In this episode, we’re talking identity - yours, the one that existed long before SEND life swallowed your name and renamed you Mum to absolutely everyone.

This isn’t self-care chat. It’s identity repair.

Tiny sparks that reconnect you with the person you were before the forms, appointments and chaos took over.

What we cover

• Why parent carers don’t just get tired — we vanish a bit
• How identity erosion sneaks up without warning
• The small, doable sparks that help you feel like an actual human again
• The daily identity hack that quietly pulls you back to yourself

This week’s SEND SOS Hack

Pick one tiny thing that reconnects you with who you were before SEND life rearranged everything.

Not chores. Not self-improvement.

Just one breadcrumb back to you - guilt-free.

Free Resources

Grab the free parent-carer journaling prompts and other downloads here:

👉 https://lifeaspland.com/resources/

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If this episode helped you feel seen, send it to another parent carer who might need the reminder too.

And if you found your spark? Message me - I genuinely want to hear.

This episode names the invisible tax every parent carer pays - the emotional, physical and mental cost no report, EHC plan or NHS meeting ever acknowledges.

Short, honest, three practical hacks that actually lighten the load.

What We Cover

1. The Real Cost

Interrupted sleep. Millions of micro-decisions. Decision fatigue as a lifestyle.

Losing your identity. Losing friendships. Carrying a load the system doesn’t see.

You’re not imagining it - this life has a price.

2. Hack One: The “One Thing I’m Dropping” Rule

Once a week, pick one thing you’re dropping, pausing or doing the easy way - guilt-free.

This is capacity management, not “failing”.

3. Hack Two: The 10-Minute Capacity Reset

A tiny task that future-you will thank you for. We've even added in a few for Christmas too.

4. Hack Three: The Boundary Script (Updated)

Two scripts you can copy and paste exactly as they are. No softening. No apologising.

A)

“We can't take anything else on this week. If it's urgent, please send us the exact steps and the deadline.”

B)

“I need to be really honest with you. We are at full capacity here emotionally, physically, and mentally. And I can't take on another problem just now.

What is the absolute minimum you need from me?”

Use them with school, professionals, services, family - anyone trying to hand you one more thing.

Small, doable, and actually load-reducing.

Free Parent-Carer Resources

Many useful tools to help you get through the day can be found on our website:

https://lifeaspland.com/free-resources/

This week we’re talking notebooks, Bullet Journals, and how to turn one battered pad (or a digital folder) into a genuine sanity-saver. No washi tape required. Unless, of course, washi tape is your emotional support item. In which case… carry on.

In this episode we cover:

• Why your notebook keeps failing you - and the simple trick that fixes the “first page fear”.

• Paper vs digital: how to do this in your Notes app if you hate using actual notebooks.

• The magic of “one landing spot” so your brain can stop juggling 87 metaphorical tabs.

• The must-have pages for parent carers: inbox dump, weekly stuff, contacts, meds log, meeting prep, wins + joys.

• The game-changing pages: your “shit day” list, Waiting For list, working/not working, questions to ask, call/email history, support team, important documents.

• How to use your notebook or digital setup as a handover tool when you’re ill or overloaded.

• A quick idea for hiding personal pages in meetings using cheap washi tape.

• When templates help (and when they don’t) and why hybrid setups often work best.

If you want the ready-made templates without drawing boxes, the Parent Advocate Companion (digital edition) includes the key pages for meetings, contacts, timelines and paperwork.

Links

• Parent Advocate Companion (digital): https://lifeaspland.com/product/parent-advocate-companion-digital-edition/

• Free resources for parent carers: https://lifeaspland.com/resources/

If this episode helped, please follow, rate, or share it with another exhausted parent carer who could use an easier week.

Christmas can be magical - but for SEND families, it can also be a sensory and emotional marathon. In this episode of SEND SOS, Debs shares simple, practical hacks to help you plan a calmer Christmas that works for your family.

You’ll learn:

• How to keep familiar routines (and your sanity) when everything feels unpredictable
• Easy ways to create quiet, sensory-friendly spaces at home or when visiting family
• Budget-friendly gift ideas that actually bring joy (yes, even the salad spinner!)
• How to use AI to make festive prep easier - from meal planning to polite “we can’t make it” messages
• Why “manageable” always beats “magical” at Christmas

Debs also shares a free SEND Christmas Survival Guide, packed with checklists, sensory-friendly ideas, and planning prompts to help you survive (and even enjoy) the festive season.

Free Resources for Parent Carers

Find all the guides, printables and tools mentioned in this podcast at lifeaspland.com/resources

Social stories are one of those brilliant-but-time-consuming tools parent carers rely on - whether it’s preparing for a dentist visit, a new taxi driver, or the festive chaos of Christmas Day. In this episode of SEND SOS, Debs explains how to use AI to make creating personalised social stories faster, easier, and less stressful.

You’ll learn:

• What social stories are and why they help reduce anxiety for our kids
• How to create your own in minutes using ChatGPT, