Ladies, we need to talk about something most of us have been taking for granted our entire lives. Our voices. We use them to run businesses, tell stories, advocate for ourselves, ask for what we're worth, and occasionally tell somebody exactly where they can put their unsolicited advice. But when was the last time you actually thought about taking care of yours?

In this episode of the Pink Lady Posse Podcast, I'm joined by voice coach Melissa Kamm, who has more than 35 years of teaching experience and a master's degree in vocal performance. And let me tell you, she opened my eyes! We're talking about why women sometimes shrink their voices, how breathing and posture affect confidence, and why vocal warmups aren't just for opera singers. Who knew a little humming could be part of your business strategy?

Whether you're 40, 50, 60, 70, or beyond, this conversation is your reminder that you don't need to sound like someone else to command attention. You need to show up as yourself, prepared to be heard. Lipstick on, shoulders back, take a breath. We're not disappearing, and we're certainly not going silent.

Sandy Parker Martinez

https://pinkladyposse.com/

Melissa Kamm

website: melissakamm.me

they can email me at Melissa@melissakamm.me

Book a discovery call (https://www.melissakamm.me/coaching)

Who decided that getting older means getting quieter, smaller, or less fabulous? Because Daria Rosen and I would like a word. In this episode of the Pink Lady Posse Podcast for Women Who Refuse to Disappear, I'm joined by author, speaker, and menopause educator Daria Rosen, the brilliant woman behind I'm Still Hot. And honey, she's not just talking about hot flashes.

Daria shares her deeply personal journey through stage four endometriosis, hysterectomy, corporate America, and the years she spent asking herself, "Who am I to write this book?" We unpack the mystery of perimenopause, why women's experiences are so different, and why shame and silence have absolutely no place in conversations about our bodies. But we don't stop there. We talk about failure, self-doubt, technology, lifelong learning, and the wisdom that only comes from living a little.

This is a conversation about more than hormones. It's about knowing that your story matters, your experience has value, and your next chapter might be the most interesting one yet. So put on your lipstick—or don't—and pull up a chair. You're not done, darling. Not even close.

• A clearer understanding of perimenopause, menopause, and postmenopause.
• Permission to experience aging differently from everybody else.
• A new perspective on the question, "Who am I to do this?"
• Encouragement to turn failures and detours into useful life experience.
• A reminder that your voice, wisdom, and individuality matter.
• Inspiration to keep learning, experimenting, and embracing change.
• A reason to stop apologizing for taking up space.

https://www.imstillhot.com/

https://www.youtube.com/@dariarosen/videos

https://www.youtube.com/pinkladyposse

Special Guest: Tammy Schaefer, AI Strategist & Custom Systems Designer

What happens when a 70-year-old woman with a book, a beautiful website, a big vision, and a business held together by technological duct tape meets an AI strategist who knows how to make systems actually work?

This week, I'm joined by Tammy Schaefer, an AI strategist and custom systems designer who helps healers, creatives, coaches, and small business owners take the chaos out of technology.

Here's my confession: I've written a book. I've developed an entire Friction Framework. I've built a community of extraordinary women. I have a gorgeous website, a growing vision, and enough ideas to keep three businesses busy.

But systems? My technology toolbox looks like Frankenstein went shopping for software and forgot to bring the instructions.

And I'm guessing I'm not alone.

When we encounter something difficult, especially something we think everybody else has already figured out, we often make it mean something about ourselves.

We think we're too old. Too slow. Not disciplined enough. Not technical enough. Or maybe we're just not cut out for this brave new world of artificial intelligence.

Tammy and I explore how these same patterns show up in our businesses, our relationship with technology, and even the way we see ourselves.

For some women, those two little letters — AI — are enough to make them want to grab their purse and head for the nearest exit.

Technology is changing faster than we can learn it. Just when you figure out one thing, somebody introduces something else with a name that sounds like it belongs in a science fiction movie.

But Tammy has a refreshingly practical approach.

She doesn't believe everyone needs to become a technology expert. She believes technology should be designed to support the way people actually think, work, and live.

Imagine help with an overflowing email inbox. Or an AI assistant that prepares thoughtful follow-up emails in your voice, puts them in your drafts folder, and lets you review them before sending.

Or an AI assistant who protects time on your calendar for writing, creating, or even taking care of yourself.

Not robots taking over the world. Not machines rearranging your kitchen while you're sleeping.

We're talking about tools that can give you back something far more valuable than another productivity badge: your time, your energy, and your peace of mind.

And Sandy shares how one of her AI agents saved her an estimated 22 hours of work last week!

Tammy shares how she uses her own systems to create room for movement, self-care, writing, and the things that matter beyond her business.

At 70, I'm still learning. I'm still experimenting. I'm still getting frustrated. And I'm still finding new ways to create a life that works for me.

Tammy also shares how she helps business owners identify their three biggest systems bottlenecks and develop a practical, step-by-step plan for moving forward.

