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SUMMARY

In the first part of this moving interview, Shar talks with Ariel Collin about her personal experience of falling into and navigating a relationship with a narcissist. Ariel opens up about how the relationship started as a fun whirlwind during the isolation of COVID, only to slowly transform into a web of control, guilt, and isolation. They discuss the difficulty of identifying red flags when you're in the middle of it, the impact of moving away from support systems, and the "beads in a jar" analogy for realizing when a situation has become toxic.

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR

- The "Whirlwind" Trap: Why intense early passion can sometimes be a warning sign rather than a fairy tale.
- What to look out for in terms of isolation tactics used by the narcissist and the impact of isolation.
- Microaggressions and Control: Recognizing the subtle ways a partner might control your clothing, schedule, and even your sleep.
- What is the The "Beads in a Jar" Analogy?
- Why hearing other people's stories is crucial for trusting your own intuition again

GUEST BIO
Ariel Collin is a former educator and sales professional who has successfully transitioned into business ownership. After navigating a long-term toxic relationship, Ariel is now passionate about sharing her story to help others recognize the signs of narcissistic abuse and find the strength to reclaim their lives.

https://www.instagram.com/ariel_not_the_mermaid23/?hl=en

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- Want to be a guest on Life After Narcissism? Send me a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.joinpodmatch.com/sharlenelee
- Email me: hello@sharlenelee.com
- Website: Sharlenelee.com

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The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns.

If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in reaching out for support.

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In this powerful episode, Shar sits down with her dear friend, communication strategist and public speaking coach Natasha Cruz, to discuss the journey of reclaiming your voice after it has been silenced by narcissistic abuse. Natasha shares her personal story of overcoming the fear of public speaking and how she discovered that our voice is more than just sound—it's a carrier of our inner confidence and authority. They explore the signs of a lost voice, the paralyzing power of regret, and why "running towards your Goliath" is the key to stepping into your calling.

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR

• Why the thing you fear most is often exactly what you are called to do.
• What are the indicators of eroded confidence?
• Why being seen and known is a fundamental human need and how raising your voice validates your existence.
• Why dreaming is an act of confidence and how to start dreaming again.

GUEST BIO

Natasha Cruz is a public speaking and communication strategist and consultant, author, and speaker. Originally from South Africa and having lived in the UK, she now calls Houston home. Natasha helps high-achieving professionals find their voice and share their message with confidence, clarity, and authenticity. Her work is born from her own journey of overcoming a debilitating fear of public speaking to become a master of communication.

RESOURCES

• https://www.greatorators.com/
• [Link to Natasha's Book -]

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The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns.

If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in reaching out for support.

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SUMMARY ✍🏽
In this episode of Life After Narcissism, I share a powerful thriver's story with Julie Barth—a writer, mother of six, and survivor of narcissistic abuse. Listen as Julie opens up about her journey from surviving to thriving and the hard-won lessons that helped her reclaim her life and her identity.

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR 🎧

• What are the internal signs to look for when forming new relationships after narcissistic abuse?
• How do we deal with the uncharacteristic ways narcissistic abuse can cause you to behave?
• Uncommon support that women leaving these types of relationships need?

GUEST BIO

JULIE BARTH is a writer, mother of six, trauma survivor, and founder of the Colin James Barth Outreach, a nonprofit dedicated to supporting women-led households in times of crisis. Julie’s memoir, NOTES FROM A BLACKBERRY, is a deeply moving account of love, loss, and resilience, chronicling her journey as a special needs parent while navigating the heartbreaking realities of her first husband’s battle with cancer.

https://www.juliebarthauthor.com/

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Want to be a guest on Life After Narcissism? Send me a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/sharlenelee

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DISCLAIMER

The content shared in Life After Narcissism is for educational and inspirational purposes only and is not intended as a substitute for professional mental health advice, diagnosis, or treatment. If you are struggling with mental health concerns, trauma, or abuse-related issues, please seek support from a licensed therapist, counselor, or qualified healthcare provider.
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The experiences and perspectives shared by guests reflect their personal stories and are not meant to replace individualized care or professional counseling. If you are in an unsafe situation, please prioritize your safety by reaching out to trusted professionals or local authorities. You can contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline 24/7 at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), text "START" to 88788, or visit thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in asking for help.
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The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns.

