Episodes

  • I Wish Someone Had Told Me Adults Have the Worst Phone Habits

    I Wish Someone Had Told Me Adults Have the Worst Phone Habits
    May 12 2026
    We tell our kids to get off their phones…But, um, if we’re honest, we’re often the worst offenders. 🤭 So how do we actually build healthy, sustainable phone habits that work in real life? In part two of my I Wish Someone Had Told Me series, I’m back with psychotherapist Niro Feliciano, and we’re not just naming the problem—we’re talking about how to fix it. We talk about: Why adults actually have the worst phone habits The surprising stat about Gen Z that might give you hope Why more time online can leave us feeling more disconnected The “slow living” movement and simple ways to start Practical, doable habits you can implement right away If you’ve ever picked up your phone for one thing… and lost 30 minutes, you’re not alone. The goal isn’t to ditch your phone, it’s to finally feel in control of it! Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more: [0:00:41] Adults Have Worse Phone Habits Than Their Kids [0:02:20] Gen Z Leads the Way in Cutting Screen Time [0:04:14] Mornings Without Phones Improve Mood and Productivity [0:09:58] Dopamine, Addiction, and Doing Media Fasts [0:12:02] Grayscale, App Moves, and Notification Detox [0:19:12] Enjoying Life More When the Phone Isn’t Visible [0:20:43] Embracing Slow Living and Intentional Offline Moments SUMMARY: In this episode, we are diving into how to create healthier phone habits through phone-free moments, analog activities, and slow living, practical tips for setting better boundaries with screen time, and why life feels more balanced and fulfilling when your phone is put away. LINKS Connect with Paula on Instagram Get Paula's personal newsletter Niro Felicano THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Paula’s Favorite Protein Powder 15% off YOUTUBE Connect with Paula on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/paulafaris/?hl=en THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms https://carrymedia.com/the-carry-all/ Get Paula's personal newsletter https://www.paulafarisofficial.com/newsletter Paula’s Favorite Protein Powder 15% off https://thepeachiespoon.com/?rfsn=8647660.93b706f&utm_source=refersion&utm_medium=affiliate&utm_campaign=8647660.93b706f Connect with Niro - https://www.nirofeliciano.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    31 mins
  • I Wish Someone Had Told Me What Happens When You Give Your Kid a Phone

    I Wish Someone Had Told Me What Happens When You Give Your Kid a Phone
    May 5 2026
    There’s a shift happening. For the first time, we’re seeing legal accountability for social media companies, growing cultural pushback on screen time, and even the return of something we thought was gone for good—the landline! All of it pointing to one question: what are phones actually doing to our kids? We gave them for all the right reasons: safety, connection, convenience.But we know more now than we did then. And if we’re honest… we might have done things differently. In the first episode of my I Wish Someone Had Told Me series, I’m joined by my friend—author, mom, and psychotherapist Niro Feliciano—for a real, no-judgment conversation about giving phones to our kids. Because chances are… you’ve already done it. I have too. We talk about: The cultural pushback Legal accountability and what it means The changes we’ve seen in our own kids Plus, the return of the landline And why this becomes one of the biggest parenting battles. If you’re wondering “What have I done… and what do I do now?”—this episode is for you. We know more now. And it’s never too late for us to do better. Let’s Talk About It. SUMMARY In this episode, we are digging into parenting decisions around kids and smartphones, how and why those rules evolve over time, landmark court cases on social media’s impact on teen mental health, the dopamine deficit and why social media use often looks a lot like addiction, the importance of nuanced family tech conversations, how boredom builds resilience in children and teens, the resurgence of landlines, and smartphone alternatives for families. Next week: I Wish Someone Had Told Me Adults Have the Worst Phone Habits Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    32 mins
  • Your Biggest Enneagram Questions - Answered

