The Anti–New Year, New Me pressure: How to Let Go, Not Load Up in 2026

If you’re gearing up for another ‘New Year, New Me’ reinvention… pause.

This episode is your intervention.

We're calling out the pressure, the perfectionism, the 5am routines, the hustle culture masquerading as “self-improvement” and we’re replacing it with something that actually changes your life:

Letting. Sh*t. Go.

You’ll dive into why women just like you get stuck in survival-mode resets, how to release what’s draining you, and the real definition of growth (spoiler: it’s not adding more to your plate).

Plus: practical rituals to bring in the new year calmly and intentionally, no pressure, no bullshit, no burnout.

This is your anti-resolution revolution.

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Life moves in seasons, and so do we.

For perfectionist, good-girl women, ignoring your own needs often becomes the norm, but it doesn’t have to be.

In this episode, we explore how to honour your capacity, energy, and emotional needs through each life season.

I guide you to reflect on how you’ve evolved and how to keep growing intentionally, not reactively.

📝 Journal Prompt: What season am I in right now, and what would it look like to honour it fully?

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Millennial women are caught between old expectations and modern pressures, often leaving perfectionist, people-pleasing women feeling like they’re never enough.

In this episode, we explore why true success isn’t about your to-do list, it’s about aligning your life with your values, not everyone else’s.

I share a personal story and a client breakthrough that reveals how redefining success can feel freeing, fulfilling, and entirely your own.

📝 Journal Prompt: What would success look like if it actually felt good?

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Today’s we're talking about finding your voice again, especially when you’ve spent your whole life learning to silence it.

This is for the woman who learned early on to scan the room for danger, to monitor peoples moods, to adjust, shrink, or smile so that everyone else stayed comfortable.

You became the caretaker. The peacekeeper. The responsible one. And in doing so, you lost touch with your own needs, your own feelings, your own voice.

You were the girl who had to be small to feel accepted, and now we lo0k at what that turns into in adulthood and motherhood.

So if you’ve ever felt unseen, unheard, or invisible, if you’ve ever wondered why you find it so hard to say what you need, this episode is for you.

This week’s journaling prompt:

• Where in my life am I still scanning the room, and what would change if I started scanning myself instead?
• If I used my voice, what would I want to say, and to who?

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We’re talking about something that so many women quietly experience, but rarely have the space to admit out loud: That feeling of being lost inside your own life.

You’ve built a career, maybe raised a family, held the emotional weight for everyone around you, but somewhere along the way, you got buried under all those roles.

So today, we’re talking about what it really means to reclaim YOU; the woman beyond the job title, the partner, the mother, the organiser, the fixer. This is about redefining yourself, not from scratch, but from truth.

Journaling prompt:

• Who am I when I’m not needed?
• And when I'm not needed, what would I do with that space if I stopped apologising for it?

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In this episode we dive deeper into your good girl conditioning. We will look at:

• The psychology of the “good girl” trap and how it shapes every decision you make.
• How to stop over functioning and over-giving without feeling guilty.
• Real client examples of letting go of people-pleasing.
• How RESET helps you break these habits for good.

Journaling prompt:

• What version of me am I still trying to prove is ‘good enough’ and who am I trying to prove it to? And what would it look like to let that version of me rest?

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Survival mode can easily become your default setting when going through big life shifts like divorce, grief and loss, job changes, becoming a mother, or any other big life event that swipes you off your feet.

But when you have spent years proving, pleasing, and performing, survival mode tales over your life because you can't be fully present in your life, when you life your life for others.

The hidden cost to survival mode is huge.

In today's episode we talk about how to spot survival mode even if "life looks fine", the beliefs that keep you stuck and how to move beyond survival.

Journaling prompt:

• What parts of me are just surviving, and what do they actually need?

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I've rebranded my business because I redefined my life.

In this episode I talk about my own story of going from being in survival mode as the good girl and into a brand new chapter in who I was, and how I redefined my own life.

Most women these days are in high-functioning, burn out, trying to keep up with the expectations the world / society / their families has thrust upon them.

And being the good girl has kept you safe for so long.

But now you're in the messy middle of womanhood, where you've got the life you always wanted, but it doesn't feel enough, Here's why - because you lost yourself trying to create a tick box life.

You don't need more coping strategies, you need to redefine what your life looks and feels like.

DM me RESET if you want to emotionally detox from your good girl conditioning

DM me REDEFINE if you are ready for the full life, mindset and identity upgrade.

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'Reset' Programme: www.riaolivercoaching/reset-perfectionist-support

Redefine Programme: https://www.riaolivercoaching.com/redefine-your-life

Book a FREE 1-1 call: https://calendly.com/ria-oliver-coaching-and-therapy/45min