When we want things and can't figure out how to make them happen, we often think, "Why can't I do this? There's something wrong with me."

In this episode, I show the power of the question, “What if I’m not the problem?” through a client’s story that reveals how quickly we turn challenges into self-blame rather than curiosity.

I look at how our cultural programming and personal experiences often lead us to see systems issues as character judgments, which makes it harder to find solutions. By shifting from shame to curiosity, by asking, "What if I'm not the problem?" we open up more effective, more compassionate paths to change. This episode is about self-compassion, perspective shifts, and reclaiming agency without turning yourself (or anyone else) into the problem.

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We often think about change in black-and-white, all-or-nothing ways—especially at the start of a new year -- which often sets us up to feel like failures. I call this "switch thinking" -- on or off. In this episode, I suggest "dial thinking" for meaningful, long-lasting change. I share how incremental change actually calms the brain, builds momentum, and makes it easier to keep going after inevitable setbacks -- whether we want to eat more protein or feel a greater sense of calm every day. This episode is a roadmap to inviting change that is more doable, kinder, and more likely to succeed in the long run.

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In this New Year podcast episode, I share why the most powerful resolution you can make is to have your own back—a mindset that supports lasting personal growth, self-compassion, and meaningful change. I walk through five practical ways to build self-trust, including celebrating your wins, practicing compassion instead of self-criticism, honoring habits and process over outcomes, and being honest with yourself about what you truly want. This episode focuses on sustainable habits, emotional resilience, and creating a life you love without perfectionism or shame. It’s an invitation to start 2026 with clarity, kindness, and a stronger relationship with yourself.

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Are you feeling overwhelmed this December? Looking forward to the clean slate of January? Here's the truth -- You don't need a clean slate. That's the fantasy that tells us that the next time we'll do things differently, we'll get it right, we'll figure it all out. What will actually help is making friends with entropy, the law that drives everything towards disorder. In this episode, I show you how.

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So many of us in midlife feel behind or inadequate because we forget we’re already in the arena, doing brave and difficult things every day. In this episode, I introduce the idea of “arena thoughts” — grounding reminders that help us see our own effort instead of listening to the inner critics in the bleachers. If you've been losing touch with your own inner strength, this is your invitation to reconnect.

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Brené Brown, "Man in the Arena"

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Over the past few weeks, I felt this deep truth: our lives are oriented by the questions we have running in the background. I took a few weeks off from the podcast and it was fine, but I noticed that it changed my relationship with the rest of my life, which I didn't expect. I saw clearly that when we change the questions we ask, our experience of our daily life changes. In this episode, I explore why this is — and how asking powerful, open questions can help us feel more grounded, curious, and alive. Whether your goal is to strengthen a relationship, ease anxiety, or reconnect with yourself, it all starts with the answers you set your mind out to find.

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Do you ever feel like life has become one long "to do" list and it's never done? This is where I was recently, feeling disconnected and looking for Something Big that would shift everything. But what I realized is that I didn't need Something Big -- I just needed to fall back in love with my life. And I did.

In this episode, I share three things about love that helped me find my way back -- to myself, my life, and, as it turns out, this podcast. Because connecting with you is one of my deepest joys. Drop me a note and tell me what you're doing to stay connected to yourself these days -- maybe I'll make a list and share it out. ❤️

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In this episode, I explore the idea of architect energy versus gardener energy—a metaphor I first heard from musician Brian Eno. When I was younger, I lived with strong architect energy: I made plans, built the life I wanted, and took satisfaction in achieving goals. But midlife has taught me the power of gardener energy—working with what grows, embracing uncertainty, and collaborating with time and change. I share three guiding questions to help embrace our inner gardener.

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Ezra Klein interview with Brian Eno (10/3/2025)

Reasons to be Cheerful (David Byrne)

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