Dusty goes solo to confront a subtle but damaging misconception at the heart of servant leadership—the belief that focusing on yourself somehow takes away from serving others—and argues the opposite: failing to lead yourself is the most selfish thing you can do. Drawing from personal experience and a powerful leadership session with a high-performing team, he exposes how neglecting self-leadership quietly erodes clarity, decision-making, and ultimately the impact you have on everyone you lead. Through a set of three diagnostic questions—what must change, what patterns keep repeating, and where you’re saying yes instead of no—he shows how the same rigor leaders apply to their organizations must be turned inward. Dusty then introduces a practical three-step activation system—assess, clarify, align—guiding leaders to audit their own execution gaps, define an intentional work state, and bring others into their growth process to expose blind spots. Anchored by the insight that leadership impact multiplies downstream, he reframes self-investment as a force multiplier rather than a distraction, challenging leaders to stop defaulting to reactive patterns and start leading themselves with the same discipline they expect from others. The result is a more intentional, aligned, and effective leader—one whose growth compounds across every person and outcome they influence.

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) – The Most Selfish Thing Great Leaders Never Do (But Should)

(01:32) – The Consequences of Not Leading Yourself

(03:08) – Leadership Is Not About You

(04:29) – 3 Questions You MUST Ask

(08:24) – Three Activation Steps for Great Self-Leadership

(08:50) – Step 1: Assess the Execution Gap

(09:49) – Step 2: Clarify Your Intentional Work State

(11:00) – Step 3: Build Alignment with Others

(11:46) – Practical Example

Key Topics Discussed:

Leadership Unlocked, Leadership Insights, Dusty Holcomb, Servant Leadership Principles, Self-Leadership Strategies, Growth Mindset in Leadership, Integrity and Leadership, Leadership Development Resources, Effective Leadership Habits, Empowering Leadership Techniques, Senior Executive Insights, Leadership Quotes and Reflections, Leadership Podcast, Executive Coaching, CEO Podcast, Business Leadership, Leadership Growth, Leadership Journey, Stories From Leaders, Leadership Tools, High-Performing Teams, Leadership Mindset, Decision Making, Personal Growth, Leadership Coaching, Organizational Leadership

Mentions:

Tools Of Titans: A Comprehensive Guide To High-Performance Tools And Tactics For Success by Tim Ferriss

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• (00:00) - 58 - The Most Selfish Thing Great Leaders Never Do
• (01:32) - The Consequences of Not Leading Yourself
• (03:08) - Leadership Is Not About You
• (04:29) - 3 Questions You MUST Ask
• (08:44) - Three Activation Steps for Great Self-Leadership
• (09:10) - Step 1: Assess the Execution Gap
• (10:09) - Step 2: Clarify Your Intentional Work State
• (11:20) - Step 3: Build Alignment with Others
• (12:06) - Practical Example
• (14:12) - Conclusion

Dusty sits down with Jacob Karnes—leadership coach, author of Master Your First Job, and former Chick-fil-A leadership development professional—for a conversation about turning early career opportunities into the foundation for long-term leadership impact. Drawing from his journey from a reluctant teenage Chick-fil-A employee to corporate learning and development and ultimately entrepreneurship, Jacob shares how a few pivotal mentors and a people-first philosophy reshaped his understanding of leadership. He and Dusty explore why great leaders focus on caring for people rather than manhandling results, how slowing down creates space for real relationships at work, and why surrounding yourself with complementary thinkers is essential for sustainable growth. Jacob reflects on the mentors who believed in him before he fully believed in himself, the power of investing in talent even when you know they will eventually leave, and the cultural flywheel that forms when leaders treat people as missionaries rather than mercenaries. Through stories of rejection, career reinvention, and building his own coaching practice, Jacob makes a compelling case that success in leadership begins far earlier than most people realize—and that mastering your very first job with humility, curiosity, and discipline can shape the trajectory of an entire career.

