Episodes

  • 57. "Your 'Good Man' Is Draining Your Ability to Build — And You're Letting Him"

    57. "Your 'Good Man' Is Draining Your Ability to Build — And You're Letting Him"
    May 13 2026

    Description:

    Your partner is draining your ability to build. And you're letting him.

    I'm not talking about the obviously shitty partners. I'm talking about the "good men." The ones who don't cheat, don't hit you, don't gamble away your savings.

    And because of that, they get a pass on everything else.

    You're so busy resenting him, so emotionally exhausted from carrying the entire relationship alone, that you have zero energy left to build anything for yourself.

    And here's the part that's going to piss you off: You're the one giving away your happiness. And expecting HIM to give it back.

    In this episode I'm dropping truth bombs about the embarrassingly low bar we have for men, why your resentment is draining your purpose, and the controversial thing I said about sex that's going to make some of you uncomfortable.

    Plus 3 action steps to take your power back. And 1 simple thing you can do today to start building anyway.

    Stop waiting. Stop resenting. Stop giving it away.

    Take it back.

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    28 mins
  • 56. Stop Tearing Other Moms Down — Empowerment Means Actually Showing the F*ck Up

    56. Stop Tearing Other Moms Down — Empowerment Means Actually Showing the F*ck Up
    May 6 2026

    Description:

    I'm so tired of women saying "empower women" then ripping each other apart in the comments.

    Breastfeed? "Shut the fuck up. Is it your tit? No. Your baby? No. Then shut up about it."

    Holistic mom? "You lunatic! Science is science!"

    Don't medicate your kids? "Who the fuck are you to put heavy metals in your child?"

    Vaccinate, don't vaccinate. Co-sleep, sleep train. Who cares?

    We can't win. No matter what we do, someone's got something to say.

    And it's not just men doing it to us. It's US. Women tearing each other apart. Then slapping an "empowerment" sticker on it and calling it a day.

    That's not empowerment.

    Empowerment is showing up when a mom says she's drowning. Not judging her. Not saying "well you chose to have kids."

    But saying: "Me fucking too. Let me help."

    In this episode: why we're still stuck in 1800s competition mode, what REAL support looks like, the island metaphor (let's get in our boats and save each other), and my challenge to you.

    Because we're so much better together. And it's time we started acting like it.

    #MeFuckingToo

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    32 mins
  • 55. Wake Up Exhausted, Go to Bed Exhausted, Repeat — You're Not Failing, The System Is

    55. Wake Up Exhausted, Go to Bed Exhausted, Repeat — You're Not Failing, The System Is
    Apr 29 2026

    Description: Last week I screamed at my daughter while trying to build my business. She looked at me with her perfect little face and said "I don't understand why you're being so mean. I'm not talking to you in a mean way." It broke my fucking heart.

    Here I am telling you to regulate your nervous system, and I'm not always living up to my own words. And it's HARD.

    After I apologized (and she said "It's okay Mommy, I love you forever"), I did all the things. Homework. Dinner. Sports drop-off and pick-up. Then I sat in my car in the driveway for 10 minutes. Too tired to move. Too overwhelmed to think.

    And I thought: this is my life, every single day, on repeat. Wake up exhausted. Rush through the morning. Work. Feel guilty I'm not doing enough. Go to bed exhausted. Do it all again tomorrow.

    For a second I thought "maybe I'm just not cut out for this. Maybe other moms have it figured out and I'm just failing."

    But that's EXACTLY what they want you to think. That YOU'RE the problem. That you're not organized enough, disciplined enough, strong enough.

    But you're not the problem. The system is the problem.

    In this episode I break down how the system is designed to keep moms exhausted and dysregulated (childcare costs = your paycheck, no maternity leave, healthcare tied to jobs, school ends at 2:30, PTO is a joke, sports run you ragged). I talk about how your unhealed wounds (like fawning) sabotage your business, why you can't build from survival mode, how to regulate WHILE building, why digital products are the answer, and how to break the cycle for your kids.

    You're not failing. The system is rigged. But you can fight back anyway.

    Your kids are watching. Show them what's possible.

