In today's episode, Tolu Agbelusi speaks with poet, educator, Founder and CEO of literary charity Young Identity - Shirley May. Shirley is the author of Poetry Collection 'She Wrote Her Own Eulogy. In this conversation we talk about strength as learning to walk away sometimes lest we be broken. We also talk about sisterhood, becoming and ways of cultivating hope.

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In today's episode, Tolu Agbelusi speaks with Dr Jumoke Verissimo — poet, novelist and lecturer at the Toronto Metropolitan University. Her first novel was nominated for international awards, including the RSL Ondaatje Prize and the Edinburgh Festival First Book Award. It won the Aidoo-Snyder Book Prize.Jumoke is also the author of three poetry collections, a children’s book and she has co-authored a poetry anthology.

In this conversation we talk strength, expectations, marriage, divorce, the untraditional path and its consequences, and we explore questions about what it really means to choose yourself when everyone around you has already written your story? From the first question, Jumoke redefines a strong woman as someone who knows her own name - not just the one she was given, but the one she calls herself back to when the world tries to shrink her. She traces that idea through the women who shaped her, especially her grandmother and mother, whose agency, boldness, and refusal to disappear left lasting marks on how she moves through the world and the learnings and unlearnings that have shaped her becoming.

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In today's episode, Tolu Agbelusi speaks with Samenua Sesher — writer, coach, culture management consultant and founder and director of Museum of Color. This wide-ranging conversation explores what it means to show up as yourself without apology, the things we unlearn about niceness and availability, , supernatural encounters and the courage to leave without a safety net, loving people without allowing that love to harm you, Ubuntu and the world that resists it, the danger of outsourcing our thinking, what it means to cultivate hope in a frightening world, the work of Museum of Color, and why walking — in every sense — is how we are held.

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In this episode, Tolu Agbelusi sits in conversation with singer, songwriter, poet and educator Asabi Hawah. In this heartfelt interview, Asabi Hawah shares her journey of redefining strength, embracing vulnerability, and living authentically as a woman, mother, and artist. Discover insights on unlearning societal expectations, cultivating hope, and leaving a meaningful legacy.

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In this episode, Tolu Agbelusi is in discussion with multi-award winning poet, playwright, librettist, scholar and educator Dr Rommi Smith. This is a conversation that challenges us to consider the dualities we inhabit particularly as regards power & vulnerability and how resourcefulness is essential to defining what and who a strong woman is, in the context of the challenging world we call home. Far from any ideas of strength and becoming as a solo endeavour, Rommi reflects with great joy and gratitude on those who have played a pivotal role in who she gets to be in the world.

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In this episode, Tolu Agbelusi delves deep in conversation with multidisciplinary visual artist Ayesha Feisal on what it means and what it takes to become, questioning expectations, becoming a disruptor, a process of unlearning, joy, sisterhood, art and finding beauty in unlikely places.

Ayesha's art is always a must see and well worth adding to your collection. Check out her website here.

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This month we abandon regular programming as podcast host Tolu Agbelusi takes the hot seat and is interviewed by Diana Onuma who was our guest in November 2025. Tolu is a poet, playwright, editor, artist and former lawyer. She is also the author of Locating Strongwoman. She shares her journey of creative self-expression, exploring themes of authenticity, legacy, and the complexities of mother-daughter relationships. She reflects on the impact of her work, the challenges of unlearning societal and family expectations, and the importance of self-acceptance. Tolu emphasizes the need for open communication in relationships and the value of embracing discomfort for personal growth.

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In this episode, Tolu Agbelusi engages in a deeply affirming conversation with Diana Onuma, a family mediator, lawyer and life coach. They explore the essence of what it means to be deeply rooted, the importance of vulnerability, the cultural conditioning that shapes women's identities and how to unlearn them. Diana shares her personal journey of self-discovery, the role models that inspired her, and the complexities of mother-daughter relationships. They discuss the challenges of unlearning societal expectations, the impact of shame and guilt, and the significance of sisterhood. Diana also delves into her experiences with perimenopause and the importance of advocating for women's health. The conversation concludes with reflections on legacy, joy, and the power of connection.

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If you are stuck in an abusive relationship and need a coach to plan and walk with you through your exit - reach out to diana on her insta dm @dianaonuma or send an email to hello @ thesoulhealing-boutique.co.uk

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