Key Timestamps:

(04:36) – Slow Down to Lead

(14:25) – Keystone Moment at Chick-fil-A

(21:29) – Creating Your Dream Role

(29:58) – Leaders Who Invest in People Win

(37:56) – Rapid-Fire Leadership Habits

(44:27) – Where to Get Master Your First Job

Key Topics Discussed:

Leadership Unlocked, Leadership Insights, Dusty Holcomb, Servant Leadership Principles, Self-Leadership Strategies, Growth Mindset in Leadership, Integrity and Leadership, Leadership Development Resources, Effective Leadership Habits, Empowering Leadership Techniques, Senior Executive Insights, Leadership Quotes and Reflections, Leadership Podcast, Executive Coaching, CEO Podcast, Business Leadership, Leadership Growth, Leadership Journey, Stories From Leaders, Leadership Tools, High-Performing Teams, Leadership Mindset, Decision Making, Personal Growth, Leadership Coaching, Organizational Leadership

Mentions:

Website: https://masteryourfirstjob.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jacobkarnes/

Mentions:

Free Book: https://masteryourfirstjob.com/free

https://northpoint.org/be-rich

https://serviceleague.net/

Why We Sleep: Unlocking the Power of Sleep and Dreams by Matthew Walker PhD

Atomic Habits by James Clear

The Ruthless Elimination of Hurry: How to Stay Emotionally Healthy and Spiritually Alive in the Chaos of the Modern World by John Mark Comer

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Dusty goes solo to dismantle one of leadership’s most persistent myths—that work-life balance is something you can achieve and maintain—and replaces it with a more honest and actionable model: balancing as a daily discipline. Sparked by a question about staying present amid competing demands at work and home, he introduces a practical operating system built on three decision “gates” and two critical permissions. Through the lens of burnout research and a deeply personal story reflecting on the lasting impact of a colleague named Sarah, Dusty reframes urgency, showing that most of what feels pressing won’t matter over time—while how we show up always does. He walks through the Time Gate (will this matter in a year?), the Importance Gate (what truly matters right now?), and the Leverage Gate (who can help?), explaining the neuroscience of attention residue and the leadership cost of holding too much alone. Paired with the permissions to ask for help and to operate at 80% when needed, this framework helps leaders reduce guilt, reclaim presence, and focus energy where it compounds. Rather than chasing an impossible equilibrium, Dusty challenges listeners to run this loop consistently—shifting from doing more to mattering more, and leading with clarity, intention, and sustainable impact.

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) – Work-Life Balance Is a Myth

(00:49) – Leaders Are Burning Out

(02:28) – The Leadership That Really Matters

(05:47) – The Time Gate

(07:35) – The Importance Gate

(09:03) – The Leverage Gate

(11:23) – Give Yourself Permission

(13:23) – What to Do About Burnout

Key Topics Discussed:

Leadership Unlocked, Leadership Insights, Dusty Holcomb, Servant Leadership Principles, Self-Leadership Strategies, Growth Mindset in Leadership, Integrity and Leadership, Leadership Development Resources, Effective Leadership Habits, Empowering Leadership Techniques, Senior Executive Insights, Leadership Quotes and Reflections, Leadership Podcast, Executive Coaching, CEO Podcast, Business Leadership, Leadership Growth, Leadership Journey, Stories From Leaders, Leadership Tools, High-Performing Teams, Leadership Mindset, Decision Making, Personal Growth, Leadership Coaching, Organizational Leadership

Mentions:

https://www.ddi.com/blog/prevent-burnout

https://www.ccl.org/categories/work-life-balance/

https://www.uwb.edu/business/faculty/sophie-leroy/attention-residue

https://www.deloitte.com/us/en/insights/topics/leadership/employee-wellness-in-the-corporate-workplace.html

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• (00:00) - Work Life Balance is a Myth
• (00:49) - Leaders Are Burning Out
• (02:28) - The Leadership that Really Matters
• (05:47) - The Time Gate
• (07:35) - The Importance Gate
• (09:03) - The Leverage Gate
• (11:23) - Give Yourself Permission
• (13:23) - What to Do About Burnout
• (15:11) - Conclusion

Dusty sits down with Eric Collette, CEO of A Mind for All Seasons, for a wide-ranging and deeply practical conversation on how leaders can optimize brain health to sustain performance, extend longevity, and lead more effectively. Grounded in both research and real-world case studies, Eric challenges the fatalistic belief that cognitive decline is inevitable, instead outlining a “system of systems” approach that addresses root causes—metabolic health, sleep, stress, nutrition, movement, and even dental hygiene—to improve brain function today while reducing long-term risk of diseases like Alzheimer’s. Through compelling stories, including measurable cognitive recovery in dementia patients, he demonstrates how targeted interventions can drive meaningful change, while also emphasizing that leaders often misdiagnose problems by treating symptoms rather than underlying systems. Together, he and Dusty connect these principles back to leadership, exploring how clarity, alignment, and self-leadership mirror the same diagnostic rigor required in health. Eric reinforces that sustainable performance is built through daily disciplines—intentional movement, nutritional awareness, stress reframing, and reflective practices like prayer and prioritization—and ultimately defines success not by scale, but by impact, challenging leaders to measure their days by whether they meaningfully helped “the one.”

