I am the black sheep it seems of society...not just my family.

As long as you stand on the good side and not the evil, it's ok to be the black sheep. :)

Another AJ Soapbox Moment is here.

Thanks for stopping in & listening

-AJ-

Not into the new age delusional world of not coping...sorry.

Don't let people dismiss your voice and trauma with their toxic positivity.

Realist here, AJ, please do not let others make you feel like you should ignore what you went to by not coping with your experiences and healing. Your voice can be heard here. Suppressing your emotions and pretending to be Polly positive to avoid ridicule from others shouldn't even be a thing for abuse survivors.

Hopefully, this all makes sense. I've always been the black sheep. :}

Thanks for listening.

Hello, my precious people!

Treasure or trophy? Unless you like to be treated like a trophy only to be placed back on the mantle and occasionally cherished or shown off to assist an abuser's public reputation, please always choose being a treasure. You are priceless.

Thanks!

AJ

Just a quick example of a red flag in the beginning stages of a relationship with a narc/offender/predator. Hopefully it will make sense...if not, I apologize. Sometimes the simple cannot be explained so easily.

Dating Apps, social media, online gaming, and more have made it a magical overabundant sea for predators to seek vulnerable prey. I share a bit of my story on that, and another story involving online gaming (names have been changed to protect the victims).

Once again, sorry for the babbling. Thanks for listening and take care.

AJ

Black and white thinking is a form of cognitive distortion. No in between.

I recently dealt with this...i get pretty emotional at times.

Black and white thinking is a big thing for narcissistic abusers, but not all black and white thinkers are narcissists.

That being said, thanks for listening and I apologize for almost breakdown.

-AJ

Mini AJ Soapbox Moment

Healing is moving on no matter how tiny those baby steps are. You do not need to forgive and forget to heal.

RECOVER, REMEMBER, AND RISE AGAIN.

Let the truth be told. Let your voice be heard.

-AJ

Red flagometers are real :)

While there is not an exact definition of red flag regarding narcissistic, emotional, and psychological abused...there are behaviors mostly centered around manipulation. Not so shocking. If it doesn't seem right, trust your gut or at least investigate a wee bit.

Here I speak of behaviors I experienced, observed, and studied.

Sometimes fairytales aren't what they're cracked up to be...just look at books by Grimm.

Thanks for listening! My voice is fading on me.

-AJ