & Moving Forward

In today’s episode, I’m sharing a real, honest conversation about acceptance and aging and what it actually means to move forward instead of trying to go back.

At some point in midlife, we realize the truth:

We can’t go back to the body we had, the face we had, or the version of ourselves that existed in a different season of life. And while that realization can feel heavy at first, it can also be incredibly freeing.

This episode is a reminder that acceptance doesn’t mean giving up.

It means honoring where you’ve been, appreciating who you were, and choosing how you want to feel now.

We talk about:

• Letting go of the pressure to “get back” to who you used to be

• Why comparing yourself to past versions of you keeps you stuck

• How acceptance and self-care can exist at the same time

• Making positive changes — mentally, emotionally, and physically — without self-judgment

• Learning to feel good again in your body and in your life, right where you are

This is a gentle rant, a reminder, and an invitation:

You don’t need to rewind your life to feel confident, healthy, or aligned.

You get to move forward with intention, grace, and self-respect.

If you’re navigating aging, identity shifts, or learning how to care for yourself differently in this season, this episode is for you.

📓 Support your journey with The Reclaim Her Journal

You’re not behind. You’re right on time.

In this powerful episode, Tracy breaks down what anxious attachment really is, why so many midlife women struggle with it, and how it turns into codependency, over-functioning, people-pleasing, emotional spirals, and relationship confusion.

You’ll learn WHY your nervous system keeps looping old patterns, why perimenopause intensifies attachment wounds, and how this season of life is actually the invitation to become the most powerful, self-led version of yourself.

This is your permission slip to stop shrinking, stop performing for love, stop over-reading every tone and text…

and finally become emotionally safe within yourself.

Inside This Episode:

• What anxious attachment actually is (not what culture says)

• How childhood wounds create adult relationship patterns

• Why we confuse anxious attachment for “he doesn’t love me”

• How codependency forms & why it quietly destroys connection

• The danger of attaching to someone’s potential instead of reality

• Hyper-independence vs healthy interdependence

• Why perimenopause wakes up every emotional wound you haven’t healed

• How to regulate your nervous system & stop spiraling

• How to communicate needs without collapsing or clinging

• The midlife identity reawakening and the rise of the secure woman

This episode feels like therapy, a hug, and a reality check —all in one.

Free Resources Mentioned

✨ Reclaim Her Journal Healing tools for attachment wounds, identity shifts, nervous system regulation & stepping into your queen era.

Order here: Link in bio

✨ Queen Codes PDF Learn the energetics of secure attachment, receiving, and emotional sovereignty.

Download in bio

✨ IN-BODIED Podcast Archive More episodes on attachment, hormones, feminine embodiment, and emotional healing.

Work With Tracy

If you’re ready to heal anxious attachment, stop abandoning yourself, and step into secure, grounded, feminine leadership:

➡️ Join the Reclaim Your Glow Program

Personalized coaching + emotional, biological & spiritual transformation for midlife women.

➡️ 1:1 Support + Custom Plans

Hormones, diet, nervous system, identity work and the emotional blueprint for becoming your next-level self.

Connect with Tracy

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Boundaries, Queen Energy & Manifesting Without Waiting

Today’s episode was totally impromptu I felt called to sit down and share a few personal stories about how to set boundaries like a queen and what it actually looks like to hold them without guilt, shrinking, or over-explaining.

We also dive into manifestation in real time not the slow, passive, “wait and hope” kind.

But the version where you decide exactly what you want, shift your energy, and call it in FAST.

In this episode, we get into:

✨ How to set boundaries without feeling like the “bad guy”

✨ What holding a boundary actually looks like

✨ Why your energy has to match what you’re calling in

✨ How to collapse the “waiting period” and step into your next level NOW

✨ The identity shift required to become the woman who receives what she asks for

This one is honest, empowering, and full of quick mindset resets you can use today.

Tune in, take notes, and let’s step into the version of you who knows exactly what she wants and refuses to apologize for it.

In this episode, Tracy dives deep into one of the hardest but most transformational shifts for midlife women learning how to receive.