Key Timestamps:

(00:57) – Can Your Brain Improve?

(11:07) – Dementia Turnaround

(16:30) – Hardware Upgrade Analogy

(22:00) - The Difference Between Common and Normal

(26:40) – Brain Training

(34:15) - Diet and Insulin Resistance

(45:30) – Dental Health Surprise

(50:02) – Sleep and Brain Cleanup

(54:56) – Stress and Hormesis

(1:00:08) – Reframing in Fight-or-Flight

(01:02:29) – Rapid-Fire Leadership

Key Topics Discussed:

Leadership Unlocked, Leadership Insights, Dusty Holcomb, Servant Leadership Principles, Self-Leadership Strategies, Growth Mindset in Leadership, Integrity and Leadership, Leadership Development Resources, Effective Leadership Habits, Empowering Leadership Techniques, Senior Executive Insights, Leadership Quotes and Reflections, Leadership Podcast, Executive Coaching, CEO Podcast, Business Leadership, Leadership Growth, Leadership Journey, Stories From Leaders, Leadership Tools, High-Performing Teams, Leadership Mindset, Decision Making, Personal Growth, Leadership Coaching, Organizational Leadership

Mentions:

Website: https://amindforallseasons.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericdcollett/

Mentions:

The Comfort Crisis: Embrace Discomfort To Reclaim Your Wild, Happy, Healthy Self by Michael Easter

Leadership and Self Deception by Arbinger Institute

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Dusty goes solo in an AMA-style episode to break down how leaders can actually implement the Rules of Engagement framework introduced in episode 27, turning a powerful concept into a practical operating system for clarity and alignment. Drawing on years of leadership experience and real client stories, he frames the guide as a “leadership decoder ring”—a living document that makes implicit expectations explicit, eliminating guesswork around communication, decision-making, feedback, and standards. Through answering common fears—overwhelm, sounding too prescriptive, changing the rules midstream, or expecting too much—Dusty emphasizes progress over perfection, encouraging leaders to build and share a 70% complete version and refine it through dialogue. He introduces a rapid “forcing function” workshop method to create the guide in under 30 minutes and highlights the deeper psychology at play: clarity creates psychological safety, alignment closes execution gaps, and explicit commitments outperform assumed responsibility. Anchored by the Apple Watch story—where a COO confidently called him out for violating his own standards—Dusty demonstrates how codified expectations unlock two-way accountability and trust. The result is a scalable leadership system that reduces friction, accelerates performance, and gives teams the clarity they’ve been waiting for—challenging leaders to stop expecting mind-reading and start providing the playbook.

Key Timestamps:

(00:00) – The Rules of Engagement

(03:03) – Q1: Where to Start When It Feels Overwhelming?

(04:42) – Q2: How Does This Guide Differ from a Job Description and Company Values?

(06:16) – Q3: Won't This Feel Like I'm Changing the Rules on My Team?

(08:06) – Q4: Should I Be Aspirational or Brutally Honest?

(09:49) – Q5: How Do I Make Sure I'm Not Being Overly Prescriptive?

(11:56) – Q6: How Do I Set Expectations Without Expecting Everyone to Be a Mini Me?

(16:20) – Q7: Can You Give Me Some Examples of What Others Have Said?

(19:30) – Q8: How Do I Make Decisions?

(21:30) – Q9: What's the Forcing Function Workshop Method?

(23:40) – Q10: What Changes Are Seen When a Leader Implements This?

(26:37) – Q11: What's One Story of This Process in Action?