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    36 mins
  • 54. Staying Broke Is Trauma Bonding — And They're Counting on You to Stay Small

    54. Staying Broke Is Trauma Bonding — And They're Counting on You to Stay Small
    Apr 22 2026
    Staying broke is a form of trauma bonding. And the system is counting on you to stay there.I know that sounds harsh. But hear me out.There is COMFORT in staying broke. There is SAFETY in bonding over shared struggle. There is BELONGING in complaining about how expensive everything is.You're at the grocery store. You see the price of eggs. You turn to the stranger next to you and say, "Can you BELIEVE this?" And they agree. And for a moment, you're not alone. You're connected. You BELONG.That bonding? That instant connection over shared suffering? That's trauma bonding.And it's keeping you STUCK.In this raw, truth-telling episode, I break down:What trauma bonding actually is: Trauma bonding is when you bond with people over shared pain, shared struggle, or a shared enemy. And when you're broke, you have an instant shared enemy: the system, the economy, the government, rich people, corporations.That creates IMMEDIATE connection with other people who are also broke. You bond at the grocery store. At work. On Instagram. Over and over.And here's the science (I'm only saying this ONCE): When you bond with someone, your brain releases oxytocin (the bonding hormone) and dopamine (the reward chemical). Every time you complain about being broke and someone agrees, your brain gets a chemical hit that says "this is good, do more of this."Your brain becomes wired to SEEK OUT opportunities to bond over struggle. Not because you WANT to be broke, but because your brain has learned: bonding over being broke = feel good.Why trauma bonding keeps you stuck: As long as you're bonding over the PROBLEM, you're not building a SOLUTION. You're too busy venting, commiserating, finding people who agree that everything is fucked.And the system LOVES that. Because broke people who are trauma bonded don't rise, don't build, don't threaten the status quo. They just stay stuck. Together.How the system weaponizes "we're all in this together": Remember COVID? The tagline was EVERYWHERE: "We're all in this together."It sounded comforting. Unifying. But here's what it actually was: a trauma bonding tool to keep you compliant.Because when you believe "we're all in this together," you believe everyone is struggling the same way, everyone is following the same rules. And if EVERYONE is doing it, it must be right.Anyone who questioned was labeled selfish, dangerous, not part of the "we." They were cast out. And the herd turned on them.That's EXACTLY how the system keeps you controlled. They create shared struggle, give you a tagline to bond over, then punish anyone who steps outside.The same thing happens with being broke. The system has created a culture where EVERYONE is struggling, EVERYONE is broke. And if you try to BUILD wealth? You're greedy, selfish, out of touch. Not part of the "we" anymore.The JCAHO example (and corporate America): I talk about JCAHO — the people who create hospital rules that nurses have to follow even though they've NEVER worked as a nurse. But it's every corporate structure.Management creates policies that frontline workers have to follow. Those policies are often stupid, wasteful, time-consuming. But if you push back, you're "not a team player."And your coworkers turn on you. Because they're trauma bonded over shared suffering. "We ALL have to follow the stupid policy. Who does SHE think she is?"The system KNOWS how to use mass manipulation for control. And it works.Why building a business is a giant FUCK YOU to the system: Building a business where you have financial freedom AND you're home with your kids is the biggest middle finger you can give to the system.Because you're proving their lie is a lie. You DON'T have to choose between working and raising your kids. You DON'T have to stay broke to belong. You DON'T have to be a conformist.You CAN build wealth. You CAN think differently. You CAN break free.And when you show other women it's possible? You're threatening the ENTIRE SYSTEM.What happens when you leave the broke herd: It's fucking hard. You lose instant connection, easy belonging, automatic community. You can't bond with strangers over egg prices anymore. You can't vent with coworkers about your paycheck.People will try to pull you back. "Must be nice." "You've changed." "You don't get it anymore."Your nervous system freaks out because rejection = pain.But here's the truth: You WILL grieve. You're losing something real. And that's okay. On the other side is a NEW community of women who are ALSO building, ALSO rising, ALSO refusing to stay small.The new dopamine you get from building: When you're bonding over being broke, you get dopamine from COMPLAINING. But when you're BUILDING a business, you get dopamine from:Progress (every small win, every sale)Pride (knowing you built something)Freedom (affording things without stress, saying NO to what you don't want)Power (not being dependent on a boss or system)That's a different kind of high. And your brain LOVES it.How to actually rewire your nervous ...
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    45 mins
  • 53. Your Brain Is Chemically Addicted to Staying Small — Here's the Neuroscience (And How to Break Free)

