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You know God made you for more. You're pretty sure you know what it is, yet you are not moving forward the way you want to.

What if you don't need more clarity or discipline?

What if you need a new experience with Jesus to move you forward?

See why feeling your emotions and taking your thoughts captive go together to unlock your next level.

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Listen to Your Emotions, Don't Let Them Drive - Episode 132

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Learning to listen to your emotions and recognize your thoughts is key to maturity. This episode answers some common questions about starting this practice with your children. Even if you are not a parent, you can use the same process yourself. It is simple and effective with practice or guidance.

You can listen to an example of me using this process with my daughter in the episode linked above.

Questions answered:

How do I know what questions to ask?

What if they say they aren’t hearing anything?

What if they don’t want to talk?

How do you know they aren’t sharing the real issue?

What if I’m new to listening to God?

Emotions are overwhelming. How do I stay calm and engaged?

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Do you ever find you have been trying to solve the wrong problem?

I go through this with my daughter fairly often. I’m getting wiser and don’t follow the distractions as far, as often.

On my own issues, I can still get distracted too easily.

In my work with clients, God has gifted me with the ability to see to the real issue quickly.

Once you see what the real issue is you can begin to make real progress if you have the tools and skills for that problem.

In today’s episode, I talk through the process I use with my daughter, myself, and my clients once the real issue has been identified.

Listen to your emotions. Don’t let them drive.
Know when emotions are letting you know you need help.

I’m passionate about helping women discover the cause behind the obvious problem and giving them practical tools to remedy the problem once it is revealed. This passion comes from the longing I had for so many years as I was trying to grow and change myself. I found most Christian teaching for change focuses on the behavior ot the thoughts and often ignores the events and emotions that created the thoughts and behaviors. In my work, we listen to the heart and follow Holy Spirit. There is no trying to perform our way into God’s presence or favor. We are already there, and nothing we do removes us from his love.

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00:00 Wrong Problem Trap
01:04 Bedtime Mystery
02:10 Fear Underneath
03:27 Validate Then Logic
04:58 Sorting Thoughts
05:45 When Lies Feel True
07:21 Get Help Healing
09:30 Holy Spirit Memories
09:47 Lilacs And Safety
11:37 Emotional Neglect Trauma
13:47 Kingdom Way Forward
15:01 Work With Me

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How often do you find yourself feeling overwhelmed?

I still do, more often than I would like to. This summer I have been feeling it a lot.

As I was thinking about how to move out of this cycle of overwhelm I documented the process so I could share it with you.

This week’s podcast highlights 3 phases of getting out of overwhelm. You might only need 1 or 2 of the phases. Sometimes you need all 3.

1. Ask “What is the smallest step I could take to show myself I’m not stuck?”
2. Ask “What am I gaining by staying stuck? How am I benefitting from this?”
3. Identify the thoughts and feelings that are present as you think about what is overwhelming you.

I walk you through a real example in my own life. You can hear the difference in thoughts or lies that are easy to deal with and one that hits me pretty hard. I left it raw on purpose.

Give it a try the next time you are feeling overwhelmed and let me know how it goes.

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When you see you are not living your faith the way you want to do you judge and condemn yourself or do you get curious?

Condemnation is never from the Lord.

Listen to this week’s podcast about how curiosity can help you see what is really in your way.

00:00 Curiosity Or Condemnation
01:26 Why Shame Feels Normal
02:04 Curiosity Finds The Need
02:57 Example Sharing Your Faith
06:01 Conviction Not Condemnation
06:46 Tracing Fear Beneath Behavior
09:00 When Reactions Feel Childlike
11:12 Ask God What You Need
11:50 Compassion Leads To Change
12:20 Choose Curiosity And Heal

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You can’t put 2 quarts of figs in a one quart jar.

You can’t make much progress or expect much to happen when there are rocks in the way. God can’t occupy places that are filled by other things. It’s not about Him pouring out more but wanting to heal what’s in the way of you receiving. He’s not mad at you. He wants to heal you. Allow the Lord to move the rocks and fill the spaces they leave behind.