(28:17) – Free Gift

Key Topics Discussed:

Leadership Unlocked, Leadership Insights, Dusty Holcomb, Servant Leadership Principles, Self-Leadership Strategies, Growth Mindset in Leadership, Integrity and Leadership, Leadership Development Resources, Effective Leadership Habits, Empowering Leadership Techniques, Senior Executive Insights, Leadership Quotes and Reflections, Leadership Podcast, Executive Coaching, CEO Podcast, Business Leadership, Leadership Growth, Leadership Journey, Stories From Leaders, Leadership Tools, High-Performing Teams, Leadership Mindset, Decision Making, Personal Growth, Leadership Coaching, Organizational Leadership

Mentions:

https://arcqusgroup.com/podcast/the-7-rules-of-engagement-that-eliminate-80-of-leadership-frustrations-e27/

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• (00:00) - 54 - The Rules of Engagement
• (03:03) - Q1: Where to start when it feels overwhelming?
• (04:42) - Q2: How does this guide differ from a job description and company values?
• (06:16) - Q3: Won't this feel like I'm changing the rules on my team?
• (08:06) - Q4: Should I be aspirational or brutally honest?
• (09:49) - Q5: How do I make sure I'm not being overly prescriptive?
• (11:53) - Q6: How do I set expectations without expecting everyone to be a mini me?
• (16:16) - Q7: Can you give me some examples of what others have said?
• (19:26) - Q8: How do I make decisions?
• (21:26) - Q9: What's the forcing function workshop method?
• (23:37) - Q10: What changes are seen when a leader implements this?
• (26:34) - Q11: What's one story of this process in action?
• (28:13) - Free Gift

Dusty sits down with Garland and Dorothy Vance—co-founders of Unleashed Leadership—for a candid and insightful conversation about the difference between being remembered as a hero or a villain in the lives of those you lead. Drawing from decades spent researching, testing, and refining leadership development—from running a 15-year “leadership laboratory” inside a nonprofit to building their own firm—the Vances unpack the core philosophies that shape their work: humility, character, courage, and the responsibility leaders carry at the dinner tables of the people they influence. Garland introduces the provocative lens that every leader will be talked about in heroic or villainous terms, while Dorothy emphasizes honoring every person with dignity and respect, regardless of role. Together, they explore the tension between being liked and being needed, the courage required to have hard conversations, the shift from leading teams to leading leaders, and the seven root issues—character, competence, capacity, clarity, community, culture, and consistency—that drive 95% of organizational pain. Through personal stories of toxic environments, transformative mentors, entrepreneurial risk, and the discipline of daily reflection, they challenge leaders to stop hiding behind busyness, stop pretending to have all the answers, and instead build communities where clarity, accountability, and authentic care create lasting impact.

Key Timestamps:

(02:32) – Leadership Laboratory: Hero or Villain

(11:07) – Hard Truths and Courage

(17:42) – Mentors Who Shaped Them

(25:34) – Starting Their Own Firm

(29:06) – Turning Pain Into Purpose

(35:48) – Delegation and Trust Hurdles

(39:49) – Seven Root Leadership Issues

(46:54) – Books and Biographies

(49:01) – Rapid Fire Reflections

(53:05) – Superpowers and Where to Start

(56:00) – Free Book

Key Topics Discussed:

Leadership Unlocked, Leadership Insights, Dusty Holcomb, Servant Leadership Principles, Self-Leadership Strategies, Growth Mindset in Leadership, Integrity and Leadership, Leadership Development Resources, Effective Leadership Habits, Empowering Leadership Techniques, Senior Executive Insights, Leadership Quotes and Reflections, Leadership Podcast, Executive Coaching, CEO Podcast, Business Leadership, Leadership Growth, Leadership Journey, Stories From Leaders, Leadership Tools, High-Performing Teams, Leadership Mindset, Decision Making, Personal Growth, Leadership Coaching, Organizational Leadership

Mentions:

Website: https://unleashedleadership.com/

Garland’s LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/garland-vance/

Free Audiobook for Listeners: https://www.advanceleadership.live/freebook

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Dusty goes solo to unpack the invisible forces silently sabotaging even the most capable leaders—overwhelm, reactive schedules, and misaligned priorities. Anchoring his discussion in the stark warning from Levi Lusko—“if nothing changes, future you will be an exaggerated version of present”—he reveals how constant busyness without clarity only amplifies stress, burnout, and lost impact. Through the story of Robert, a senior leader trapped in reaction mode, Dusty illustrates the transformative power of a three-layered sequence: first, establishing foundational clarity on purpose and long-term vision; second, building alignment by making expectations explicit and securing genuine commitment; and third, creating consistent execution rhythms that reduce cognitive load and attention residue. Rather than piling on effort or discipline, Robert regained focus, performance, and personal time by following this structured sequence, showing that momentum flows from clarity, alignment, and rhythm—not harder work. Dusty leaves listeners with actionable steps to start this week, reframing leadership as a system of deliberate choices instead of endless reaction, and challenging every leader to ask: if nothing changes, what does your future leadership look like?