If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in reaching out for support.

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SUMMARY

In this powerful episode, I sit down with Jennifer Oneil, a psychotherapist with 30 years of experience and author of the new book, Surviving the Narcissist. Jennifer shares her deep insights into the consistent dynamics of narcissistic abuse and why it often leaves victims feeling "crazy" and dysregulated. The conversation explores the necessity of radical acceptance, the "death of hope" as a path to realistic healing, and the strategic importance of building a support team when navigating or leaving a toxic relationship. Whether you are currently in a relationship with a narcissist or have already left, this episode provides the validation and practical tools needed to reclaim your sense of self.

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR

• The Myth of "Praying it Away": Why faith alone isn't a solution for the systemic toxicity of narcissistic abuse.
• Normalizing Your Reaction: Understanding that reacting to "crazy" behavior is a sign of health, not a lack of mental stability.
• The "Chronically Offended": Why trying to keep a narcissist calm is a losing battle and how to tolerate their inevitable distress.
• Strategic Leaving: The essential components of a "team" you need when deciding to break free, including legal and therapeutic support.

GUEST BIO

Jennifer O'Neal is a psychotherapist in private practice with over three decades of experience helping clients navigate complex emotional landscapes. Known as an "emotional ninja," Jennifer specializes in the dynamics of narcissism and narcissistic abuse. She is the author of the recently released book, Surviving the Narcissist, which serves as a guide for those seeking to make sense of the chaos and rebuild their lives. Her work is grounded in both clinical training and the profound lessons learned from her clients' lived experiences.

RESOURCES

Jennifer's book: Surviving the narcissist

More content from Jennifer

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Want to be a guest on Life After Narcissism? Send me a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/sharlenelee

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The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns.

If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in reaching out for support.

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SUMMARY

In Part two of the interview with Antoinette Lee, she share her story of creating the purposeful and fulfilling life that she desired. We also discuss the practical steps of creating the new life you desire after narcissistic abuse.

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR

• The Key questions you should ask yourself when rebuilding your new life
• How to dream big and not worry about how everything will work out

RESOURCES

• Episode on the cycle of narcissistic abuse
• Free guide: ⛓️‍💥 Guide to breaking free from Narcissistic abuse ⛓️‍💥
• Quiz: ✅ Have I experienced narcissistic abuse: quick quiz

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Want to be a guest on Life After Narcissism? Send me a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/sharlenelee

Email me: hello@sharlenelee.com

Website: Sharlenelee.com

Thinking about coaching to help you on your journey but not sure if it’s right for you? Click here to schedule a call with Sharlene Lee

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DISCLAIMER

The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns.

If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in reaching out for support.

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SUMMARY

Today's episode features a miraculous survivor story combined with expert insights on rebuilding after narcissistic abuse, infused with hope. Our guest, Antoinette Lee, shares her journey from a traumatic brain injury to a flourishing life, offering wisdom on early awareness of narcissistic abuse.

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR

• Early awareness of abuse - what to look out for
• The number one boundary you must set in relationships
• The Key questions you should ask yourself when rebuilding your new life

RESOURCES

• Episode on the cycle of narcissistic abuse
• Free guide: ⛓️‍💥 Guide to breaking free from Narcissistic abuse ⛓️‍💥
• Quiz: ✅ Have I experienced narcissistic abuse: quick quiz

CONNECT WITH ME

Want to be a guest on Life After Narcissism? Send me a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/sharlenelee

Email me: hello@sharlenelee.com

Website: Sharlenelee.com

Thinking about coaching to help you on your journey but not sure if it’s right for you? Click here to schedule a call with Sharlene Lee

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DISCLAIMER

The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns.

