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This episode continues the conversation with the same anonymous guest from "I Want Love...So Why Do I Keep Running From It?" If you haven't heard Part 1, we recommend listening to that episode first before tuning into this one.

In that episode, you'll hear how the WAIT method helped uncover the patterns that were keeping her from the relationship she wanted.

Now, the story continues.

After reconnecting with the man she walked away from, she finds herself in something she's never experienced before: a healthy relationship. But instead of feeling safe, old fears begin to resurface.

Why do we want to run when things are finally going well? Why can healthy love feel so uncomfortable? And how do we stop letting old patterns make decisions for us?

In this honest follow-up conversation, Dr. Lee Long and Lila Pond explore what happens after the breakthrough. Together, they unpack fear of intimacy, future projecting, the urge to create conflict, and the challenge of staying connected without losing yourself.

If you've ever wondered why healing doesn't automatically erase old patterns, this episode is for you.

Because sometimes the greatest growth isn't finding yourself. It's choosing not to lose yourself when love finally arrives.

The WAIT, Let's Talk About That with Dr. Lee Long podcast is intended solely for general informational purposes and does not represent the practice of medicine, therapeutic and psychiatric services, nursing, or other professional health care services. It also does not constitute the provision of medical, therapeutic or psychiatric advice, and no doctor/patient relationship is established. The information on this podcast and any materials linked from it are used at the user's own risk. The content provided through this podcast should not be considered a replacement for professional medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It is important that users do not ignore or postpone seeking medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice for any health or mental health condition they might have, and should always consult with their health care professionals regarding such conditions.

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In part one of this conversation, we heard how a natural helper can slowly lose herself trying to show up for everyone else. In part two, she goes deeper.

What begins as a check-in on how the WAIT framework has been landing in her real life quickly opens into something more raw. The grief she is still moving through. The high-achieving, high-capacity woman who has been quietly shocked by how little she has to give right now. And the realization that the voice in her head, the one that critiques and judges and tears apart, would never speak to another person the way it speaks to her.

Through it all, one question anchors the conversation. Where am I in this?

You will hear what it looks like to begin finding yourself not at the finish line, but on the course. In the in-between. In the small, quiet moments where the critic starts to lose its grip and you begin to see yourself a little more clearly.

As you listen, notice what comes up for you in your own story, because even if the circumstances are different, the patterns are often the same.

If you have ever extended grace to everyone around you while quietly tearing yourself apart, or found yourself more focused on arriving than on where you actually are right now, this conversation will likely resonate in a very real way.

Get Dr. Lee Long's book WAIT, Where Am I in This here: https://tinyurl.com/mtfm6bh8

The WAIT, Let's Talk About That with Dr. Lee Long podcast is intended solely for general informational purposes and does not represent the practice of medicine, therapeutic and psychiatric services, nursing, or other professional health care services. It also does not constitute the provision of medical, therapeutic or psychiatric advice, and no doctor/patient relationship is established. The information on this podcast and any materials linked from it are used at the user's own risk. The content provided through this podcast should not be considered a replacement for professional medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It is important that users do not ignore or postpone seeking medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice for any health or mental health condition they might have, and should always consult with their health care professionals regarding such conditions.

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In today's conversation, an anonymous guest opens up about what it looks like to be a natural helper who has spent most of her life focused outward.

She is a teacher, a caregiver by nature, someone who reads a room the way most people read a book. And for a long time, that gift served her well. Until she realized it was also the thing quietly costing her the most, especially in her relationships.

What begins as a conversation about dating and anxious attachment slowly unravels into something much deeper. The exhausting cycle of showing up for everyone else while slowly losing track of yourself. The way being a helper can become a way of avoiding the harder question of what you actually need. And what it really means to pick yourself first without feeling selfish for doing it.

This is part one of a two part conversation. In part two, she goes even deeper into grief, self-judgment, and what it looks like to finally start extending to yourself the same grace you give everyone else.

Through it all, one question anchors the conversation. Where am I in this?

As you listen, notice what comes up for you in your own story, because even if the situation looks different, the pattern is often the same.

If you have ever poured from an empty cup, said yes when you meant no, or found yourself taking care of everyone's building but your own, this conversation will likely resonate in a very real way.

Get Dr. Lee Long's book WAIT, Where Am I in This here: https://tinyurl.com/mtfm6bh8

The WAIT, Let's Talk About That with Dr. Lee Long podcast is intended solely for general informational purposes and does not represent the practice of medicine, therapeutic and psychiatric services, nursing, or other professional health care services. It also does not constitute the provision of medical, therapeutic or psychiatric advice, and no doctor/patient relationship is established. The information on this podcast and any materials linked from it are used at the user's own risk. The content provided through this podcast should not be considered a replacement for professional medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice, diagnosis, or treatment. It is important that users do not ignore or postpone seeking medical, therapeutic, or psychiatric advice for any health or mental health condition they might have, and should always consult with their health care professionals regarding such conditions.

www.drleelong.com

Instagram: @dr.leelong

TikTok: @dr.leelong

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dr.leelong/

Dr. Lee Long’s book: WAIT, Where Am I in This on Amazon