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People pleasing isn’t just “being nice”.

Often, it’s the fawn response — appeasing to stay safe. If you struggle to say no, feel responsible for other people’s emotions, or apologise too much, it may not be your personality. It may be a protective procedure your nervous system learned early: If I keep you happy… I stay safe.

In this video, I share the story behind a childhood photo — and how it reveals what people pleasing really is, where it comes from, and how to start breaking free.

The 3 core skills this pathway trains (via guided practices):

• 8.2 Somatic Attunement

• 1.2 Adaptive Emotional Processing

• 6.1 Impulse Control (building “small no’s”)

If you only do one thing today: Practise the PsycheScriptions once (2–4 mins), then stop. These are trainable skills — not through harsh confrontation or sudden personality change, but through daily micro-practice that gradually teaches the nervous system:

I can stay connected… without self-abandoning. Membership: £10/month or £100/year (cancel any time). App stores may display different pricing depending on region/settings.

Timestamp:

00:00 Intro

00:49 What is people pleasing and why do we do this?

01:13 Common signs of people pleasing

01:26 Layla's Story

01:45 The link between people pleasing and complex trauma

02:19 Physical consequences of hypoarousal over the long term

02:44 The origins of people pleasing

03:58 The cost of people pleasing

05:45 Conclusion

About Dr Tony Weston

Psychotherapist, executive coach, clinical supervisor, award-winning researcher, and creator of the Lifelong Capacities Map® — Dr Tony Weston.

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I’ve Been Triggered: A Guide to Understanding and Managing Triggered Stateshttps://amzn.to/426rIC5

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In this video, I share a personal story behind a childhood photo — and how it reveals something deeper about people pleasing. We’ll explore the fawn response, a lesser-known trauma reaction where we prioritise others’ needs to feel safe. If you’ve ever struggled to say no, felt responsible for other people’s emotions, or apologised too much — this might be why. I’ll explain what people pleasing really is, where it comes from, and most importantly, how to start breaking free from it.

About Dr Tony Weston

Psychotherapist, executive coach, clinical supervisor, award-winning researcher, and creator of the Lifelong Capacities Map® — Dr Tony Weston.

Books

Transform Your Life: The Ultimate Guide to Self Mastery: The Lifelong Capacities Map for Thriving, Healing, and Human Development https://amzn.eu/d/eDeLeUd

I’ve Been Triggered: A Guide to Understanding and Managing Triggered States https://amzn.to/426rIC5

Work with Dr TonyBook: https://calendly.com/drtonyweston/new-meeting

Email: Tony@drtonyweston.com

Follow

• Website: https://psychevita.com

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@Transform_with_Dr_Tony

• TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@dr.tony.weston

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drtonyweston

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dr-tony-weston-556375340

Important note disclaimer

This content is for education and personal development and is not a substitute for medical, psychiatric, or psychological care.

Trademarks statementThe Lifelong Capacities Map®, PsycheVita®, PsycheVita Skills not Pills® and PsycheScription® are protected trademarks of Dr Tony Weston. You’re welcome to reference these ideas for personal/educational use; for professional/commercial use, please request permission via DrTonyWeston.com.

