Episodes

  • Strong Men, Strong Relationships: How Brotherhood, Boundaries, and Belief Create Healthy Relationships

    Strong Men, Strong Relationships: How Brotherhood, Boundaries, and Belief Create Healthy Relationships
    Jan 23 2026
    In this episode of "Living By Oak Values," hosts Northman Coaching's Gary and AJ delve into the essential relationships every man should cultivate for a fulfilling life. They discuss the four key relationships: with God, oneself, brotherhood, and family. AJ emphasizes the importance of self-relationship as foundational, while Northman Coaching highlights the significance of a higher power. The conversation transitions into the ten rules for healthy relationships, including communication, accountability, and intimacy, with both hosts sharing personal anecdotes and insights. They stress the necessity of boundaries and the dangers of relying solely on family for emotional support, advocating for a strong brotherhood to share burdens and maintain healthy dynamics in personal relationships.


    #strongmen #healthyrelationships #brotherhood #boundaries #selfrelationship #communication, accountability #intimacy #marriagerules #personalgrowth #faith #divorce

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    51 mins
  • Integrity Is the Alignment of Faith, Conviction, and Action

    Integrity Is the Alignment of Faith, Conviction, and Action
    Jan 16 2026
    Keywords
    #integrity #values #parenting #self-reflection #personalgrowth #faith #conviction #actions #lifestyle #coaching

    Summary
    In this episode, the host delves into the concept of integrity, emphasizing its importance in personal values and actions. Drawing from a church discussion, he highlights the significance of self-reflection through three pivotal questions: 'Who told you?', 'Where are you?', and 'What have you done?'. The conversation transitions into the role of parenting, stressing that a parent's primary responsibility is to raise their children with integrity and values, avoiding knee-jerk reactions that could lead to chaos. The host encourages listeners to reflect on their influences and the lifestyle they are building based on their actions and values.

    Takeaways
    Integrity blends into everything we do.
    Self-reflection is crucial for personal growth.
    Who you listen to shapes your values.
    Your actions reflect your integrity.
    Parenting requires thoughtful decision-making.
    Knee-jerk reactions can have serious consequences.
    Raising children is a primary responsibility.
    Values determine lifestyle choices.
    Live by your core values.
    Integrity is proven through actions, not words.

    Titles
    The Essence of Integrity in Life
    Parenting with Integrity: A Guide

    Sound bites
    "Who are you listening to?"
    "Your job is to raise your kid."
    "Be a good parent."

    Chapters
    00:00 Exploring Integrity: The Foundation of Values
    11:01 The Role of Parenting in Upholding Integrity
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    13 mins
  • Integrity: Who you are when nobody is watching

    Integrity: Who you are when nobody is watching
    Jan 9 2026
    Summary
    In this conversation, the Gary and AJ delve into the concept of integrity, sharing personal experiences and insights on how it shapes their lives. They discuss the importance of authenticity, accountability, and the challenges of maintaining integrity in modern life. The conversation also touches on the role of apologies, parenting, and the distinction between toxic masculinity and true masculinity, emphasizing that integrity should be a foundational value in personal growth.
    Keywords
    #integrity #authenticity #accountability #personalgrowth #masculinity #parenting #values #apologies #selfimprovement #life lessons
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    39 mins
  • Living Oak Values in Realtime

    Living Oak Values in Realtime
    Dec 19 2025
    Keywords
    Oak values, accountability, personal growth, men's group, integrity, faith, teaching values, brotherhood, self-discovery, life challenges

    Summary
    In this conversation, the hosts discuss the importance of accountability, personal growth, and the values that guide men in their lives. They explore how to teach these values to the next generation, the significance of brotherhood, and the challenges men face in maintaining their integrity and balance in life. The discussion emphasizes the slow growth of values, much like the roots of an oak tree, and the necessity of being tested to truly understand and embody these values.

    Takeaways
    Every man needs to know what he's building.
    Finding accountability is crucial for personal growth.
    Hard work is essential for achieving meaningful goals.
    Values grow slowly, like the roots of an oak tree.
    Brotherhood is vital for support during tough times.
    Teaching values to children is a responsibility of parents.
    Curiosity drives growth and learning in men.
    Stability comes from having strong values and boundaries.
    Rediscovering faith can aid in personal recovery.
    Men often need to learn from their own mistakes.

    Titles
    Building a Future with Oak Values
    The Power of Accountability in Men's Lives

    Sound bites
    "You have to find your own accountability."
    "Men need to hold men up in every storm."
    "You can't skip those steps."