    Your Biggest Enneagram Questions - Answered
    Apr 28 2026
    Let’s answer the questions everyone asks about the Enneagram: Can your type change? Why do your results keep changing? What if you relate to more than one type? We’re wrapping up our month-long series with Enneagram expert and author Ian Morgan Cron by getting clear on what actually matters about the Enneagram. This isn’t about traits. It’s about motivation: why you do what you do. We get into mistypes, bad tests, and why you can’t outsource this to a quiz and call it done. There’s no “best” type, but there is a healthiest version of you, and the Enneagram can help you get there. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more: [0:00:00] Type Doesn’t Change, But You Evolve [0:04:09] Why Your Test Results Keep Shifting [0:07:21] You Are All Nine Types, But One Dominates [0:10:19] Common Mistypes and Confusing Wings [0:14:42] No “Best” Type and How Leaders Show Up as Nines In this episode, we are diving into whether your Enneagram type can change over time, common Enneagram mistypes, why you shouldn’t only rely on an Enneagram test to determine your type, which Enneagram type is considered the best, and which Enneagram type is the hardest to parent. LINKS Connect with Paula on Instagram Get Paula's personal newsletter– win Ian’s book! Meet Ian Morgan Cron Take Ian’s Enneagram Assessment: Code PAULA for 15% off THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Paula’s Favorite Protein Powder 15% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    25 mins
  • What the Enneagram Reveals About Your Marriage and Parenting

    What the Enneagram Reveals About Your Marriage and Parenting
    Apr 21 2026
    You’re not fighting about what you think you’re fighting about. We’re continuing our month-long Enneagram series with Ian Morgan Cron, and this one hits close to home. When it comes to Enneagram types, there are no bad pairings, but there are patterns that quietly wear relationships down. What if the tension in your marriage isn’t personal? What if it’s predictable? Using the Enneagram as a parenting tool can help…or hurt. When do you introduce it? How do you use it without labeling your kids too early? We’re going there today because the Enneagram isn’t about putting people in boxes. It’s about seeing what’s actually driving them. And once you see it, you can’t unsee it. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more: [0:00:00] Enneagram As Marriage Game-Changer [0:02:59] No Bad Pairings Only Stuck Partners [0:07:42] Character Crushes Personality In Partner Choice [0:09:39] Don’t Rush Typing Kids Wait Till Fifteen [0:15:18] Parent With Curiosity Not Enneagram Labels In this episode, we are digging into how to use the Enneagram to strengthen your marriage and parenting, the Enneagram as a tool to resolve recurring relationship conflicts, why no Enneagram pairing is inherently bad, why choosing a partner based on type can be misleading, what truly matters in a life partner beyond personality, when kids and teens should learn their Enneagram type, and how to parent more effectively using the Enneagram. LINKS Connect with Paula on Instagram Get Paula's personal newsletter– win a copy of Ian’s book! Meet Ian Morgan Cron Take Ian’s Enneagram Assessment: Code PAULA for 15% off THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Paula’s Favorite Protein Powder 15% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    25 mins
  • Why Knowing Your Enneagram Isn’t Enough

    Why Knowing Your Enneagram Isn’t Enough
    Apr 14 2026
    We’re continuing our month-long Enneagram series with Ian Morgan Cron and getting into what most people miss. What does “healthy” actually look like? And what does it look like when you’re off, and everyone else can see it before you do? Every type has a pattern, a tell, a default that feels right…until it starts working against you. Underneath each of those patterns is the same lie: When I finally get this, I’ll be okay. Knowing your number isn’t the work. Seeing your patterns and choosing differently is. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more : [0:00:00] Healthy Isn’t Changing Your Type, It’s Growing Awareness [0:04:29] The “I’ll Be Okay When…” Lie for All Nine Types [0:07:38] Using the Passions and Deadly Sins as Warning Lights [0:18:20] SNAP: Stop, Notice, Ask, Pivot Toward Health [0:21:40] Information Isn’t Transformation—Doing the Work (and Next Up: Relationships & Parenting) In this episode, we are digging into becoming a healthy version of your Enneagram type, signs of unhealth in each Enneagram type, a simple framework to help you move towards health when you notice unhealthy patterns, and why understanding your type alone isn’t enough for lasting transformation. LINKS: Connect with Paula on Instagram Get Paula's personal newsletter– win Ian’s book! Meet Ian Morgan Cron Take Ian’s Enneagram Assessment: Code PAULA for 15% off THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Paula’s Favorite Protein Powder 15% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    29 mins
  • The Enneagram: Why You Do What You Do

