In this episode of Playing The Fool, I talk about ego, what it actually is, why it exists, and how it’s been quietly running so many of our lives without us even realising it.

I share honestly about my own ego, the parts of me that were controlling, reactive, angry, people-pleasing, perfectionistic, and deeply afraid. Not to shame those parts, but to finally understand them and the fact that they exist for a really good reason.

Our ego isn’t here to ruin our lives. It came in when we were young to keep us safe from pain, rejection, grief, and feeling unlovable. The problem isn’t that we have an ego, the problem is when we’re adults and it’s still in the driver’s seat of our lived without us even realising.

This episode is about learning how to own all of our parts, stop judging ourselves so harshly, and start re-parenting the parts of us that never learned another way.

If this episode resonates with you then so will The Heart is the Bar. Doors are closing very soon.

The Heart is The Bar.

12 weeks of walking yourself out of corners you were never born to exist in.

If you’re done surviving and ready to start living then this is your invitation to say yes!!

We Begin Monday the 9th of February.

Ready to choose YOU?

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Love Jarna x

Welcome back to Season Two of the Playing The Fool Podcast!


This episode that almost didn’t happen.


Between crackly audio, tech doing its own thing, school holidays, solo parenting, and trying to carve out space to record, I came right up against a question I don’t usually have to ask myself:


Do I force this… or do I trust what’s unfolding?


I always trust.


I am so excited to be back with you again.

I am so excited to see where this season takes you.

And I am so frikin excited to let you know that the doors to The Heart is the Bar are now open. Spaces are filling fast. We begin Monday the 9th of February.

The link is below.

https://www.jarnasaunders.com/the-heart-is-the-bar

https://www.jarnasaunders.com/get-on-your-mat

This drop-in meditation is a space to pause, soften, and come home to yourself. It’s not about clearing your mind or getting it right, it’s about reconnecting.

Whether you’re feeling scattered, stuck, or just need to catch your breath, this is your invitation to land gently in your body, to listen in, and to return to the part of you that’s always been steady beneath the noise.

Come back to centre. Come back to you.

Hey babe can you believe we have made it here. The final episode of 2025.
I honestly cannot believe how fast this 6 months has gone or how much I’ve loved being here with you. Before anything else… thank you. The support, the messages, the listens, the feedback, it has all felt like the warmest, most generous hug, and I am so frikin grateful.

I cannot wait to come back in 2026 a little more organised and with 25 episodes under my belt.

In this episode, we talk about what wrapping up 2025 can look like for you.
And I share why I believe the most powerful thing you can do right now isn’t to wait for 2026… but to start today.
Whatever it is you’ve been putting off, circling around, or talking yourself out of. Start TODAY.
Choose the brave thing.
Choose the honest thing.
Choose yourself with as much devotion, intention and courage as you can.

As you close out this year, pick one HARD thing you’ve been avoiding and give yourself the gift of doing it. Not next month. Not next year. Now.

If this episode lands for you, make sure you’re subscribed, and come hang with me on Instagram, the place where we get to keep growing, choosing, and being our messy, unapologetic, whole hearted selves.

THE HEART IS THE BAR is coming next year and I cannot wait to bring this to you.

Join the waitlist now. 🖤

In this episode of Playing the Fool, I’m diving into the real work behind living an intentional life - capacity, values, priorities, standards, boundaries, needs… and yes, the one I don’t stop talking about: radical responsibility.

This year I’ve been practicing exactly what I teach. I’m clearer on my Capacity, what I want to hold, and what I’m simply not available for, guilt free, and let me tell you, that level of clarity feels like freedom.


Not the Instagram-quote kind of freedom. The actual kind, where you stop abandoning yourself to make everyone else comfortable.

In this episode we get into how understanding your true capacity is a form of self-respect, why aligning your values and priorities isn’t “dramatic,” it’s adulting at the highest level, and how raising your standards weeds out the chaos faster than anything else you can do.

And of course: boundaries.
The loving kind, the firm kind, the “I’m not explaining this again” kind.

I also talk about radical responsibility, the uncomfortable, empowering truth that we always have a choice. Even when the choice is hard. Even when the choice is to stop doing what people expect and start doing what actually feels right for you.