Sometimes the answer is organizing an inbox.

Sometimes it's simplifying a collection of disconnected tools.

Sometimes it's building an AI-assisted workflow that helps you stay connected to the people who matter to your business.

And sometimes the most important step is simply having someone who understands technology sit beside you and say, "We can figure this out."

Because the goal isn't to become someone else.

The goal is to create systems that support who you already are.

Toward the end of our conversation, Tammy shares the beautiful symbolism of the butterfly and its transformation — including that messy, uncertain stage when everything seems to have turned to goo.

And isn't that a perfect picture of reinvention?

Sometimes the middle of becoming something new doesn't look particularly graceful.

Sometimes it looks like confusion, uncertainty, and a whole lot of goo.

But that doesn't mean the transformation isn't happening.

Lipstick on. Shoulders back. Let's go.

💗 Listen to the full episode: [EPISODE LINK]

💗 Learn more about Tammy Schaefer: https://www.bluebutterflysolutions.com/

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Subscribe, share this episode with a sister who needs to hear it, and remember: It's not you. It's friction.

What if the very thing you've been told to tone down, hide, or apologize for is actually your greatest superpower? In this episode of A Wake Up Call with Lipstick, Sandy sits down with a gifted video storyteller who turned being called "too emotional" into a career helping people tell stories that move hearts, build connections, and inspire action.

Together, they explore why so many women are afraid to be seen, why a beautiful video means absolutely nothing if nobody feels anything, and how owning your story can free you from other people's expectations. From a nonprofit making dolls that reflect children with disabilities to Sandy's hilarious declaration that she's "too old to train," this conversation is full of humanity, humor, and unexpected wisdom.

And here's the delicious part: at 70, Sandy isn't winding down. She's writing new chapters. Because your past may explain where you've been, but it doesn't get to decide where you go next. Lipstick on. Shoulders back. Your story is still unfolding.

Website: https://pinkladyposse.com/

What if you don't need to fix yourself? What if you just need enough light to see what's actually getting in your way?

In this episode, Sandy explores a simple metaphor with a surprisingly powerful message: be the lighthouse.

A lighthouse doesn't move the rocks, calm the ocean, rescue every ship, or chase anyone down the coast. It stands where it is and shines. And for women who've spent decades being capable, responsible, helpful, and very good at grabbing the wrench the minute something feels off, that might be exactly the reminder we need.

Sandy explores how friction—overthinking, perfectionism, second-guessing, old stories, and other people's expectations—can create so much fog that we mistake difficulty for personal failure.

In this episode:

• Why a signal isn't the same thing as a judgment
• How friction can make life feel harder than it needs to
• Why you don't need to see the whole ocean—just the next thing
• How to stop steering other people's ships
• What happens when you stop chasing approval and start tending your own light
• The question that may change what you notice this week

🎧 Listen now, subscribe, and share this episode with a woman who needs permission to put down the wrench.

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What if the goal isn’t to get rid of friction—but to change how you move through it?

Coming to you from a hotel room in Schulenburg, Texas—with no lipstick on, no less—this week’s episode is about being fluid when life doesn’t go according to plan. Because friction is going to happen.

There will be curves you didn’t create, wobbles that make you second-guess yourself, and grinders that quietly wear you down over time. But friction doesn’t have to mean something is wrong with you. Inspired by *Peace Is More Expensive Than Lobster: A Wake-Up Call with Lipstick*, we’re looking at what happens when you stop trying to fix every bump and simply learn to see it. Because once you can see the friction, you create space. And in that space, you have choice.

This week, look for friction in the wild. Notice the curves. Catch the wobbles. See the grinders. You don’t have to fight every bit of friction, Sister. Sometimes, you can just be fluid.

Wakeup Call With Lipstick: http://wakeupcallwithlipstick.com/

What happens when you publish a book, fly home from Greece, introduce the world to a six-foot lobster, watch your Amazon listing disappear at exactly the wrong moment, speak at multiple events—and just keep going?

Welcome to the first 10 days of Peace Is More Expensive Than Lobster.

This episode is a behind-the-scenes look at what it really felt like to bring this book into the world. And spoiler alert: it wasn't a perfectly orchestrated launch with everything tied up in a pretty little bow. There were beautiful surprises, celebrations, friends showing up, strangers wishing the book well, speaking opportunities, flowers from my sweetheart—and, yes, technology deciding to have a little tantrum on bestseller day.

Because apparently even a lobster book needs a plot twist.

But underneath all the fun is the reason I wrote this book in the first place.

I want women to stop asking:

“What’s wrong with me?”

And start asking:

“What’s getting in my way?”

Because those are two very different questions.

This book is about recognizing what’s standing between you and the bold, beautiful life you want—and deciding you’re ready to move anyway.

Peace Is More Expensive Than Lobster is available in two editions:

Black & White Edition — $12.99

Full Color Edition — $29.99

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There may just be a little something waiting for you.