    53. Your Brain Is Chemically Addicted to Staying Small — Here's the Neuroscience (And How to Break Free)
    Apr 15 2026
    Your brain is chemically addicted to fitting in. And it's sabotaging you every time you try to build something different.You WANT to start a business. You WANT financial independence. You WANT to break free from the 9-to-5.But every time you sit down to actually DO it — you suddenly need to clean the kitchen. You scroll for three hours. You convince yourself it's not the right time.And you think that's laziness. Or lack of discipline.But it's not.Your nervous system thinks building a business will literally kill you.And I'm not being dramatic. I'm talking about actual neuroscience here. Brain chemistry. Hormones. Your gut communicating with your brain.In this deep-dive science episode, I'm breaking down EXACTLY what's happening in your brain and body when you try to step outside the herd:THE NEUROSCIENCE OF BELONGING (why you're addicted to fitting in):When you're part of a group, your brain releases OXYTOCIN (the bonding hormone that makes you feel safe and calm)When you conform and get validation, your brain releases DOPAMINE (the reward chemical that makes you feel accomplished)Your brain becomes ADDICTED to these chemicals — and the easiest way to get them is to DO WHAT EVERYONE ELSE IS DOINGWhen you DON'T fit in, your brain interprets it as REJECTION — which activates the SAME pain centers in your brain as PHYSICAL INJURY (fMRI studies prove this)Posting on Instagram with no engagement? Your brain literally thinks you broke your arm. Sending an email and nobody buys? Your brain thinks you're being rejected and in DANGER.THE VAGUS NERVE + CO-REGULATION:Your vagus nerve runs from your brainstem through your heart, lungs, and gut — and it's responsible for co-regulationWhen you're around calm people, your nervous system calms down. When you're around anxious people, you get anxious too.When you're part of a group, your vagus nerve helps regulate you — you literally feel SAFERWhen you step outside the group? Your vagus nerve freaks out. You feel anxious, dysregulated, like something's wrong. Not because something IS wrong — but because your biology is designed to keep you WITH the herd.HOW THE SYSTEM WEAPONIZES YOUR BIOLOGY: This is where I get PISSED. Because the system KNOWS all of this. And they use it against you.Corporate culture uses "team player" language to keep you conforming. If you question a stupid policy? You're labeled "difficult" or "not a culture fit." Your nervous system registers that as REJECTION = PAIN, so you learn to just do what you're told.Government messaging during crises always says: "Trust the experts. Don't do your own research. If you question us, you're dangerous." And anyone who questions gets labeled a conspiracy theorist. Your nervous system hears that and thinks: DANGER. Don't step outside the group.The education system is where they START the conditioning — when you're FIVE YEARS OLD. Sit in your desk. Be quiet. Do what the teacher says. Don't question. Obedience = gold star. Questioning = punishment. You learn to trust authority over your own gut from CHILDHOOD.YOUR GUT INSTINCT IS REAL NEUROSCIENCE (not woo-woo): You have an enteric nervous system — your SECOND BRAIN in your gut. It has over 100 MILLION neurons (more than your spinal cord). It constantly sends signals to your brain via the vagus nerve, telling you: "This feels wrong. This doesn't align."That's what gut instinct is. And studies show it's RIGHT more often than rational thought in certain situations.But the system has spent your ENTIRE LIFE teaching you to IGNORE IT. "Don't trust your gut. Trust the teacher. Trust your boss. Trust the government."And when you DO trust your gut? You're made to feel crazy. Paranoid. Overreacting.And that's how they win. Because a woman who trusts her gut? Who questions authority? She's DANGEROUS. She doesn't stay in bad marriages or toxic jobs. She builds something different. And the system can't have that.WHY YOU CAN'T BUILD FROM A DYSREGULATED NERVOUS SYSTEM: When your nervous system is dysregulated (chronic stress, anxiety, overwhelm), your prefrontal cortex (the part of your brain responsible for planning, decision-making, creativity, problem-solving) SHUTS DOWN.All your energy goes to your amygdala — your threat detection system.From THAT state, you can't make clear decisions, think strategically, stay consistent, or believe in yourself. You're just in panic mode. Reacting. Scrambling. Burning out.And this is why so many women START businesses but never finish them. They're trying to build from a dysregulated state.THE "I'M JUST ONE PERSON" LIE: That voice in your head that says "I'm just one person, what can I do?" — that's not YOUR voice. That's the system's conditioning.Because they NEED you to believe you're powerless. That individual action doesn't matter.But here's the truth: Every single movement in history started with ONE PERSON. Rosa Parks. Greta Thunberg. The mom who starts the Facebook group that becomes a national movement.You're ...
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    40 mins
  • 52. They Don't Want You to Know You Have Options — Here's Why I'm Making Sure You Do

