What do you do when betting on yourself feels like painting a target on your back?

In this raw, unfiltered episode, Lauren shares the story she's been avoiding — growing up in an abusive household, surviving 20+ years with a stalker, and learning that staying small and invisible was the only way to stay safe. And then deciding to build a business anyway.

If you've ever thought "I'm too broken to do this" or "visibility feels dangerous" or "wanting more means I'll lose everything I have" — this episode will crack you wide open.

This isn't a rah-rah business pep talk. This is about what it actually takes to bet on yourself when your nervous system has been trained to believe that being seen equals danger.

You'll learn:

1. Why survival strategies don't turn off just because the threat is over
2. How to rewire your nervous system to believe that visibility ≠ danger
3. The exact fear-naming practice that helps you take action anyway
4. Why your mess is actually your message (and your greatest business asset)
5. What "outdated fear" is and how to recognize when you're operating from old programming

Listen if:

1. You've been sitting on a dream because you're afraid to be visible
2. You grew up learning to stay small and now you're teaching yourself to take up space
3. You think your trauma disqualifies you from building something
4. You want to start a business but every step forward feels terrifying
5. You're a mom who's ready to bet on herself but doesn't know where to start

This one's heavy. This one's real. And this one might be exactly what you need to finally take the first step.

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Email: lauren@mindyourmama.org

Have you ever looked at your life — the kids, the husband, the routine — and thought, "This is everything I wanted... so why do I feel so empty?"

If you've lost yourself in motherhood and don't know how to find your way back, this episode is for you. Today we're talking about maternal identity crisis, matrescence (the transformation into motherhood), and why wanting more doesn't make you a bad mom — it makes you human.

Lauren gets brutally honest about her own journey from invisible, people-pleasing survival mode to finally asking the question: who am I when I'm not taking care of everyone else?

This is the conversation about motherhood identity loss that nobody's having — but every mom needs to hear.

Listen if you:

1. Feel like you've disappeared into the role of "mom"
2. Struggle to name a single thing you do just for yourself
3. Resent your life even though you "should" be grateful
4. Wonder if this is really all there is
5. Want permission to want more

Work with Lauren: If you're ready to stop disappearing and start building a life that feels like YOURS — come find Lauren on Instagram and DM the word "MORE" to learn about 1:1 coaching and digital product creation for moms who are done with the 9-5 grind

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Email: lauren@mindyourmama.org

If you've landed here wondering who Lauren is and whether this podcast is for you — this episode is your answer.

In this raw, unfiltered episode, Lauren shares the story she's never told in one place — from growing up in a volatile, abusive household, to being kicked out at 17 and living out of her car, to putting herself through nursing school, climbing to Director of Nursing, and still feeling like she was failing at everything.

The moment everything changed? Her 10-year-old son Jack looked up at her with tears streaming down his face and said "Mommy, my least favorite part of my day is coming home."

That was the wake up call.

In this episode Lauren covers:

1. How childhood trauma shaped her people-pleasing, identity-shifting patterns
2. Why tying your entire worth to nursing leads to burnout — fast
3. What it felt like to become Director of Nursing and still feel like a fraud
4. Why she left her job and started this podcast
5. Where Mind Your Mama is headed — and why burnt out nurses are sitting on a gold mine
6. How identity work, nervous system regulation, and digital products can change everything

This podcast is for the nurse who is exhausted, invisible at home, and knows deep down there is something more for her. You are not just a nurse. And Lauren is here to prove it.

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Email: lauren@mindyourmama.org

What if sleeping in separate beds from your husband was actually good for your marriage? What if scheduling sex was the secret to having more of it — and better? Lauren and Emily are back together for an unfiltered, judgment-free conversation that goes from sleep habits to self-worth, intimacy to parenting, and everything messy in between.

This is the raw, real talk that most people are thinking but nobody's saying out loud — and it just might change the way you look at your relationship.

1. The "Sleep Divorce" trend — what it is, why couples are doing it, and why it might actually save your marriage (not end it)
2. Why nighttime is the worst time for sex (for most moms) — and why that's completely valid
3. Scheduled sex: game-changer or romance killer? The surprising truth about why planned intimacy works
4. How movies, Bridgerton, and spicy romance books create unrealistic expectations about what sex should look like
5. The "roommate" problem — how couples slide from passionate partners to disconnected co-parents, and what actually pulls them back
6. Setting boundaries around intimacy without your partner feeling rejected
7. Using sex as a source of self-worth — Lauren gets vulnerable about her younger years and why she's determined her daughters won't make the same mistake
8. The 3-part journaling method Emily uses daily to build self-worth and feel "enough"
9. Do-overs in parenting — why repairing after you lose your cool matters more than getting it right every time
10. Why women collaborating is unstoppable — and a possible co-hosting announcement 👀

1. Sleep divorce is not a relationship failure — for many couples, better sleep means better moods, less resentment, and more desire
2. Set boundaries around when you're available for sex — and communicate them clearly, not reactively
3. Scheduling sex removes the guesswork and lets both partners show up intentionally rather than one person always feeling rejected or the other always feeling pestered
4. Media — from Bridgerton to romance novels to porn — sets unrealistic standards for what intimacy looks like, and comparing your sex life to those standards will always make you feel like you're failing
5. Self-worth is not determined by your frequency of sex, your partner's desire for you, or any external metric
6. Communication is the foundation — most couples slide into roommate territory not because they...

