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In this episode, I give a short review of Raising Regulated Kids: The Reset Method by Dr. Becky Owens and highlight five things I really liked about the book, along with one area I think could’ve been expanded on. I’m not compensated for this review—I bought the book myself for the podcast—and I also have a longer, more in-depth review available if you want to dive deeper.

I talk about how the book focuses on regulation and co-regulation, understanding environmental triggers, leading with empathy instead of punishment, breaking generational parenting patterns, and using practical tools and check-ins to support kids outside of crisis moments. While I wish the book had gone deeper in certain sections, I’ve already started using some of these ideas with my foster kids and found them genuinely helpful. For the price, it’s a solid, accessible parenting resource I’d recommend checking out.

00:00 — Intro & Book Overview
00:22 — Disclosure & Why I Bought the Book
00:32 — Regulation & Co-Regulation
00:41 — Environmental Factors & Planning Ahead
00:57 — Empathy, Understanding & Discipline vs Punishment
01:10 — Generational Parenting & Letting Go of Shame
01:32 — Tools, Exercises & Ongoing Check-Ins
01:44 — One Area for Improvement (Book Length)
01:53 — Final Thoughts, Recommendation & Cost
02:03 — Call for Feedback & Closing

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Crisis Lifeline: Call/Text 988

National Helpline 1-800-662-4357

Veterans Crisis Line (dial 988 then press 1)

National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE)

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In this episode, I introduce a new segment called Dad’s Book Club, where I review parenting and family-related books I buy for the podcast. This episode focuses on The Reset Method by Dr. Becky Owens. I’m not compensated for this review—I share my honest take on what I found helpful, what stood out, and how the ideas connect to parenting, especially when raising kids who’ve experienced trauma.

I walk through the core ideas of the Reset Method, including regulation, connection before correction, and understanding children’s behavior through emotional safety rather than discipline alone. I also share how I’ve started applying some of these concepts in real life and why I found the book approachable, practical, and worth the read. If you’re looking for affordable, easy-to-understand parenting resources, this is one I’d recommend checking out.

00:00 — Intro: New Segment “Dad’s Book Club” + Purpose

00:20 — No Compensation, Personal Review, Disclaimer

00:59 — Who This Is For: Parenting, Trauma, Foster & Adoptive Kids

01:20 — About the Author: Dr. Becky Owens

02:06 — What Is the Reset Method Framework

02:59 — Book Structure + Supplemental Tools & Resources

03:48 — Core Idea: Regulate Before Correct

04:50 — Self-Regulation, Co-Regulation, Nervous System Basics

06:53 — Emotional Safety, Public vs Home Behavior

07:51 — Final Thoughts, Recommendation, Cost & Closing

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Crisis Lifeline: Call/Text 988

National Helpline 1-800-662-4357

Veterans Crisis Line (dial 988 then press 1)

National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE)

Fosterdaddirective@gmail.com

My Podcast Server

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In this episode, I explain how I structure the descriptions for both of my podcasts—one focused on parenting and foster parenting, and the other on addiction and personal growth. I intentionally keep the format consistent to make things easier to manage and to ensure the most important information comes first. At the top of every description, I include crisis and support resources because your safety and mental health matter more than any episode topic.

I also walk through the rest of the description layout, including how to contact me, where to send feedback or ideas, how to use timestamps, and why I keep a low-key Patreon as a resource hub rather than a paywall. My goal with both podcasts is to create a supportive, judgment-free space that prioritizes help, honesty, and real conversations—whether you’re a parent, a foster parent, or someone working through addiction or life’s heavier moments.

00:00 — Why This Description Applies to Both Podcasts

00:36 — Focus on Resources & Crisis Support First

00:55 — Encouragement to Seek Help (Mental Health & Crisis)

01:28 — Military, Law Enforcement & Stigma Around Help

02:10 — Reaching Out, Email Support & Community Care

02:35 — Discord Server, Emails & Listener Feedback

03:10 — Episode Descriptions, Timestamps & Navigation

03:56 — Patreon Purpose & Resource Hub Vision

04:32 — Closing Thanks & Ongoing Podcast Goals

My Patreon

https://patreon.com/TheFosterDadDirective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

Crisis Lifeline: Call/Text 988

National Helpline 1-800-662-4357

Veterans Crisis Line (dial 988 then press 1)

National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE)

Fosterdaddirective@gmail.com

My Podcast Server

https://discord.gg/9MSPwRG4p

In this short bonus message, I explain why I created a Patreon for Foster Dad Directive. It’s intentionally kept low-key and tucked at the bottom of each episode, because there’s absolutely no obligation to sign up. The main purpose is to store original, ad-free versions of episodes and to give listeners an optional way to support the podcast if they choose.

Any support goes directly back into improving the podcast and helping families—things like books and resources, parenting classes, training subscriptions, better audio equipment, and occasionally guest interviews. My goal isn’t to make money, but to build a meaningful resource for foster parents and parents in general. Whether you support financially or just listen, I’m grateful you’re here.