Key Timestamps:

(01:22) – 52% of Executives Say Their Time Allocation Doesn’t Match Their Priorities

(03:34) – Case Study: Robert’s Story

(05:40) – Building Clarity with Robert

(08:48) – Clarity, Then Alignment, Then Execution

(14:52) – 3 Things You Can Start This Week

(16:55) – Clarity Precedes Momentum

Key Topics Discussed:

Leadership Unlocked, Leadership Insights, Dusty Holcomb, Servant Leadership Principles, Self-Leadership Strategies, Growth Mindset in Leadership, Integrity and Leadership, Leadership Development Resources, Effective Leadership Habits, Empowering Leadership Techniques, Senior Executive Insights, Leadership Quotes and Reflections, Leadership Podcast, Executive Coaching, CEO Podcast, Business Leadership, Leadership Growth, Leadership Journey, Stories From Leaders, Leadership Tools, High-Performing Teams, Leadership Mindset, Decision Making, Personal Growth, Leadership Coaching, Organizational Leadership

Mentions:

https://www.mckinsey.com/capabilities/people-and-organizational-performance/our-insights/making-time-management-the-organizations-priority#/

https://www.ddi.com/blog/leadership-trends-2024

https://www.deloitte.com/us/en/insights/topics/leadership/employee-wellness-in-the-corporate-workplace.html

https://www.uwb.edu/business/faculty/sophie-leroy/attention-residue

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• (00:00) - 52 - Why Future You is Already Decided and What You Can Do About It
• (01:22) - 52% of executives say their time allocation doesn't match their priorities
• (03:34) - Case study: Robert's story
• (05:40) - Building clarity with Robert
• (08:48) - Clarity, then alignment, then execution
• (14:52) - 3 things you can start this week
• (16:55) - Clarity precedes momentum

Dusty sits down with Dawn Grooters—founder of Broken Vessel Sales Solutions—for a deeply personal and practical conversation about servant leadership, resilience, and the power of authentic connection in sales. After building a successful career as a field sales rep in the gift and home industry, Dawn’s life was forever altered when her 11-month-old son, Kale, passed away while she was on the road, forcing her to reimagine both her priorities and her profession. Choosing family, faith, and presence, she pioneered an inside sales model from home—one rooted not in transactions, but in meaningful human connection—discovering along the way that phone calls could drive both revenue and real impact. Through stories of grief, grit, and God-ordained moments, Dawn explains how tragedy refined her leadership philosophy of servant leadership, consistency, and connection, and how that evolution ultimately became Broken Vessel Sales Solutions—a firm that helps sales teams implement inside and hybrid sales systems, leverage CRM tools, and build sustainable growth without burnout. Her journey reframes success as influence, faithfulness, and helping others win—proving that even broken vessels can become powerful instruments for impact.

Key Timestamps:

(01:42) – Servant Leadership Basics

(07:17) – Loss That Changed Everything

(16:17) – Human Connection Over Metrics

(20:37) – COVID Pivot to Hybrid Sales and CRM Discipline

(26:11) – Building the Business

(31:19) – Three Client Services

(39:25) – Rapid Fire Leadership Qs

(43:24) – Cause and Adoption Story

(45:12) – Where to Connect

Key Topics Discussed:

Leadership Unlocked, Leadership Insights, Dusty Holcomb, Servant Leadership Principles, Self-Leadership Strategies, Growth Mindset in Leadership, Integrity and Leadership, Leadership Development Resources, Effective Leadership Habits, Empowering Leadership Techniques, Senior Executive Insights, Leadership Quotes and Reflections, Leadership Podcast, Executive Coaching, CEO Podcast, Business Leadership, Leadership Growth, Leadership Journey, Stories From Leaders, Leadership Tools, High-Performing Teams, Leadership Mindset, Decision Making, Personal Growth, Leadership Coaching, Organizational Leadership

Mentions:

Website: https://www.brokenvesselsales.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dawn-grooters-a8b480105/

Mentions:

Profit First: Transform Your Business From A Cash-eating Monster To A Money-making Machine by Mike Michalowicz

https://www.jonathanshouse.org/

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