    52. They Don't Want You to Know You Have Options — Here's Why I'm Making Sure You Do
    Apr 8 2026
    The system is designed to keep you trapped.Corporate America is NOT set up for women to succeed. It's not set up for you to raise a family AND have financial freedom. It's not set up for you to leave a marriage if you need to.It's set up to keep you exhausted. Distracted. Dependent. So you keep working. So you keep showing up. So you keep being a good little cog in the wheel.And they've convinced you that this is just how it is.But here's what they don't want you to know: There's another way.In this powerful manifesto episode, I'm getting brutally honest about how the system traps women — and why financial independence isn't just nice to have, it's SURVIVAL.I share the story that shaped everything for me: I was in elementary school when my dad left. And he didn't just leave — he took every cent. My mom was a stay-at-home mom of FIVE kids with no income, no savings, no career to fall back on. Overnight, we went from comfortable to not being able to afford dinner. My grandparents had to step in and save us.I watched my mom beg for help. I watched her realize she had no options. No way out. No safety net.And I made myself a promise that day: I will NEVER be that woman. And I will do everything in my power to make sure other women aren't trapped either.This episode breaks down exactly how the system keeps you dependent:Childcare costs more than most women make (the math that forces you to stay home OR work for nearly nothing)The U.S. has NO federal paid maternity leave (you're punished for having children)You can't survive on one income anymore (both parents HAVE to work just to scrape by)If you're financially dependent on your spouse, you can't leave even if you need to (and the system is fine with that)But here's the secret they don't want you to know: Women are finding another way.They're building digital product businesses. Online coaching. Courses. Things that sell while they sleep. They're working 10-20 hours per week and making MORE than they did working 40+ hours for someone else. They're home when their kids get off the bus. They're not choosing between career and family. They have BOTH.And most importantly? They have OPTIONS.If they want to stay in their marriage — they're choosing it, not surviving it. If they want to leave — they can, because they have their own money. If their spouse dies suddenly — they're not left destitute.That is POWER. Real power. Financial independence. The ability to say, "I don't need you. I CHOOSE you." Or, "I don't choose you. And I'm going to be fine."And the system HATES that. Because women with options don't tolerate bullshit.This episode is for you if:You're in a marriage because you can't afford to leave (not because you're choosing to stay)You're working a job you hate because you need the paycheckYou're exhausted from trying to do it all and wondering if this is all there isYou feel financially trapped and don't know how to get outYou want options — real options — in your marriage, your career, and your lifeYou're ready to build something that gives you time, money, and FREEDOMWhat we cover:The story of my dad leaving and taking everything (and why I'll never let that be your story)How childcare costs trap women (the average cost is $14-18K per year PER CHILD while women's average salary is $50K)Why the U.S. is one of the only developed countries with NO paid maternity leaveHow you can't survive on one income anymore (and why both parents working still leaves you broke)Why leaving a toxic or abusive marriage is nearly impossible when you're financially dependentThe secret they don't want you to know: digital products, online coaching, and income while you sleepWhy women with financial independence have POWER — real powerHow to start building something that's YOURS (even if you have no special skills, no time, no money)The truth: You don't have to choose between your family and your freedom. You don't have to sacrifice yourself to keep everyone else afloat. You don't have to stay trapped.You can build something. Something that's YOURS. Something that gives you income, time, and options.Ready to start? I have a free guide on how to build digital products from scratch — no huge investment, no special skills required. Just you, your story, and the determination to build something different.Explore All of Lauren’s Freebies and Coaching OffersConnect with Lauren:Instagram: @laurentroutRN_coach AND @wealthymamamethodEmail: lauren@mindyourmama.org
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    26 mins
  • 51. I'm Drowning in Motherhood and I'm Done Pretending I'm Not

    51. I'm Drowning in Motherhood and I'm Done Pretending I'm Not
    Apr 1 2026

    Motherhood is the best thing that's ever happened to me. And also one of the hardest.

    And I'm done pretending those two things can't both be true at the same time.

    In this raw, unfiltered episode, I'm getting honest about what it really feels like to be drowning in motherhood. The exhaustion. The depletion. The feeling like your kids are little vampires sucking the soul out of you — even though you love them with everything you have.

    I talk about why the system is set up to keep us exhausted, stuck, and too busy to pay attention. Why we're trained from childhood to sit at a desk, take orders, trade time for money, and never question if there's another way.

    I also get real about why your kids trigger you — and spoiler alert: it's not because you're a bad mom. It's because they're mirrors of the unhealed parts of yourself. My oldest daughter shows me everything I haven't healed yet. And learning to parent her while re-parenting myself? That's the work.

    And here's what nobody talks about: you can't do this work if you're completely depleted. You need something that's YOURS. Not bubble baths. Not scrolling on your phone. But something real — an identity outside of "mom" that fills you up instead of draining you.