00:00 — Patreon Intro & No-Obligation Disclaimer

00:00:30 — Purpose of Patreon (Ad-Free Storage & Support Option)

00:00:47 — Where Support Money Goes (Books, Guests, Resources)

00:01:04 — Planned Uses: Training, Subscriptions, Equipment, Kids

00:01:38 — Closing Thanks & Vision for the Podcast

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https://patreon.com/TheFosterDadDirective?utm_medium=unknown&utm_source=join_link&utm_campaign=creatorshare_creator&utm_content=copyLink

Crisis Lifeline: Call/Text 988

National Helpline 1-800-662-4357

Veterans Crisis Line (dial 988 then press 1)

National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE)

Fosterdaddirective@gmail.com

My Podcast Server

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In this episode of Foster Dad Directive, I talk about grief and bereavement resources, drawing from my own experiences over the last few years—losing family members, pets, and foster children, along with the quieter grief that comes from life changes like sobriety and shifting responsibilities. I share a Michigan-based resource, MI211.org/grief, which offers a wide range of support options including grief counseling, hospice services, burial resources, veteran services, crisis lines, and support groups. If you’re outside Michigan, I encourage you to look up similar resources in your own state.

I also talk about the importance of finding support that actually fits your life—whether that’s therapy, peer groups, community support, or simply having someone to talk to who understands your experiences. No single resource works for everyone, and it’s okay to try different options. I invite listeners to share resources that have helped them, because even a small suggestion could make a huge difference for someone else. If you’re struggling right now, please know you’re not alone, help is available, and your life truly matters.

00:00 — Intro: Grief, Bereavement & Why This Episode Matters

00:26 — Loss Through Fostering, Family & Life Changes

00:51 — Michigan Grief Resources (mi211.org) Overview

01:33 — Therapy, Support Groups & Where to Start

02:12 — Finding the Right Help & Limits of One Therapist

02:30 — Sharing Resources to Help Others

03:13 — Listener Call-In, Crisis Resources & Closing Support

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Crisis Lifeline: Call/Text 988

National Helpline 1-800-662-4357

Veterans Crisis Line (dial 988 then press 1)

National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE)

Fosterdaddirective@gmail.com

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In this episode, I talk about jealousy between foster siblings and how it shows up in real foster and blended family homes. I explain why jealousy is so common—especially when kids come from different backgrounds, trauma histories, and attachment experiences—and how it can surface as withdrawal, frustration, acting out, or even requests to leave the home. I also share how shifts in household dynamics can intensify feelings of insecurity or replacement for other children already in care.

I then walk through practical strategies for reducing sibling jealousy, including staying calm, recognizing that every child’s needs are different, spending one-on-one time with each child, planning flexible routines, listening honestly to complaints, making special efforts to honor each child’s culture and interests, asking for help, not forcing emotional disclosure, using games and shared activities to build connection, rewarding positive adjustments, and intentionally bonding as a family. I share real examples of what worked, what didn’t, and moments I wish I could redo, while emphasizing that foster parents can do everything “right” and still face outcomes beyond their control. Ultimately, this episode is about showing kids they aren’t being replaced, building trust over time, and giving yourself grace as a foster parent—because jealousy doesn’t mean failure, it means kids are trying to feel safe in a world that has rarely felt stable for them.

In this episode, I talk about jealousy between foster siblings and how it shows up in real foster and blended family homes. I explain why jealousy is so common—especially when kids come from different backgrounds, trauma histories, and attachment experiences—and how it can surface as withdrawal, frustration, acting out, or even requests to leave the home. I reference two articles I used as guides, primarily one from Wockhardt Hospital and another from Agape Adoption Agency, and I reflect on how their advice connects to situations we’ve experienced firsthand. I also share personal updates about welcoming two high-energy girls into our home, the emotional impact of losing a toddler placement, and how shifts in household dynamics can intensify feelings of insecurity or replacement for other children already in care.

I share real examples of what worked, what didn’t, and moments I wish I could redo, while emphasizing that foster parents can do everything “right” and still face outcomes beyond their control. Ultimately, this episode is about showing kids they aren’t being replaced, building trust over time, and giving yourself grace as a foster parent—because jealousy doesn’t mean failure, it means kids are trying to feel safe in a world that has rarely felt stable for them.

