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In this episode of Off-Limits, I share 20 questions I now ask myself quietly and internally before letting someone into my life. These are not first-date questions, and they’re not meant to interrogate anyone. They’re meant to help you stay aligned with yourself.

While I share these reflections through the lens of dating and singlehood, these questions truly apply to everyone. Whether you’re single, dating, married, partnered, divorced, or simply in relationship with yourself, alignment matters.

I’ve grouped the questions into themes including intention, boundaries, emotional availability, identity, growth, and solitude. Together, they offer a grounded framework for reflecting on how you show up in relationships and whether you’re choosing from peace or pressure.

I also share why I value singlehood as a season of alignment rather than avoidance, and how clarity can often be kinder than chemistry.

A downloadable version of all 20 questions is available in the show notes for reflection or journaling. You can revisit them monthly or quarterly as a personal check-in.

I also give a preview of the next episode, where I’ll be interviewing fitness expert Joey Atlas about body confidence, strength, and navigating physical changes in your 40s and beyond.

This episode is an invitation to slow down, reflect honestly, and choose alignment over rushing.

Find the reflective ?'s here: https://ellenroers.com/f/aligned-or-misaligned-in-love-20-questions-to-ask-yourself

Lots of Love,

Ellen Roers

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What really matters in love — the checklist or the connection? 💭

In this Wisdom Wednesday episode of Off-Limits, Ellen dives into the new film Materialists (Dakota Johnson, Pedro Pascal, Chris Evans) and The Fall Guy (Ryan Gosling, Emily Blunt) to explore how modern dating often feels like a spreadsheet of “must-haves.” She shares personal stories from her younger checklist days, her Box Theory on true love, and the lessons learned when chemistry and connection outweigh paper-perfect résumés.

✨ Takeaways:

• Why connection beats checklists every time.
• The role of self-love and worthiness in finding (and keeping) love.
• Questions to ask yourself if you’re single, dating, or in a relationship.

Because at the end of the day, love isn’t about the restaurants, the résumés, or the paychecks. It’s about who you’d still choose in the box.Lots of love,
Ellen

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Why are women so exhausted, and why do men seem so lost? In this episode of Off-Limits, I dive into the broken polarity between masculine and feminine energy, in dating, work, and everyday life. From ghosted job interviews to flaky dates, to wake up calls and the role nutrition plays in our hormones, I share real stories from my week and why it’s harder than ever for men and women to connect.

*We’ll talk about:

The deeper truth of masculine as giver and feminine as receiver

Why women can’t soften if men won’t lead and why men can’t lead if women won’t let go

What I’ve learned from being rejected (in jobs and dating) and how it shapes our energy

Why role models like Mike Radoor (thank you for the quote) Mike R. Holland and Revival Coach Bryan inspire me with their grounded masculine presence.

This isn’t about controlling or conforming. It’s about restoring harmony so we can find real connection again.

Lots of love,
Ellen

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Ever feel like your life is one big waiting room? You’re not alone. In this episode of Off-Limits with Ellen Roers, I share what it feels like to juggle consulting, real estate, and the job search while sitting in the “in-between.”

The waiting room can be uncomfortable. Whether you’re waiting for a job callback, navigating divorce, in between homes, or just unsure of what’s next. But here’s the truth: waiting isn’t punishment. It’s preparation.

Join me as we talk about:
✨ Why being multi-passionate is not a weakness but a strength
✨ Masculine hustle vs. feminine trust in the waiting season
✨ Simple practices to find peace (movement, breath, nature, community, stillness)
✨ How to reframe “waiting” as becoming

And yes, I even share why I recorded this one in my Vikings jersey 😉

If you’re in the waiting room too, this episode will remind you: you’re not behind, you’re becoming.

Lots of love,

Ellen

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Some people watch every move you make but never clap. No likes, no comments, no shares. They’re the silent watchers and if you play it right, they can be your greatest fuel.

In this episode of Off-Limits we’re talking about how to:

· Understand the psychology of silent watchers (and why they’re not always the enemy)

· Turn doubt into drive without getting petty

· Recognize the times we’ve been silent watchers ourselves

· Keep building your life and success on your terms, not their applause

If you’ve ever felt unseen, underestimated, or quietly judged… this one’s for you.

Reflection Questions:

1. Who’s been a silent watcher in your life and how do you feel about it now?

2. Have you ever been a silent watcher for someone else? Why?

3. What’s one way you can celebrate someone’s win this week?

4. How do you measure your success when no one’s clapping?

Lots of love,

Ellen

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In this raw and soulful episode of Off-Limits, I blend the fairytale metaphor of Rapunzel with the deep spiritual truth that sometimes, God has to break you to bring you back to life. If you've been hiding, healing, or wondering how to begin again, this episode will meet you there. You're not behind. You're becoming. This is your sign to let the light in and rise.

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You’ve heard of Alpha and Beta energy—but have you ever felt like you were something else entirely? Quietly confident. Deeply independent. Loyal but not needy. Uninterested in the crowd—but still magnetic.

You just might be a Sigma.

In this episode of Off-Limits, Ellen Roars breaks down the Sigma personality type—what it is, how it shows up in women and men, and why so many Sigma females are thriving solo (and still open to deep love).

✨ Topics covered:

• The Alpha, Beta, and Sigma spectrum
• Real-life examples of Sigma females (Princess Diana, Joanna Gaines, Kate Middleton, Melania Trump)
• Why Sigma women often remain single longer
• What it’s like to love or marry a Sigma man or woman
• Reflection questions to help you spot your own energy
• A free downloadable quiz to find your type

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Ever feel like you're behind in life, love, or wealth?
Like everyone else is winning, and you're just figuring it out?

In this episode of Off-Limits, Ellen Roers breaks down the illusion of being "late" and why divine timing is still your best strategy. Whether you're watching your Bitcoin compound quietly… or just trying not to kiss the wrong person on a stadium Jumbotron (looking at you, Coldplay concert scandal).

We’ll talk about:
💸 Why your slow season might be the most strategic
🧠 The mindset of wealthy, aligned decision-making
📸 How to live like you're always being filmed (because… sometimes you are)

Plus, five reflection questions to get you back into confidence and forward motion.

🎧 Tune in now and trust: It’s not too late. It’s just your time.

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Lots of love,

Ellen

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