    This episode is about breaking cycles. Not just for you. But for your kids. Because they're watching. And what you model for them — shrinking yourself or betting on yourself — that's what they'll learn is possible.

    Listen if you:

    1. Feel like you're drowning in motherhood even though you love your kids
    2. Are exhausted, depleted, and touched out by the end of every day
    3. Get triggered by your children and wonder why
    4. Feel guilty for wanting something outside of being a mom
    5. Are tired of the 9-to-5 grind and want to build something that's yours
    6. Want to break generational cycles but don't know where to start
    7. Need permission to say motherhood is hard without feeling like a bad mom

    What we cover:

    1. Why motherhood is both the best and hardest thing (and why both are true)
    2. The lie that if you're struggling, something's wrong with you
    3. How the system keeps us exhausted, depleted, and stuck
    4. Why your kids trigger you: they're mirrors of your unhealed self
    5. The story of my oldest daughter and why she shows me everything I haven't healed
    6. Re-parenting yourself while parenting your kids
    7. Why you can't do this work if you're completely depleted
    8. Why you need something that's YOURS (not just self-care — real identity work)
    9. How building a business/podcast gave me back my power
    10. Why your kids are watching — and what you're teaching them about what's possible
    11. Breaking cycles not just for you, but for your children and their children

    Resources mentioned:

    1. Therapy and inner work
    2. Deep breathing exercises (whale breaths with my 7-year-old!)
    3. Building something that's yours: coaching, podcasting, business.

    If you're drowning in the 9-to-5 grind and ready to build a life where you have TIME, SPACE, and ENERGY to do the inner work — check out my Stan Store for resources, templates, and ways to work with me. You don't need to have it figured out to start. You just need to be willing.

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    42 mins
  • 50. I Yelled at My Daughter This Morning and I Can't Stop Crying About It

    50. I Yelled at My Daughter This Morning and I Can't Stop Crying About It
    Mar 25 2026

    I yelled at my 12-year-old daughter this morning. And then I sat in my car after drop off and cried.

    Not because she hurt my feelings. But because I saw myself. I saw my father. I saw every person who ever yelled at me when I was a kid and made me feel small and terrified.

    And I swore — I SWORE — I would never do that to my kids.

    In this raw, unfiltered episode, I'm getting brutally honest about what it's really like to try to break generational trauma while you're still healing from it. About getting triggered by your own children. About the crushing mom guilt that comes when you repeat the exact patterns you promised yourself you'd never pass down.

    I talk about growing up in a verbally and physically abusive home where staying small kept me safe. About having a stalker for 20 years and living in constant hypervigilance. About how those survival strategies followed me into motherhood — and how they show up even now, decades later, when my daughter is angry.

    This episode doesn't have a neat bow. I don't give you five steps to never get triggered again. Because I don't have it figured out.

    What I DO give you is permission. Permission to be human. Permission to mess up. Permission to yell at your kid and then go back and repair. Permission to be doing the work even when it's messy and hard and you keep fucking up.

    Because that's what breaking generational trauma actually looks like. Not perfection. Repair.

    Listen if you:

    1. Yelled at your kids today and can't stop feeling guilty about it
    2. Are trying to break generational trauma but keep repeating the same patterns
    3. Get triggered by your children's big emotions
    4. Grew up in an abusive or dysfunctional home and don't want your kids to have the same experience
    5. Feel like you're failing at motherhood even though you're doing everything "right"
    6. Wonder if you're passing down trauma to your children
    7. Need permission to be imperfect and still be a good mom

    What we cover:

    1. What happened this morning with my 12-year-old daughter (the real, unedited story)
    2. Why I get triggered when my daughter is angry — and what that has to do with my childhood
    3. How growing up in an abusive home wired my nervous system to see anger as danger
    4. The 20-year stalker experience and how hypervigilance became my default setting
    5. Why healing isn't linear — and why you can do all the therapy and still fuck up
    6. The difference between me and the people who raised me: I go back and repair
    7. What breaking generational trauma actually looks like (spoiler: it's not perfection)
    8. The 3 things I'm practicing: Awareness, Repair, Compassion
    9. Why the fact that you feel guilty means you're already breaking the cycle

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    Stan Store:https://stan.store/laurenTrout— Resources for moms ready to build businesses and create lives where they have TIME and SPACE to do the inner work

    If you're a mom who's tired of the 9-5 grind and ready to build something that's YOURS — check out my Stan Store for free resources, digital product templates, and coaching programs. You don't need to be healed to start. You just need to be willing.
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    28 mins