For decades, we’ve been programmed to perform, push, and prove our worth as mothers, partners, professionals, and caretakers. But perimenopause changes everything. Your body, your energy, and your emotions all start asking for something different: ease, softness, and authenticity.

Tracy shares the truth about what’s keeping women stuck in over-functioning mode and how to break free from the guilt, self-sabotage, and belief that we have to “earn” everything love, rest, or even joy.

You’ll walk away with tangible tools to start shifting from drive to flow, and from performance to presence so you can finally receive the good things life is trying to hand you.

✨ The “push cycle” — why women in midlife feel stuck in constant doing

✨ The deep emotional wounds that drive over-giving and self-sabotage

✨ How worthiness impacts our ability to receive love, success, and support

✨ The energetic frequency of receiving — how to get into flow and ease

✨ Real-life examples from Tracy’s own story of learning to receive

✨ Simple mindset + body shifts that help you open up to abundance

“Receiving isn’t weakness it’s the posture of a woman who finally knows her worth.”

Journal & Reflection Prompts:

1. Where in your life are you still over-giving or over-performing to feel worthy?

2. How do you react when someone tries to give you something love, help, or even a compliment?

3. What would it feel like to truly believe you deserve ease, care, and abundance without earning it?

If this episode hit home it’s time to stop shrinking and start receiving.

Grab your Reclaim Journal it’s designed to help you rebuild self-worth and open up to the next phase of your life with ease, joy, and feminine energy.

Join the community of women ready to stop performing and start living.

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In this episode, Tracy dives into the grief that comes with outgrowing who you used to be. This is for every woman standing in the liminal space that in-between of endings and beginnings learning to trust the unknown. You’re not broken, you’re becoming.

✨ Pre-order the Reclaim Her Journal and find free support for anxiety, hormones, and midlife healing at http://www.thefitmomproject.com

In this powerful episode, Tracy shares the Queen Energy Glow-Up Codes — a 12-step framework to help women rise back into their worth, softness, and strength. This isn’t about perfection or hustle; it’s about remembering who you are at your core.

You’ll learn how to release control, reconnect to your feminine flow, and lead your life from peace, presence, and deep self-worth.

What You’ll Hear:

• Why soft power is your greatest strength.

• How to stop proving and start receiving.

• The beauty of stillness and why attraction > chasing.

• How joy, play, and vulnerability reconnect you to your radiance.

• Letting go of old trauma and rewriting your worth story.

Which code resonates most with the season you’re in right now?

Take a moment to breathe, reflect, and integrate.

Download the free “Queen Codes” PDF and pre-order your Reclaim Her Journal today to begin your 90-day journey to reconnect with your mind, body, and purpose. go to www.thefitmomprojext.com

In this episode, Tracy goes deep into the emotional and energetic layers of midlife healing the part no one warned you about.

This isn’t just hormones. It’s the body remembering what your mind has long tried to forget.

We talk about the “wounded little girl” inside every woman the one who learned to stay small, to earn love, to be the good girl — and how she begins to rise during perimenopause. The emotions, the tears, the rage… it’s not weakness. It’s wisdom surfacing through the body.

What You’ll Learn

• How trauma gets trapped in the body (and why your hormones are pulling it to the surface now)

• The link between stored emotions, chronic pain, anxiety, and fatigue

• Why perimenopause is the body’s way of saying: it’s time to release what’s been buried

• How the nervous system holds childhood survival patterns — fight, flight, freeze, fawn

• Ways to begin reconnecting with your inner child: safety, breathwork, and compassion

• Why true healing means becoming the mother your younger self needed

You are not breaking down you are breaking open.

The woman you’re becoming is built from the parts of you that once had to hide.

✨ Try This

After listening, take 5 quiet minutes:

• Place your hand on your heart and say,

“I see you. I love you. I’m safe now.”

• Notice what comes up. Breathe through it. This is where healing begins.

Pre-order your Reclaim Her Journal — your 90-day journey to reconnect with your body, emotions, and truth.