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Most people don’t realise they’re choosing projects instead of partners. In this video, I explain why caring, high-functioning people so often end up rescuing others in relationships — and how to stop repeating that pattern. You’ll learn how my Lifelong Capacities Map helps identify the emotional skills needed for healthy love, how to spot red flags early, and how to use my “Date Debrief Checklist” to know if you’re meeting a true partner or taking on a project. I also share a short guided “Dating Compass Reset” practice to help you stay centred, clear, and connected to your own vitality.Dr Tony Weston is an award-winning BACP Senior Accredited Counsellor, Psychotherapist & Clinical Supervisor; Executive Coach, and Organisational Consultant.Books by Dr Tony Weston“Transform Your Life: The Ultimate Guide to Self Mastery: The Lifelong Capacities Map for Thriving, Healing, and Human Development”Available on Amazon (Hard Cover, Soft Cover, Kindle Edition):https://amzn.eu/d/eDeLeUd“I’ve Been Triggered: A Guide to Understanding and Managing Triggered States”Download the Kindle Edition:https://amzn.to/426rIC5Schedule an appointment:To schedule an Executive Coaching or Psychotherapy session with Dr Tony Weston:https://calendly.com/drtonyweston/new-meetingContact: Tony@drtonyweston.comDownload your free worksheet at: https://drtonyweston.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Dating_Projects_Worksheet.docxFollow Dr. Tony Weston:• Website: https://drtonyweston.com• YouTube: https://youtube.com/@DrTonyWeston• TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@dr.tony.weston• Instagram: https://instagram.com/drtonyweston• LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/dr-tony-weston-556375340“Please note: All content on this channel, including videos and materials, is protected by copyright and owned by Dr. Tony Weston. Unauthorised downloading, copying, or reproduction is prohibited. Thank you for respecting intellectual property rights.This resource is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, and is not a substitute for medical, psychiatric, or psychological care. The Lifelong Capacities Map® and Psychevita® are protected trademarks of Dr Tony Weston. You’re encouraged to explore and share these ideas in your own growth journey—but if you’d like to use them in professional services, courses, or business materials, please reach out for permission at DrTonyWeston.com.”#HealthyRelationships #DatingAdvice #TraumaBonds #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfWorth #PsychologicalVitality #PersonalGrowth #RelationshipPatterns #TherapyTools #DrTonyWeston

This short guided practice helps you shift from rescuing or fixing in relationships to connecting as equals. Take a few calm minutes to ground yourself, reset your intention, and release what’s not yours to carry. You’re not here to rescue — you’re here to grow into love that lifts you higher.Dr Tony Weston is an award-winning BACP Senior Accredited Counsellor, Psychotherapist & Clinical Supervisor; Executive Coach, and Organisational Consultant.Books by Dr Tony Weston“Transform Your Life: The Ultimate Guide to Self Mastery: The Lifelong Capacities Map for Thriving, Healing, and Human Development”Available on Amazon (Hard Cover, Soft Cover, Kindle Edition):https://amzn.eu/d/eDeLeUd“I’ve Been Triggered: A Guide to Understanding and Managing Triggered States”Download the Kindle Edition:https://amzn.to/426rIC5Schedule an appointment:To schedule an Executive Coaching or Psychotherapy session with Dr Tony Weston:https://calendly.com/drtonyweston/new-meetingContact: Tony@drtonyweston.comDownload your free worksheet at: https://drtonyweston.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Dating_Projects_Worksheet.docxFollow Dr. Tony Weston:• Website: https://drtonyweston.com• YouTube: https://youtube.com/@DrTonyWeston• TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@dr.tony.weston• Instagram: https://instagram.com/drtonyweston• LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/dr-tony-weston-556375340“Please note: All content on this channel, including videos and materials, is protected by copyright and owned by Dr. Tony Weston. Unauthorised downloading, copying, or reproduction is prohibited. Thank you for respecting intellectual property rights.This resource is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, and is not a substitute for medical, psychiatric, or psychological care. The Lifelong Capacities Map® and Psychevita® are protected trademarks of Dr Tony Weston. You’re encouraged to explore and share these ideas in your own growth journey—but if you’d like to use them in professional services, courses, or business materials, please reach out for permission at DrTonyWeston.com.”#HealthyRelationships #DatingAdvice #TraumaBonds #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfWorth #PsychologicalVitality #PersonalGrowth #RelationshipPatterns #TherapyTools #DrTonyWeston

