"They Told Me It Would Feel Like a Smear Test." It Didn't.

They told me an endometrial biopsy would feel "like a smear test." It didn't. Not even close.

In this episode I share my experience of having an endometrial biopsy without adequate pain relief, and why this is STILL routine practice for so many women. I also share stories from others who went through the same thing, and the facts that every woman deserves to know before this procedure.

You have the right to ask for pain relief. You have the right to not be dismissed.

If you or someone you know is due to have an endometrial biopsy, please share this video. The more women who go in informed, the better.

In this episode:

🔹 My personal experience — fertility issues, the referral, and what actually happened in that room

🔹 What an endometrial biopsy actually involves (it's cutting, not scraping — and yes, that matters)

🔹 Cervical shock: what it is and what happened to me after 🔹 Why my TikTok about this went viral

🔹 Why pain relief isn't offered as standard — and the systemic reasons behind it

🔹 The statistics: 1 in 3 women report severe pain during this procedure

🔹 The gender pain gap and why women's pain is chronically underestimated

🔹 Medical gaslighting and chronic illness

🔹 What the NHS actually says about this procedure — and what it leaves out

🔹 The campaigns fighting to change this

Timestamps:

0:00 Introduction

0:34 Background — Fertility Issues and Pain

1:17 Referral to Gynaecology

1:52 Endometrial Biopsy Suggested

2:59 Day of the Procedure

4:08 The Painful Reality

5:10 Procedure Details — Cutting, Not Scraping

6:23 Extreme Pain During the Procedure

7:49 After the Procedure — Feeling Violated

8:38 Cervical Shock and the Ambulance

9:26 TikTok Video Goes Viral

10:32 Why Pain Relief Isn't Standard

11:50 Addressing Common Comments

14:23 Statistics — 1 in 3 Women Report Severe Pain

15:09 Campaigns Against Painful Procedures

15:53 The Gender Pain Gap — Women vs Men

18:21 Medical Gaslighting and Chronic Illness

21:44 NHS Information on Endometrial Biopsy

23:38 How the Procedure is Actually Done

24:23 Final Thoughts and Call to Action

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Matthew and Ryan from TikTok (Daddies Overnight podcast) recently adopted a baby, and their comment sections are absolutely mental. Fans are demanding to see the child's face, asking for his name, and acting like they're owed something. They're not.

This parasocial relationship nonsense needs to stop. These creators don't owe you their child's identity just because you followed their adoption journey.

In this video, I'm breaking down why Matthew and Ryan are RIGHT to protect their son's privacy, the dangers of sharenting, and why family vloggers exploiting their kids online is getting out of hand. From celebrity culture to the disturbing reality of who's saving these videos, we need to talk about protecting children online.

Whether it's Matthew and Ryan's adoption story or other family vloggers monetising their kids, children deserve privacy and protection. Full stop.

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Articles and Links Featured:

https://abcnews.go.com/GMA/Family/parenting-influencers-speak-new-law-designed-protect-kids/story?id=111580202

https://www.tiktok.com/@matthewandryanuk

https://feeds.acast.com/public/shows/daddies-overnight

Topics covered:

Matthew and Ryan TikTok adoption journey
Daddies Overnight podcast creators
Parasocial relationships with influencers
Sharenting dangers and child exploitation
Family vloggers and child safety
Why children can't consent to being online
UK vs US child protection laws


If you're a parent creator or just care about kids' safety online, this one's for you.

#MatthewAndRyan #DaddiesOvernight #Sharenting #FamilyVloggers #ParasocialRelationships #ChildSafety #TikTok

Takeaways

• Respect the privacy and protection of children online.
• Consider the ethical and legal implications of sharing children's faces on social media.

Chapters

• 00:00 Demanding to See Children's Faces Online
• 09:50 Parasocial Relationships and Boundaries
• 17:24 Exploitation of Children on Social Media

Mattel have released a new Barbie, Autistic Barbie. Yes you heard that right. An Autistic Barbie! Complete with headphones and eyes that don't look at you.

Lets talk about it.


Chapters

00:00 The Visibility of Autism
02:14 Concerns About Representation
04:36 Imagination vs. Representation in Toys
07:14 Critique of Performative Inclusion


Keywords

Autism, Barbie, representation, inclusivity, neurodiversity, children's toys, identity, parenting, societal perceptions, performative inclusion