In this episode of the Self Led Besties Podcast, Christine, Hallie and David speak for their active parts around the exclusion of non therapists from the IFSI training (yes, we still have parts processing the decision made 2 1/2 years ago!). We reference an article entitled "The Ethics of Using IFS in Coaching." Here is the link, if you'd like to read the article yourself: https://www.compassionateresultscoaching.com/blog/ethics-of-ifs-coaching

A main point in the article is that IFS is unique in its understanding that it is NOT the practitioner but the client's Self who is the healing agent in their system. So the question is NOT "Who is allowed to facilitate IFS?", but "Who does IFS assert is the healer?"

We discuss our distress over the conflict between therapists and non-therapists created by the exclusion and our desire to be united in the unique hope of IFS. We also discuss how much of mainstream therapy can end up reinforcing client's core wounds such as, "I am helpless," "something is wrong with me," etc. and how anyone with Self energy - a coach, friend, family member - can be supportive of our own Self tending to our parts, and that, ultimately, it is always Love that heals.

0:00 Intro
0:12 Theme Song
0:38 Discussion Intoduction
2:33 How Christine's Parts Responded
4:28 How David's Parts Responded
5:46 How Hallie's Parts Responded
10:42 Article Introduction
12:46 Article Reading
23:21 How Therapy Can Reinforce Wounds
29:59 The Importance Of Self-Energy
36:58 The Importance of Relationship
40:50 The Importance of Inner Work
43:26 The Importance Of Self-Led Friends
52:16 IFSI & Christianity
55:09 How Love Heals
59:53 A Beautiful Poem By Hallie
1:00:48 Closing & Goodbyes
1:01:34 Theme Song
1:02:35 Like & Subscribe!

In this episode, David leads Hallie and Christine (and you) through an exercise based on a beautiful gardening metaphor to bring curiosity and awareness to the relationships in our lives.

In the exercise, we imagine four flower beds - one each for seedling, deeply rooted flowering, withering, and dying relationships. We assess the time and energy we put into each type of relationship as well as listen to parts' fears and needs around the various stages of our relationships.

After the exercise, Christine and Hallie share about the insights they gained, and Hallie extends the metaphor in many wonderful ways.

If you participate in the exercise, we'd love to hear about your experience in the comment section!

0:00 Intro
0:10 Theme Song
0:34 Exercise Overview
2:01 Parts Check-In
3:17 Imagining The Garden
5:32 Noticing Four Flowerbeds
8:59 Energy & Effort Percentage
10:52 First Flowerbed - Seedlings & Saplings
13:42 Second Flowerbed - Evergreens
16:03 Third Flowerbed - Wilting & Withering
18:18 Fourth Flowerbed - Composting
20:42 Part's Insights?
21:15 Energy & Effort Change?
23:02 Bonus Question
23:44 Exercise Ending
24:20 Christine's Experience
35:54 Hallie's Experience
56:43 Relationship Discussion
1:10:36 Closing & Goodbyes
1:11:49 Theme Song
1:12:53 Like & Subscribe!

In this episode, Hallie leads David and Christine (and you) through an incredibly helpful exercise to get to know parts around a polarization and then to bring them together to find a Self-led consensus.

Hallie starts with the prompt, "What is something you/parts of you have been putting off?” and leads us to get to know the parts who want to do the thing and the parts who block/resist it. She guides us toward gentle inquiry of each part/set of parts to find out their fears, needs, values, and requests.

At the end, we all share for what came up for us in the experiment/experience.

Feel free to join us in doing the exercise and share your experience in the comments or just listen to our experiences. You cannot get it wrong!

0:00 Intro
0:11 Theme Song
0:35 Exercise Preview
1:51 Exercise Overview
6:54 Finding a Trailhead
8:17 First Part's Questions P1
11:33 First Part's Questions P2
12:39 First Part's Questions P3
13:21 Second Part's Questions P1
16:18 Second Part's Questions P2
16:45 Second Part's Questions P3
17:24 Spending Time With Vulnerable Parts
20:23 Bringing Parts Together
21:54 Sharing Part's Perspectives
24:43 Inviting a Consensus
25:54 Exercise Conclusion
27:53 David's Experience
36:01 Christine's Experience
48:05 Exercise Reflection
56:40 Hallie's Experience
1:00:14 Closing & Goodbyes
1:02:23 Theme Song
1:03:23 Like & Subscribe!