If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in reaching out for support.

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SUMMARY

Shar speaks with health and fitness expert Michelle Spadafora about why so many fitness and health plans fail —not because women don’t know what to do, but because years of manipulation and criticism have shaped the beliefs and stories they quietly tell themselves Michelle shares spiritual and practical truths to help listeners in their health and wellness journey as they heal from narcissistic abuse.

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR

• How faith is connected to fitness and wellbeing
• Why it’s necessary to look beyond only on behavior change (what you eat, how you move) for success
• Practical ways to identify lies you’ve believed about your body, worth, and willpower that will help you succeed this time
• how inviting God into your wellness journey leads to real, lasting growth.

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Bio

Michelle Spadafora is the founder of Faithful Workouts, a global movement that blends faith, fitness, and food to help people strengthen their bodies while deepening their relationship with God. For over a decade, Michelle has inspired thousands through her Christian-based workouts, motivational speaking, and faith-centered wellness programs, empowering women to live with energy, joy, and purpose. Her approach goes beyond traditional fitness, it’s about transforming hearts and habits through biblical truth, movement, and community.

• Michelle Spadafora's Website
• Free workouts here: https://www.youtube.com/user/faithfulworkouts
• Facebook

RESOURCES

• Free guide: ⛓️‍💥 Guide to breaking free from Narcissistic abuse ⛓️‍💥
• Quiz: ✅ Have I experienced narcissistic abuse: quick quiz

CONNECT WITH ME

Want to be a guest on Life After Narcissism? Send me a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/sharlenelee

Email me: hello@sharlenelee.com

Website: Sharlenelee.com

Thinking about coaching to help you on your journey but not sure if it’s right for you? Click here to schedule a call with Sharlene Lee

DISCLAIMER

The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualifi

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DISCLAIMER

The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns.

If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in reaching out for support.

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SUMMARY

Mia Hanks shares her transformative journey from surviving a 29-year marriage to a narcissist to thriving in her new life. Through her story, she highlights the complexities of living with a narcissist, the awakening to the truth, the challenges of leaving, and the healing process that follows. Mia emphasizes the importance of self-care, building a support system, and recognizing red flags in relationships.

WHAT TO LISTEN FOR

• What are the complexities of leaving a relationship with a narcissist?
• How to deal with guilt and shame after leaving
• What are some of the red flags to look out for to spot narcissists in relationships

GUEST BIO

Mia Hanks is a survivor of narcissistic abuse. She was married to a covert narcissist for 29 years and is the author of an award winning book titled Bride-Made: A Memoir. Mia is hoping that her story will help raise awareness about narcissism and help other victims find their voices.

Connect with Mia https://miajhanks.com

RESOURCES

• Free guide: ⛓️‍💥 Guide to breaking free from Narcissistic abuse ⛓️‍💥
• Quiz: ✅ Have I experienced narcissistic abuse: quick quiz

CONNECT WITH ME

Want to be a guest on Life After Narcissism? Send me a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/sharlenelee

Email me: hello@sharlenelee.com

Website: Sharlenelee.com

Thinking about coaching to help you on your journey but not sure if it’s right for you? Click here to schedule a call with Sharlene Lee

DISCLAIMER

The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns.

If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame

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DISCLAIMER

The content shared in this episode is intended for educational and informational purposes only and should not be considered a substitute for professional mental health care, diagnosis, or advice. Every situation is unique, so listeners are encouraged to consult a qualified mental health provider for personalized support or any medical concerns.

If you ever find yourself in an unsafe or dangerous situation, please prioritize your safety by seeking immediate help from trusted professionals or local authorities. You can reach the National Domestic Violence Hotline for confidential assistance 24/7 by calling 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), texting “START” to 88788, or visiting thehotline.org. Your well-being matters, and there is no shame in reaching out for support.