As I thought about what he shared, the Lord spoke to my heart, too.

1. You don’t always know the rocks are there until you hit them.
2. Don’t go looking for all the rocks.
3. Follow Holy Spirit’s lead in removing the rocks God has shown you.

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Do you doubt your worth?

If you have been tying to convince yourself of a truth and it just doesn’t seem to be working it might be because you need to start with your heart instead of your head.

Thoughts and emotions are closely connected. Unlike much of what I read on the internet I believe emotions create thoughts, not the other way around.

An event happens and you automatically have emotions.

Then you create thoughts about your experience. This happens so fast and subconsciously that it seems like they are automatic, too. They aren’t. You choose what you think. If you didn’t believe that then you wouldn’t be trying to change your thinking.

Listen to this week’s podcast to hear how this showed up in a client’s life in regards to pricing a new tool they were creating and how meeting the heart need quickly shifted her thought process.

00:00 Doubting Your Offer

01:12 A Heart Level Block

01:50 Gods Perspective Shift

02:36 Why Mindset Alone Fails

04:02 Heart Doodling Method

05:33 Tracing Doubt to Childhood

07:21 How Emotions Create Beliefs

10:53 Healing the Root Memory

12:59 What Makes My Work Different

13:54 Invitation and Closing

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Emotional maturity is key to your spiritual growth. That’s why I start with the heart and the skills for emotional maturity when pursuing spiritual growth. It takes emotional maturity to carry out the spiritual instruction in the Bible.

For example, when you read a passage like James 1:19, 20 about being slow to anger you might think or have been told that you need to be more spiritual to do that. You don’t need to be more spiritual you need to be emotionally mature.

Understand this, my beloved brothers and sisters. Let everyone be quick to hear [be a careful, thoughtful listener], slow to speak [a speaker of carefully chosen words and], slow to anger [patient, reflective, forgiving]; for the [resentful, deep-seated] anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God [that standard of behavior which He requires from us]. James 1:19,20 Amplified Bible

Being a careful listener when someone is confronting you or questioning a decision takes emotional maturity to listen without taking anything personally or without defending yourself. You need emotional maturity to listen and form a response rather than reacting to what is said.

It also takes emotional maturity to see when you feel like reacting so you can bring that place in you that wants to react to the Lord for healing or correction.

Seeing something from someone else’s point of view requires emotional maturity.
"Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn" (Romans 12:15)

"Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you" (Ephesians 4:32).

It requires emotional maturity to not need people to understand you or to not need people to be like you, to be able to love them. To not take it personally if they don't understand what you're saying. To be able to be curious and be able to stay in conversations until there can be understanding of why they think the way they do, to see whether that's because they haven't been in the kingdom very long or because they've been taught wrong or life experiences or whatever it is.

Being able to have those conversations and sit with disagreements and differences requires emotional maturity as well as spiritual maturity.

It also takes emotional maturity to understand when you're feeling your own emotions versus someone else's or when you're trying to manage something for someone else versus being mature and responsible for yourself.

It takes that emotional maturity to let someone around you be sad or be angry to feel however they feel instead of needing them to feel a certain way for you to be okay.

It takes emotional maturity to see what's yours and what someone else's. If you're feeling sad or overwhelmed or scared or whatever, having the emotional maturity to practice discernment to see is this mine? Is this current, or is it feeling what someone else is feeling? Is it a spirit? Is it something from the past? Having that emotional maturity then allows you to ask the Lord for spiritual insight of why you are responding the way you are.

I talk about all this in more depth in this week’s podcast.

00:00 Why Emotions Matter
00:38 Slow to Anger Skills
02:15 Empathy in Romans 12
02:53 Compassionate Perspective
03:51 Safe Conversations
05:15 Discern Your Emotions
07:38 Faith Culture and Feelings
09:13 Childhood Roles Reversed
11:52 Unlearning Neglect Messages
14:46 Grace for Your Parents
15:46 Practice and Get Support
17:07 Closing Encouragement

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