Most people don’t realise they’re choosing projects instead of partners. In this video, I explain why caring, high-functioning people so often end up rescuing others in relationships — and how to stop repeating that pattern. You’ll learn how my Lifelong Capacities Map helps identify the emotional skills needed for healthy love, how to spot red flags early, and how to use my “Date Debrief Checklist” to know if you’re meeting a true partner or taking on a project. I also share a short guided “Dating Compass Reset” practice to help you stay centred, clear, and connected to your own vitality.Dr Tony Weston is an award-winning BACP Senior Accredited Counsellor, Psychotherapist & Clinical Supervisor; Executive Coach, and Organisational Consultant.Books by Dr Tony Weston“Transform Your Life: The Ultimate Guide to Self Mastery: The Lifelong Capacities Map for Thriving, Healing, and Human Development”Available on Amazon (Hard Cover, Soft Cover, Kindle Edition):https://amzn.eu/d/eDeLeUd“I’ve Been Triggered: A Guide to Understanding and Managing Triggered States”Download the Kindle Edition:https://amzn.to/426rIC5Schedule an appointment:To schedule an Executive Coaching or Psychotherapy session with Dr Tony Weston:https://calendly.com/drtonyweston/new-meetingContact: Tony@drtonyweston.comDownload your free worksheet at: https://drtonyweston.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Dating_Projects_Worksheet.docxFollow Dr. Tony Weston:• Website: https://drtonyweston.com• YouTube: https://youtube.com/@DrTonyWeston• TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@dr.tony.weston• Instagram: https://instagram.com/drtonyweston• LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/dr-tony-weston-556375340“Please note: All content on this channel, including videos and materials, is protected by copyright and owned by Dr. Tony Weston. Unauthorised downloading, copying, or reproduction is prohibited. Thank you for respecting intellectual property rights.This resource is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, and is not a substitute for medical, psychiatric, or psychological care. The Lifelong Capacities Map® and Psychevita® are protected trademarks of Dr Tony Weston. You’re encouraged to explore and share these ideas in your own growth journey—but if you’d like to use them in professional services, courses, or business materials, please reach out for permission at DrTonyWeston.com.”#HealthyRelationships #DatingAdvice #TraumaBonds #EmotionalIntelligence #SelfWorth #PsychologicalVitality #PersonalGrowth #RelationshipPatterns #TherapyTools #DrTonyWeston

You’ve completed the PsycheScription™ practices.Each challenge — loneliness, panic, grief, longing, or doubt — is not a flaw but a signal for growth.Keep practicing, explore the free worksheets below, and remember: skills, not pills.Dr Tony Weston is an award-winning BACP Senior Accredited Counsellor, Psychotherapist & Clinical Supervisor; Executive Coach, and Organisational Consultant.Books by Dr Tony Weston“Transform Your Life: The Ultimate Guide to Self Mastery: The Lifelong Capacities Map for Thriving, Healing, and Human Development”Available on Amazon (Hard Cover, Soft Cover, Kindle Edition):https://amzn.eu/d/eDeLeUd“I’ve Been Triggered: A Guide to Understanding and Managing Triggered States”Download the Kindle Edition:https://amzn.to/426rIC5Schedule an appointment:To schedule an Executive Coaching or Psychotherapy session with Dr Tony Weston:https://calendly.com/drtonyweston/new-meetingContact: Tony@drtonyweston.comDownload your free worksheet at: https://drtonyweston.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Heartbreak_Worksheet_Fillable.docxFollow Dr. Tony Weston:• Website: https://drtonyweston.com• YouTube: https://youtube.com/@DrTonyWeston• TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@dr.tony.weston• Instagram: https://instagram.com/drtonyweston• LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/dr-tony-weston-556375340“Please note: All content on this channel, including videos and materials, is protected by copyright and owned by Dr. Tony Weston. Unauthorised downloading, copying, or reproduction is prohibited. Thank you for respecting intellectual property rights.This resource is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, and is not a substitute for medical, psychiatric, or psychological care. The Lifelong Capacities Map® and Psychevita® are protected trademarks of Dr Tony Weston. You’re encouraged to explore and share these ideas in your own growth journey—but if you’d like to use them in professional services, courses, or business materials, please reach out for permission at DrTonyWeston.com.”#PsycheScription #PersonalGrowth #EmotionalHealing

