Who decided that getting older means getting quieter, smaller, or less fabulous? Because Daria Rosen and I would like a word. In this episode of the Pink Lady Posse Podcast for Women Who Refuse to Disappear, I'm joined by author, speaker, and menopause educator Daria Rosen, the brilliant woman behind I'm Still Hot. And honey, she's not just talking about hot flashes.

Daria shares her deeply personal journey through stage four endometriosis, hysterectomy, corporate America, and the years she spent asking herself, "Who am I to write this book?" We unpack the mystery of perimenopause, why women's experiences are so different, and why shame and silence have absolutely no place in conversations about our bodies. But we don't stop there. We talk about failure, self-doubt, technology, lifelong learning, and the wisdom that only comes from living a little.

This is a conversation about more than hormones. It's about knowing that your story matters, your experience has value, and your next chapter might be the most interesting one yet. So put on your lipstick—or don't—and pull up a chair. You're not done, darling. Not even close.

• A clearer understanding of perimenopause, menopause, and postmenopause.
• Permission to experience aging differently from everybody else.
• A new perspective on the question, "Who am I to do this?"
• Encouragement to turn failures and detours into useful life experience.
• A reminder that your voice, wisdom, and individuality matter.
• Inspiration to keep learning, experimenting, and embracing change.
• A reason to stop apologizing for taking up space.

https://www.imstillhot.com/

https://www.youtube.com/@dariarosen/videos

https://www.youtube.com/pinkladyposse

Special Guest: Tammy Schaefer, AI Strategist & Custom Systems Designer

What happens when a 70-year-old woman with a book, a beautiful website, a big vision, and a business held together by technological duct tape meets an AI strategist who knows how to make systems actually work?

This week, I'm joined by Tammy Schaefer, an AI strategist and custom systems designer who helps healers, creatives, coaches, and small business owners take the chaos out of technology.

Here's my confession: I've written a book. I've developed an entire Friction Framework. I've built a community of extraordinary women. I have a gorgeous website, a growing vision, and enough ideas to keep three businesses busy.

But systems? My technology toolbox looks like Frankenstein went shopping for software and forgot to bring the instructions.

And I'm guessing I'm not alone.

When we encounter something difficult, especially something we think everybody else has already figured out, we often make it mean something about ourselves.

We think we're too old. Too slow. Not disciplined enough. Not technical enough. Or maybe we're just not cut out for this brave new world of artificial intelligence.

Tammy and I explore how these same patterns show up in our businesses, our relationship with technology, and even the way we see ourselves.

For some women, those two little letters — AI — are enough to make them want to grab their purse and head for the nearest exit.

Technology is changing faster than we can learn it. Just when you figure out one thing, somebody introduces something else with a name that sounds like it belongs in a science fiction movie.

But Tammy has a refreshingly practical approach.

She doesn't believe everyone needs to become a technology expert. She believes technology should be designed to support the way people actually think, work, and live.

Imagine help with an overflowing email inbox. Or an AI assistant that prepares thoughtful follow-up emails in your voice, puts them in your drafts folder, and lets you review them before sending.

Or an AI assistant who protects time on your calendar for writing, creating, or even taking care of yourself.

Not robots taking over the world. Not machines rearranging your kitchen while you're sleeping.

We're talking about tools that can give you back something far more valuable than another productivity badge: your time, your energy, and your peace of mind.

And Sandy shares how one of her AI agents saved her an estimated 22 hours of work last week!

Tammy shares how she uses her own systems to create room for movement, self-care, writing, and the things that matter beyond her business.

At 70, I'm still learning. I'm still experimenting. I'm still getting frustrated. And I'm still finding new ways to create a life that works for me.

Tammy also shares how she helps business owners identify their three biggest systems bottlenecks and develop a practical, step-by-step plan for moving forward.

Sometimes the answer is organizing an inbox.

Sometimes it's simplifying a collection of disconnected tools.

Sometimes it's building an AI-assisted workflow that helps you stay connected to the people who matter to your business.

And sometimes the most important step is simply having someone who understands technology sit beside you and say, "We can figure this out."

Because the goal isn't to become someone else.

The goal is to create systems that support who you already are.

Toward the end of our conversation, Tammy shares the beautiful symbolism of the butterfly and its transformation — including that messy, uncertain stage when everything seems to have turned to goo.

And isn't that a perfect picture of reinvention?

Sometimes the middle of becoming something new doesn't look particularly graceful.

Sometimes it looks like confusion, uncertainty, and a whole lot of goo.

But that doesn't mean the transformation isn't happening.

Lipstick on. Shoulders back. Let's go.

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💗 Learn more about Tammy Schaefer: https://www.bluebutterflysolutions.com/

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