    Chapters
    00:00 Building a Future: The Importance of Planning
    02:24 Accountability as a Foundation for Growth
    04:23 Integrity and Faith: Personal Development Goals
    06:39 Teaching Values: Preparing the Next Generation
    10:07 The Oak Values: Strength in Brotherhood
    12:12 Learning Through Experience: The Journey of Young Men
    16:05 The Role of Values in Personal Growth
    19:19 Finding Calmness and Happiness Amidst Pain
    23:42 Rediscovering Self and Faith After Heartbreak
    28:02 The Importance of Accountability and Integrity
    32:18 Finding Balance in Life and Values
    36:04 The Role of Values in Personal Growth
    39:40 Responding vs. Reacting: A Path to Authenticity
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    #LivingOakValues #MensWork #MensGrowth #MensLeadership #ValuesInAction
    #Integrity #Discipline #SelfRespect #Masculinity #PersonalDevelopment
    #LeadByExample #CharacterBuilding #ModernMasculinity #PurposeDriven
    #MenWithStandards #InnerStrength #BeTheMan #LegacyMindset #MensPodcast
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    47 mins
  • What Are You Building Now? Clarity, Attention & the Next Evolution of You

    What Are You Building Now? Clarity, Attention & the Next Evolution of You
    Dec 12 2025
    🔥 SHOW NOTES (With Clickable Links) Episode Theme:
    What Are You Building Now? Clarity, Attention & the Next Evolution of You In this episode we cover:
    • Why intention determines your outcomes
    • How clarity becomes the foundation for the year ahead
    • Why attention is the currency that shapes your life
    • How to define the next evolution of yourself
    • The 7-Day Builder Challenge
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    The Weekly Challenge:
    Pick ONE thing you are building in your:
    1. Character
    2. Connection
    3. Mission
    Write it every morning. Track consistency, not perfection. Connect with me:
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    Email: gary@northmancoaching.com
    🔥 #mensgrowth #menswork #masculineleadership #clarity #purpose #nextlevelyou #selfmastery #yearahead #buildyourlife #discipline #focus #motivatedmen #northmancoaching #oakvalues #legacybuilding #mindsetmatters #innerstrength #betheman #selfleadership #levelup
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    15 mins
  • What Are You Leaving Behind_ Clearing Your Hands So You Can Carry What Matters

    What Are You Leaving Behind_ Clearing Your Hands So You Can Carry What Matters
    Dec 5 2025
    🔥 What Are You Leaving Behind?
    In this first solo episode, Gary gets real about the weight men carry, the stories we cling to, and the invisible burdens that keep us from stepping into the life we’re meant to lead. Letting go isn’t weakness — it’s wisdom. It’s the courage to lay down what no longer serves you so you can finally pick up what matters. Tonight we talk about pruning old habits, releasing old identities, and clearing space for growth. If you’re ending a season, beginning a new one, or just ready to stop dragging yesterday into tomorrow, this episode is for you.
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    #NorthmanCoaching #LivingByOakValues #MensGrowth #LettingGo #PersonalGrowthJourney #MindsetShift #MensMentalHealth #MasculineLeadership #HealingJourney #FaithAndStrength #StrongMen #LevelUpYourLife #SelfReflection #CourageToGrow #NewSeasonNewYou #IdentityWork #ReleasingThePast #MotivatedMen #GaryHults #TheSuperiorMailman
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    30 mins
  • Honor The Year Behind You

    Honor The Year Behind You
    Nov 28 2025
    📘 SHOW NOTES — “Honoring the Year Behind You” In this episode of Living by Oak Values, Gary and Rob dive into how to honor the year behind you with honesty, courage, and reflection. Instead of labeling the year as “good” or “bad,” they explore how to look at your wins, wounds, and lessons as a roadmap for a stronger future.
    If you want to enter the next season with clarity and intention, this episode is your reset button. 🔥 What You’ll Learn
    • Why the year is a teacher, not a scoreboard
    • How men rush past their own growth without realizing it
    • How to reflect without self-shaming
    • What to carry forward—and what to finally leave behind
    • The two questions every man should ask himself before the year ends
    📝 Episode Challenge Take 10 minutes alone tonight and answer:
    1️⃣ What am I proud of this year?
    2️⃣ What truth did this year force me to face?
    Honest answers only.
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    45 mins
  • Becoming whole, not perfect

    Becoming whole, not perfect
    Nov 21 2025
    🎙️ Show Notes (Apple Podcasts — Short + SEO Ready) In this episode of Living by Oak Values, Gary and Rob sit down with special guest Matthew Hults to explore what it truly means to become whole, not perfect. Matthew shares his journey through fatherhood, addiction, business failure, losing himself, and rebuilding his life from the ground up. This is a raw, honest conversation about masculinity, healing, identity, and the pressure men feel to look flawless while falling apart inside. If you’ve ever felt behind, overwhelmed, or disconnected from who you are, this episode will hit home. 🔗 Links & Resources Northman Coaching: https://northmancoaching.com
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    #WholenessNotPerfection #LivingByOakValues #MensGrowth #MensHealing #MasculineGrowth #Brotherhood #InnerFoundation #RealStrength #MensMentalHealth #FatherhoodJourney #NorthmanCoaching #RebuildYourLife
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    49 mins