We were handed a blueprint.

Go to school.

Get good grades.

Climb the ladder.

Get married.

Buy the house.

Be grateful.

Don’t complain.

And if you do it all… you win.

But what do you actually win?

In this raw, unfiltered episode, Lauren pulls back the curtain on the “dream” so many high-achieving women were taught to chase — and what it cost her to finally admit it wasn’t hers.

From becoming Director of Nursing to feeling like a fraud…

From checking every box to feeling like a ghost in her own life…

From being needed to realizing she just wanted to be loved.

This episode is about:

• Performance-based identity

• Tying worth to usefulness

• The exhaustion of being the “strong one”

• Motherhood and soul-level burnout

• Approval addiction

• And what happens when you wake up

If you’ve ever laid in bed thinking, “Is this really it?”

This one will hit.

You don’t have to burn your life down.

But you do have to stop worshipping a dream that was never custom-built for you.

If this episode cracked something open for you, that’s not a breakdown — that’s awareness.

Inside my 1:1 coaching, we untangle the identity you inherited and help you build one that’s actually yours.

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Email: lauren@mindyourmama.org

In this episode of Mind Your Mama, we’re talking about the identities we learned to perform in order to feel loved. The good girl. The strong one. The fixer. The needed one.

I’m sharing a personal story about how I tied my worth to being the one people came to — and what happened when someone close to me didn’t.

This episode will challenge you to ask:

1. Who did you learn you had to be to be loved?
2. What part of you feels unsafe letting go of that role?
3. If this identity disappeared tomorrow… who would you still be?

1. Why your identity might be protecting you
2. How people-pleasing becomes an unconscious survival strategy
3. What real self-worth actually feels like
4. How to stop tying your value to being needed

If this episode hit you in the chest, it’s not random.

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Overwhelm is something every mom knows far too well. The busy schedules, the pressure to say yes to everything, the guilt when you try to prioritize yourself, and the constant sense that you are running on empty. In this powerful conversation, Lauren is joined again by her friend and coach Emily Erb to unpack why overwhelm shows up, how it becomes a cycle, and what practical steps can help you break free from it.

Emily shares her perspective on why overwhelm is often a learned response, how saying yes to everything keeps women stuck, and how boundaries, connection, and nervous system awareness can begin to shift everything. Together they discuss motherhood, burnout, shame resilience, health and fitness habits, and the deep conditioning that tells women they must always put themselves last.

This episode feels like sitting with two friends who get it and who want you to feel lighter, safer, calmer, and more empowered in your daily life.

Questions answered in this episode:

• What does overwhelm actually mean and why do so many moms live in it?
• How do boundaries reduce overwhelm and create more space for the things you care about?
• Why do women feel guilty for taking time for themselves?
• How does your nervous system respond when you are constantly rushing or people pleasing?
• Why is connection with other moms essential for healing overwhelm?
• How can you start creating sustainable health and fitness habits without adding stress?
• What role do shame and societal expectations play in burnout?
• How can you model healthier patterns for your kids?

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Instagram: @mind.yourmama

Email: lauren@mindyourmama.org

Connect with Emily:

Instagram: @ems_empowerment_coaching

So many women feel guilty for wanting more in their lives. More purpose, more creativity, more peace, more ease, more fulfillment. We’ve been conditioned to believe that wanting more somehow makes us ungrateful or selfish. In this episode, Lauren completely reframes that belief and shows you why your desire for more is actually a sign of self awareness, not selfishness.

You’ll learn why your nervous system reacts the way it does, how resentment builds when your purpose is suppressed, and how to begin rewiring your subconscious so that expansion feels safe instead of scary. If you’ve ever wondered why you feel called to something deeper, or felt guilty for that calling, this episode will feel like a breath of truth.

Questions answered in this episode:

• Why does wanting more not make you selfish at all?
• How does ignoring your purpose create burnout and resentment?
• What happens in your nervous system when your desires are suppressed?
• How can you reframe the guilt around wanting a bigger life?
• What practical steps help you step into alignment and take action?

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Connect with Lauren:

Instagram: @mind.yourmama

Email: lauren@mindyourmama.org