Advocacy is often talked about as being loud, confident, or knowing exactly what to say in the moment. But for many parents (especially neurodivergent parents) advocacy looks very different.

In this episode, I talk about the quiet, exhausting, ongoing work of advocating for your child: noticing patterns, asking questions, following up, and trusting yourself enough to keep going - even when you’re told to “wait and see.”

I share a personal story about advocating for my own child as a paediatric speech pathologist, and how subtle concerns around speech, hearing, and sleep were initially dismissed... until they weren’t.

We unpack:

• why advocacy can feel especially hard for neurodivergent parents

• how “wait and see” can trigger self-doubt and old wounds

• what advocacy actually is (and what it isn’t)

• practical, low-energy advocacy tools you can use in appointments

• how to ask for next steps without needing certainty

• why getting a second opinion isn’t being dramatic or disloyal

This episode isn’t about being confrontational or proving something is wrong. It’s about trusting your concern, even when you don’t have perfect words. It's about knowing you’re allowed to ask again.

No parent stays calm all the time. We snap, disconnect, misread, or say things we wish we could take back - and that’s not a failure of attachment. In Episode 23 of Not Just Theories, we explore rupture and repair: the idea that healthy relationships aren’t built by getting it right every time, but by coming back together after things go wrong.

This episode unpacks what rupture actually looks like in everyday parenting, why it’s inevitable, and how repair helps children learn trust, accountability, and emotional safety. We talk about why apologising to children doesn’t weaken your authority - and how it actually models responsibility and respect.

You’ll also hear practical examples of repair that go beyond a rushed “sorry,” including naming what happened, validating feelings without over-explaining, and reconnecting in ways that feel genuine rather than performative.

This episode is about letting go of perfection, embracing your humanity, and remembering that repair isn’t a backup plan - it’s the actual plan.

We talk a lot about transitions for children, but rarely about how hard they are for parents. In Episode 22 of Not Just Theories, we flip the focus and explore why transitions hit adults so hard, especially in the constant context-switching of parenting.

This episode unpacks what’s happening in the nervous system when you’re asked to move quickly from one role to another (from work brain to parent brain, from calm to chaos, from rest to responsibility), often without warning or recovery time. If you’ve ever snapped, shut down, or felt completely flooded during “normal” parts of the day, this episode is for you.

We also talk through practical, realistic ways to support yourself through transitions: creating micro-pauses, using transition rituals, lowering expectations during switch points, and understanding why buffer time matters even when it feels impossible.

This episode isn’t about becoming more flexible or coping better - it’s about recognising that transitions are genuinely demanding, and learning how to meet yourself with more compassion when they don’t feel easy.

Routines get a bad reputation - as rigid, controlling, or something parents impose on children. But for many parents (especially neurodivergent parents), routines are actually self-regulation tools.

In Episode 21 of Not Just Theories, we unpack why routines and control feel so important, what’s happening in the brain and nervous system when structure disappears, and why losing your routines can feel genuinely destabilising - not just inconvenient.

This episode explores what happens when children inevitably disrupt the systems we rely on, and how to adapt without shame or self-blame.

You’ll also hear compassionate strategies for increasing flexibility without abandoning structure altogether, including building “flexible routines,” shifting from time-based to rhythm-based routines, and allowing yourself to grieve for lost control.

This episode is about understanding yourself better - and letting go of the idea that needing routines means you’re doing parenting wrong.

Parenting comes with a never-ending stream of choices - from what snacks to pack to how to respond to the fifteenth “Muuum?” of the morning. And at some point, your brain simply taps out. This episode dives into decision fatigue, why it hits parents so hard (especially neurodivergent parents), and why it’s not a moral failing… it’s cognitive load.

We break down what decision fatigue actually is from a brain and self-regulation perspective, how it overlaps with the mental load, and why some days even choosing dinner feels impossible.

You’ll also hear practical, realistic strategies to lighten the load: using routines as scaffolds, reducing unnecessary choices, externalising decisions, creating “good enough” defaults, and building in micro-rest for your brain across the day.

This episode aims to help you understand what’s happening, recognise the early signs when you’re approaching the edge, and give yourself permission to step back. Decision fatigue doesn’t mean you’re not coping - it means you’re human.

Independent play is one of those topics that can make parents feel like they’re either winning or failing… but the truth is far more human than that. In this episode of Not Just Theories, we look at independent play through the lens most parenting advice misses: temperament.

Some children seem wired from birth to explore, tinker, or entertain themselves. Others want proximity, co-regulation, or shared attention long before they can comfortably play alone - and that’s not a parenting flaw. It’s neurobiology.

We unpack what temperament has to do with independence, how much influence parents actually have (spoiler: less than the internet suggests), and why comparing your child to someone else’s is basically comparing apples to entire planets.

You’ll also hear realistic strategies for supporting independent play without pushing it: invitations to play, connection-before-separation, reframing demands to reduce resistance, and gently increasing your child’s tolerance for short separations.

This episode is ultimately about releasing guilt, honouring individual differences, and supporting your child in a developmentally respectful way.

In this episode, we explore the four common parent roles in play: the Performer, the Director, the Watcher, and the Dance Partner. Each role has its place - sometimes kids need a little entertainment, sometimes they need teaching, and sometimes they need space.

But the role that supports communication, connection, and deeper engagement the most? The Dance Partner. This is where play starts to feel like a back-and-forth conversation - a serve-and-return moment where your child leads and you respond, without taking over.

I break down what each role looks like, why you might naturally fall into one more than others, and how small shifts can help you move toward being a responsive, connected dance partner in play. Perfect for parents who want to support development without feeling like they need to constantly entertain or instruct.

Not every toy needs a “right way” to be played with. In Part 2, I explore open-ended play - what it really means, how it supports problem-solving and creativity, and why it can help kids play longer and more independently.

I share examples of open-ended toys, tips for balancing them with more structured options, and how to encourage imaginative play without needing to constantly direct or entertain.