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Boundaries aren’t impatience.

They don’t mean you are not being loving.

Boundaries are about what you will do, not getting someone else to do what you want them to do.

If you’re like me the idea of boundaries sounds freeing and empowering - right up to the point you try to put them in place. It took me years to understand how to state what I needed and what I was going to do rather than trying to control the outcome of someone else’s choices.

If you grew up without healthy boundaries it can be tricky to change your thinking and put them into practice.

You’re right, though. They are empowering and create freedom. It is worth figuring out how to use them properly.

To see how boundaries do and do not come into this situation listen to today’s episode.

Podcast Chapters

00:00 Boundaries Defined

00:14 Facebook Post Example

01:28 Contract vs Ultimatum

02:43 Gods Loving Boundaries

03:59 Learning Healthy Boundaries

05:06 Scissors Stewardship Lesson

06:55 Car Borrowing Boundary

09:50 Freedom Fear and Control

11:39 Access Points and Limits

13:09 Self Worth and Creator

14:18 Invitation and Closing

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You know the times you look back and wonder why your reaction to an event was over the top. This happens when the current event reminds you of a past event or events that felt the same way. The emotions from the past have not felt heard, the needs have not been met.

When something happens that feels the same the old emotions try again to be heard and so you are overreacting.

It creates a shame strom. Shame storms are not fun. They can be survived and even disarmed with practice.

00:00 When Reassurance Hurts
00:42 Inside a Shame Storm
01:38 Learning to Quiet Shame
02:03 Facing the Storm Safely
02:46 Sorting Thoughts and Lies
04:08 Emotions Past and Present
05:30 Your Reaction Is a Clue
06:25 Comforting Soul With Truth
07:36 Tools to Move Forward
07:57 Invitation and Next Steps

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Are You Settling for Manna? Leaving the Wilderness for Your Promised Land

I want to share a challenge with you. Are “settling for manna” by staying in the comfort of the wilderness instead of moving into the Promised Land?
The Promise Land includes battles, giants, and the work of taking territory.
I have personal seasons of deliverance followed by temptation to camp in comfort rather than fight the remaining battles with the Lord’s strength. I want to keep a Joshua-and-Caleb mindset of faith and forward movement.
A key thing for moving into the Promise land is a supportive community to help establish God’s rule in your mind and soul, resist doubt and confusion, and take ground for future generations.

00:00 Are You Settling
01:17 Promised Land Reality
03:00 From Slavery to Manna
05:27 Spies and Giants
09:55 Wilderness Comfort Trap
11:32 Offense and Authority
12:37 Caleb Mindset Shift
15:27 Community and Inner Territory
18:04 Generational Freedom
19:01 Invitation and Next Steps

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Having a "should list" feels terrible, and it’s ineffective

I printed my should list and processed it with the Lord. That looked like asking Him questions and seeing what He highlighted to me - if you care to watch, here’s a link to the unedited video of me processing live.

In the process, I saw that more than half of the items contained "more" or "better" and carried condemnation. Yuck!

When I saw how much condemnation there was, I decided to do a Heart Doodle with Jesus, asking, “If I put the way I feel in a picture, what would that look like?” The picture was trying to hit an archery target that was too far away and moving.

God gently spoke, “Undefined is not kind.”

The actions the Lord told me to take out of this process were:

1. Count my steps - every movement in the right direction counts and deserves to be noticed.
2. Evaluate each “should”. Is it a real need or a want? Can you trash it?
3. If it is a need or want, define what it looks like and the steps to complete it.

God doesn’t have a “should list”, only invitations to trust and experience Him.

00:00 Why Should Lists Hurt

00:15 30 Shoulds and Shame

01:59 Heart Doodling Process

03:14 Do More Do Better Trap

04:45 Archery Target Metaphor

06:32 God Has Invitations

07:14 Sorting the 30 Items

09:41 Three Steps Forward

11:30 Define Needs and Wants

13:03 Next Steps and Support

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“God expects me to keep everyone happy.”

He doesn’t, but part of you might feel like He does. While your feelings matter, they shouldn’t lead you through life.

God doesn’t demand perfection because He knows that’s impossible. Jesus was perfect, so you don’t have to be.

00:00 Perfectionism Loop

01:07 Heart Doodling Practice

01:41 Questioning People Pleasing

02:24 Truth About God

03:32 Needs And Boundaries

04:14 Spotting Enemy Accusations

06:18 Feelings Versus Reality

08:32 Comforting Inner Child

10:38 Pleasing Is Not Loving

12:08 Parts And Trauma Explained

14:08 Compassion And Resourcing

15:25 Coaching Invitation

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 Did God really say? The devil has been asking that same question for all of human history. Did God really say whatever you feel like you heard him say, this is the ultimate battle to hear God and hold tightly to what he said. Eve saw fruit in the garden and it looked good to eat. And then she forgot exactly what God had said and made the wrong choice.

When the serpent came and said, did God really say what Eve quoted back to him wasn't exactly what God said, it was enough off that the enemy was able to convince her to eat the fruit and make the wrong choice. And unfortunately, I do the same thing. If we haven't met yet, I am Mukkove Johnson and I teach Christian women to hear God's voice, to discern what he's saying and to heal the parts that don't always agree with him, and live the abundant life that Jesus called you to.

00:00 Did God Really Say
00:57 Meet the Creator
01:39 Why We Doubt
02:18 Ministry Story Lesson
03:02 Refocus on God Said
04:00 Build a Battle Plan
04:21 Workshop Invitation
04:38 Next Steps and Wrap

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Are you in a season where it feels like you need a battle plan? I know I have been and have been trying to figure out a practical way to keep it in front of me because I feel like the Lord gives me plans. I ask him for plans. He's faithful to give me that direction, and then life keeps lifeing and I forget.

So if you're like me, I hope the thoughts I share today will be helpful. If we haven't met before, I'm mko. I have a heart to see the body of Christ living in health and wholeness and maturity. And I'm sharing the things that I am learning on my journey to all of those things in hopes that they will encourage you and show you practically what it looks like to walk that out step by step.

The first step is seeking the Lord to clearly define the battle.

Second is the battle plan. God’s strategies are not formulas but require listening, carrying His presence, and trusting Him for specific direction. That could include gratitude, worship, Scripture, prayer support, and specific obedience, cutting distractions, doubt, and double-mindedness while adding discipline and discernment.

Third, refocus through reminders, or support as often as you need it.

00:00 Need a Battle Plan
02:30 Define the Real Battle
03:11 Old Testament Strategies
06:08 Ask God for Tactics
07:15 Heart Doodling Workshop
08:17 Cut Distraction and Doubt
10:40 Discipline and Discernment
12:55 Remember and Refocus
14:24 Victory and Territory
16:03 Little by Little Growth
18:41 Get Support and Next Steps

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Mess to Majesty: Let God Love You In Your Mess by Mukkove Johnson, available on Amazon.

Embrace Your Mess, Find Your Message: Separating Identity from Behavior

Break the shame cycle by refusing to hide your messes and instead practice the courage cycle of repeatedly facing fear, pain, and grief. “Embracing your mess” means being honest about what’s wrong without making it your identity, recognizing that messes can be cleaned up. Embracing the mess allows you to separate your behavior from your identity. Jesus loves you despite your sin and turns healing into a message that can encourage others. Doing harmful things is not the same as being defined by them.

00:00 Shame to Courage
00:42 Embrace Your Mess
01:22 Why It Matters
02:49 Personal Anger Story
03:46 Jesus Sees Our Worth
04:37 You Are Not Alone
05:16 Testimony Brings Healing
06:03 Closing Invitation

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