And because the holiday season can turn even the calmest of us into emotional piñatas, I share some practical ways to navigate the weeks ahead with clarity, self-respect, humour, and zero self-abandonment.

If you’re ready to finish the year feeling grounded, aligned, and fully in charge of your own energy… this episode is your reminder that you get to choose. Every single time.

This is also you LAST CHANCE to work with me at my current price. From January first my pricing will increase significantly to reflect the healing, energy and transformations I create with my clients. You can enquire and purchase through the links below.

Don’t forget to join the waitlist for The Heart Is the Bar, my signature programme launching in early 2026. Get on the list now so you don’t miss any updates.

Let’s connect on IG: instagram.com/jarnasaunders.

In this episode, I’m sitting down with you after a couple of big emotional weeks to talk all things Perimenopause.

Because honestly? This past year has been a wild ride. The symptoms, heartiest heart palpitations, the “is this normal or am I actually losing it?” the Googling, the confusion… and finally, the validation that came when I heard other women share what they’ve been navigating too. There is nothing quite like the relief of realising -

I’m not crazy. I’m not making it up. And I’m definitely not alone and I am definitely in Perimenopause.

At 44, I’m embracing the chaos, the hormones, the itchy ears, the “ham sandwich” the intrusive thoughts (which I generously share on this podcast so you don’t feel alone in yours), and the truth about how it actually effects your life. Thank-god the whole of Instagram is also going through it as well and for my girlfriend’s sending me “real after reel” making me feel less alone.

If you’re walking through perimenopause too - come find me on Instagram. Message me. Let’s talk about it, laugh about it, and support each other through this completely unglamorous yet strangely empowering chapter of our 40’s.

And if this episode resonates with you, I’d really love to hear from you.

Don’t forget to join the waitlist for The Heart Is the Bar, my signature programme launching in early 2026. Get on the list now so you don’t miss any updates.

Let’s connect on IG: instagram.com/jarnasaunders.

This week’s episode is a really emotional one for me. As I sat down to record, I had the tissues ready because, honestly, I could barely get through it without crying.

My son, Will, turned 21 on Sunday and with that milestone came a flood of memories, emotions, and truths I’ve been sitting with for a long time.

I wanted to share what it’s been like to look back on my journey as a first-time mum, the choices I made when I was still learning how to be an adult myself, and the reality of what it means to do your best when you don’t even know who you are yet.


This isn’t a shiny, polished story - it’s raw and real. It’s about the parts of motherhood that are hard to talk about, the moments we wish we could redo, and the courage it takes to sit with the truth.
If you’ve ever looked back and felt the sting of guilt or wished you’d done things differently, please know — you’re not alone. This episode is for every parent doing their best, learning, healing, and letting go.


If you found comfort or courage in this episode, please share it with another parent who might need to hear it.

💬 Connect with me: Instagram @jarnasaunders

You can also visit my website at www.jarnasaunders.com

Hi loves, it’s Jarna. Today’s episode of Playing The Fool is a little different - it’s not really an episode, but more of a “mini love note”.


So Liv has been unwell with a chest infection, Shane is away for work an extended period, Will is 21 on Sunday and to be honest the week was a lot. I sat down to record this week, but it just wasn’t flowing and if I am really honest I actually couldn’t stop crying as I was trying to talk about parenthood and Will and I was a mess. So I decided to honour my capacity and my emotions and put a super quicklove note out to you instead.

I want to remind you (and myself) that it’s okay to be of your WORD TO YOURSELF before everyone else.


It’s okay to say no when you’re at capacity.



It’s okay to let a few balls drop and still feel proud of the choices you’re making.



There was a time when I would’ve pushed through no matter what, recorded at 2 a.m. just to make sure something went out. But I’m no longer a stand for that. I’m learning to live inside my values, to prioritise what truly matters, and to meet my own needs from a place of love and gentleness.


So instead of a full episode this week, I’m choosing to be present — to hold my daughter, to care for my family, and to rest. That’s what feels most aligned for me right now.



This is me living in integrity.

This is me leading with love.



This is me hoping that this gives you permission to do exactly the same and choose yourself too.



With love,
Jarna 🤍