This guided PsycheScription™ helps you nurture small sparks of hope and meaning.Learn to hold hope gently and let it guide you toward growth and possibility.Dr Tony Weston is an award-winning BACP Senior Accredited Counsellor, Psychotherapist & Clinical Supervisor; Executive Coach, and Organisational Consultant.Books by Dr Tony Weston“Transform Your Life: The Ultimate Guide to Self Mastery: The Lifelong Capacities Map for Thriving, Healing, and Human Development”Available on Amazon (Hard Cover, Soft Cover, Kindle Edition):https://amzn.eu/d/eDeLeUd“I’ve Been Triggered: A Guide to Understanding and Managing Triggered States”Download the Kindle Edition:https://amzn.to/426rIC5Schedule an appointment:To schedule an Executive Coaching or Psychotherapy session with Dr Tony Weston:https://calendly.com/drtonyweston/new-meetingContact: Tony@drtonyweston.comDownload your free worksheet at: https://drtonyweston.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Heartbreak_Worksheet_Fillable.docxFollow Dr. Tony Weston:• Website: https://drtonyweston.com• YouTube: https://youtube.com/@DrTonyWeston• TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@dr.tony.weston• Instagram: https://instagram.com/drtonyweston• LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/dr-tony-weston-556375340“Please note: All content on this channel, including videos and materials, is protected by copyright and owned by Dr. Tony Weston. Unauthorised downloading, copying, or reproduction is prohibited. Thank you for respecting intellectual property rights.This resource is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, and is not a substitute for medical, psychiatric, or psychological care. The Lifelong Capacities Map® and Psychevita® are protected trademarks of Dr Tony Weston. You’re encouraged to explore and share these ideas in your own growth journey—but if you’d like to use them in professional services, courses, or business materials, please reach out for permission at DrTonyWeston.com.”#PsycheScription #Hope #EmotionalHealing

This guided PsycheScription™ helps you rebuild confidence and trust in your own mind.Learn to calm self-doubt, reflect clearly, and strengthen self-belief step by step.Dr Tony Weston is an award-winning BACP Senior Accredited Counsellor, Psychotherapist & Clinical Supervisor; Executive Coach, and Organisational Consultant.Books by Dr Tony Weston“Transform Your Life: The Ultimate Guide to Self Mastery: The Lifelong Capacities Map for Thriving, Healing, and Human Development”Available on Amazon (Hard Cover, Soft Cover, Kindle Edition):https://amzn.eu/d/eDeLeUd“I’ve Been Triggered: A Guide to Understanding and Managing Triggered States”Download the Kindle Edition:https://amzn.to/426rIC5Schedule an appointment:To schedule an Executive Coaching or Psychotherapy session with Dr Tony Weston:https://calendly.com/drtonyweston/new-meetingContact: Tony@drtonyweston.comDownload your free worksheet at: https://drtonyweston.com/wp-content/uploads/2025/09/Heartbreak_Worksheet_Fillable.docxFollow Dr. Tony Weston:• Website: https://drtonyweston.com• YouTube: https://youtube.com/@DrTonyWeston• TikTok: https://tiktok.com/@dr.tony.weston• Instagram: https://instagram.com/drtonyweston• LinkedIn: https://linkedin.com/in/dr-tony-weston-556375340“Please note: All content on this channel, including videos and materials, is protected by copyright and owned by Dr. Tony Weston. Unauthorised downloading, copying, or reproduction is prohibited. Thank you for respecting intellectual property rights.This resource is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease, and is not a substitute for medical, psychiatric, or psychological care. The Lifelong Capacities Map® and Psychevita® are protected trademarks of Dr Tony Weston. You’re encouraged to explore and share these ideas in your own growth journey—but if you’d like to use them in professional services, courses, or business materials, please reach out for permission at DrTonyWeston.com.”#PsycheScription #SelfConfidence #EmotionalHealing