00:00 — Intro, Podcast Direction & Topic Overview

00:21 — Jealousy Between Foster Siblings Explained

01:16 — Sources Used & Why Jealousy Happens

02:48 — New Placements, Household Changes & Emotional Impact

04:25 — Too Many Placements Too Fast & Real-World Examples

06:43 — Staying Calm & Emotional Regulation as a Parent

09:28 — Individual Time, Planning & Listening to Each Child

12:27 — Making Special Efforts & Cultural Sensitivity

15:23 — Support Systems, Family Help & Emotional Safety

18:01 — Games, Rewards, Bonding & Final Takeaways

My Patreon

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Crisis Lifeline: Call/Text 988

National Helpline 1-800-662-4357

Veterans Crisis Line (dial 988 then press 1)

National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE)

My Podcast Server

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Fosterdaddirective@gmail.com

In this episode of The Foster Dad Directive, I talk openly about grief and loss while parenting and fostering, sharing how closely these experiences collided in my own life. Within the same week, our toddler left to live with family on Veteran’s Day, and I lost my grandpa just days later. On top of that, 2023 brought the heartbreaking loss of two of my dogs, Perseus and Jade, both of whom I had to make end-of-life decisions for myself. I reflect on how different types of loss—family, pets, and foster placements—carry their own weight, yet often overlap in ways that make grieving even harder. I also discuss how high-emotion situations with foster youth, including running away and behavioral struggles, added extra strain during an already overwhelming season.

I share what has helped me navigate grief while still showing up as a caregiver: therapy, self-care, remembering loved ones in healthy ways, finding safe spaces to process emotions, and reassuring children through change. I talk about the importance of not bottling emotions, avoiding burnout, and giving yourself grace during exhausting seasons of parenting. I also emphasize that it’s okay to slow down, rest, and focus on mental health without guilt. Grief doesn’t follow a straight line, and neither does healing—but by taking care of ourselves, we become better equipped to care for the kids who depend on us. I close by reminding listeners that they are not alone in their grief, that their lives matter, and that there is always hope for tomorrow—even on the hardest days.

00:00 — Introduction & Personal Losses

Loss of your grandpa, pets, and changes during fostering.

01:19 — Disclaimer & Current Placement Update

Scope of the episode and brief respite update.

02:47 — Safety, Big Emotions & Foster Kids

Understanding emotional reactions in children entering care.

04:19 — Veterans Day, Toddler’s Departure & Grieving

Stacked losses in the same week and emotional impact.

05:58 — Losing Pets & Making End-of-Life Decisions

The emotional weight of choosing euthanasia for beloved dogs.

07:09 — Parenting While Actively Grieving

Balancing funerals, placements, and emotional regulation.

08:55 — Therapy as a Key Grief Tool

Processing loss, male stigma, and mental health support.

11:27 — Remembering Loved Ones & Healthy Reflection

Honoring memories without sinking into depression.

15:56 — Safe Spaces, Burnout & Self-Care

Avoiding overload, finding support, and protecting your energy.

17:56 — Reassuring Children & Final Encouragement

Helping kids feel secure while giving yourself grace.

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Veterans Crisis Line (dial 988 then press 1)

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In this episode of The Foster Dad Directive, I focus on the importance of healthy self-care, especially for foster parents and caregivers who live under constant stress. Using the Scottsdale Recovery framework, I walk through eight core types of self-care: physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, intellectual, environmental, social, and financial. I share how I’ve personally struggled with burnout from years of poor sleep, fast food, long shifts, and nonstop responsibilities, and how I’ve recently begun rebuilding my health through exercise, home-cooked meals, better sleep habits, and cutting back on things that hurt my energy and recovery. I talk honestly about weight gain, exhaustion, caffeine and alcohol use, and how even small changes—like short daily workouts and better food choices—have already started improving my energy and stress levels.

I also open up about the emotional and mental side of self-care, including journaling, therapy, mindfulness, and learning to slow down before reacting—especially as a foster parent dealing with teens and trauma. I explain how spiritual purpose, intellectual growth through reading and learning, environmental improvements at home and in my yard, stronger social connections with family, and better financial planning have all played a role in helping me stabilize my life. Above all, I emphasize that self-care isn’t selfish—it’s necessary for survival, for our families, and for the kids we care for. I remind listeners that you don’t need money or perfection to take care of yourself, only intention, consistency, and the willingness to slow down. I close by encouraging foster parents to protect their own well-being so they can continue showing up for others with a clear mind and a full heart.

00:00 — Episode Introduction & Purpose of Self-Care

Healthy self-care vs. unhealthy coping.

01:38 — The 8 Types of Self-Care Overview

Physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, intellectual, environmental, social, financial.

02:07 — Physical Self-Care

Exercise, sleep, diet, weight loss, reducing fast food and caffeine.

05:03 — Mental Self-Care

Mindfulness, meditation, stress management, therapy challenges.

06:44 — Emotional Self-Care

Journaling, emotional awareness, Reset Method insights.

07:49 — Spiritual Self-Care

Values, purpose, volunteering, AA perspective on higher power.

09:09 — Intellectual Self-Care

Reading, learning, podcasts, creativity, staying mentally sharp.

10:44 — Environmental Self-Care

Gardening, decluttering, home organization, improving living space.

12:28 — Social Self-Care

Family relationships, connection, isolation, quality time.

14:29 — Financial Self-Care & Final Reflections

Budgeting, debt, emergency savings, long-term stability.