    The Enneagram: Why You Do What You Do
    Apr 7 2026
    We’re kicking off a month-long series on the Enneagram, and we’re starting with the basics. I’ll be honest: I was skeptical at first. But after seeing how it’s transformed my own self-awareness and relationships, I’m convinced it’s one of the most powerful personality tools out there. I’m sitting down with author and Enneagram expert Ian Morgan Cron to break it all down. This isn’t just another personality test. The Enneagram reveals the why behind your behavior: your unconscious motivations that drive how you think, act, and show up in your relationships. We cover the nine types, where this framework actually comes from (it’s older than you think), why so many people mistype themselves, and what makes this different from tools like StrengthsFinder or Myers-Briggs. If you’re skeptical, curious, or just want to understand yourself better, this is where to start. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more : [0:00:00] Anecdotal Evidence and the Enneagram’s Impact [0:04:31] Why the Enneagram: Motivation Over Behavior [0:06:30] Quick Tour of the Nine Types [0:15:21] Origins, Science, and “Woo-Woo” Concerns [0:18:22] Blind Spots, Stress, and Using Type for Growth In this episode, we are diving into the Enneagram personality system, the origins of the Enneagram, the nine Enneagram numbers or types, how to find your enneagram type, uncovering our blind spots using the Enneagram, why and how people mistype themselves, and why the enneagram does not excuse behavior. Connect with Paula on Instagram Get Paula's personal newsletter– win Ian’s book! Meet Ian Morgan Cron Take Ian’s Enneagram Assessment: Code PAULA for 15% off THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Paula’s Favorite Protein Powder 15% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    31 mins
  • Finally, a System for the Domestic Load

    Finally, a System for the Domestic Load
    Mar 31 2026
    The endless tasks at home aren’t small—they’re the hidden strain on most relationships, quietly building stress, frustration, and resentment. It’s no secret that women often shoulder the majority of invisible work, from meal planning to school schedules to household upkeep, while trying to juggle careers and parenting. In honor of Women’s History Month, I’m talking about things that matter to women—and this is at the top of the list. Eve Rodsky, creator of Fair Play, joins me to explain how to break the cycle of overwhelm, take full ownership of tasks, and share the load without guilt, nagging, or resentment. She walks through a practical system for boundaries, accountability, and communication that restores trust, strengthens partnerships, and makes running a home fair—and yes, actually possible—for real families. Listen in to learn more : [00:00] The Blueberries That Broke the Camel's Back [02:00] Domestic Load – Invisible, Unequal, Unsustainable [09:19] Run Your Home Like a World-Class Organization [11:57] The Tooth Fairy Redemption Arc [23:19] Minimum Standard of Care – Goodbye Weaponized Incompetence In this episode, we are digging into how to build healthy relationships through clear boundaries, effective systems, and strong communication, why communication about the domestic load can feel when when it is important, the two essential elements of a successful relationship, the value of having tough conversations when emotions are low and thinking is clear, and how to start the conversation with your partner about sharing the domestic load. Connect with Paula on Instagram Get Paula's personal newsletter THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Paula’s Favorite Protein Powder 15% off Connect with Eve Rodsky Watch the FairPlay Documentary Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    31 mins
  • Why Equal Partnership Is Possible—Even With Kids and Careers

    Why Equal Partnership Is Possible—Even With Kids and Careers
    Mar 24 2026
    Being equal partners isn’t just a nice idea—it’s how marriage and family actually work. John and I share what it took to get here: putting careers, expectations, and traditional roles on the table, figuring out who owns what at home, and finally treating each other like true teammates. In honor of Women’s History Month, we talk about what equal partnership really looks like, why it matters for women and families, and how it changes the way you show up—for your spouse, your kids, and yourself. Life Happens. Let’s Talk About It. Listen in to learn more : 0:00:00] – Spousal Equity Is a Unicorn—But Possible [0:05:44] – How the 1950s Broke Both Men and Women [0:10:10] – Following Her Career, Not the Script [0:21:07] – The Real Fight: Who Does What at Home? [0:18:54] – Ditch ‘Breadwinner’—We’re Just Partners In this episode, we are diving into the importance of being a supportive partner, supporting your partner in career changes, how taking risks together can strengthen your relationship, the impact of traditional gender roles on men and women, and a proven method for sharing household responsibilities that has been a lifesaver. LINKS Connect with Paula on Instagram Get Paula's personal newsletter THE CARRY™ ALL NEWSLETTER by and for working moms Paula’s Favorite Protein Powder 15% off Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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    31 mins