If you want to date IRL and find your person, but you see someone cute and your body locks up, this episode is for you.

Freezing is a somatic response. It is your nervous system protecting you from fears like: What if they reject me? I'm definitely not their type. They're probably coupled. Why even try?

In this episode, I'm naming each of these fears for what it is, and giving you the reframes and in-the-moment tools to move through the freeze. Fall and winter are a high value, high opportunity season for your IRL dating life, so this is the moment to start.

In this episode:

• The reframes for the fears that keep you frozen: fear of rejection, fear of not being their type, and the fear that they're coupled
• Why you need to stop being your own helicopter parent
• The somatic tool I learned that helps you move through the freeze
• What to do in the bathroom the moment you see a cutie
• The five parts of a rejection resilience plan
• Client brags from Main Character Dating, including the client who made a credit union teller blush

Work with Lily:

🌟 Join my free 3-day live challenge, Stop Freezing, Start Flirting (Oct 25-27): https://datebrazen.com/challenge

📖 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book

🌟 Join the Main Character Dating waitlist: https://datebrazen.com/dating

✨ Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook

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How do you date men when you hate men?

It can be a tough question, especially if you've never seen that what you want and who you want exists.

Both/and in this episode, I'm your feminist dating coach. And especially if you date men, I'm here to show you how to attract the feminist, emotionally intelligent, fights-for-women's-rights kind of man you desire.

You are for the few, not the many. And this kind of man is rare. But rare things exist. And I'm here to help you find them.

I would tell you what I'm gonna tell you in this episode.

In this episode:

• Why it's ok to hate men AND date to find your man.
• You can be a feminist and want a relationship.
• A complete dating system that vets for not only what they say, but how they behave
• ACK: acknowledge, compassion, kind reframe
• If you date men, you're not just looking for any man, you're looking for your man. This episode is the pep talk you need to double down on your boundaries, your vetting process, and your high standards.

💎 Join my free 3-night challenge, Stop Freezing, Start Flirting (Oct 25-27): https://datebrazen.com/challenge

📖 Get my book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book

✨ Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook

📸 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen/

🎵 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen

▶️ Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen

You don't have to be on dating apps to be "trying" in your dating life. This episode gives you the alternative strategy that has worked for hundreds of my clients (and worked for me to meet my husband). In this episode, you'll learn exactly how to date IRL.

Inside episode 284:

→ Why "I don't chase, I attract" is one of my least favorite pieces of dating advice, and how it is negatively impacting your IRL dating life

→ My rule for feminist dating that I've seen work for hundreds of people who felt too behind, too late, too much, not enough

→ What to say when people tell you they don't know anybody single

→ Why awkwardness is the price of admission for connection

💎 Register for my free live 3-day coaching challenge, Stop Freezing, Start Flirting (Oct 25-27): https://datebrazen.com/challenge

💎 Listen to my Vox Explain It to Me interview: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/explain-it-to-me/id1042433083?i=1000789331580

Work with Lily

💎 Get the book, Thank You, More Please: https://datebrazen.com/book

💎 Download my free Essence-Based Preferences Creation Guide: https://datebrazen.com/workbook

💎 Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/datebrazen

💎 Follow me on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@datebrazen

💎 Follow me on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@DateBrazen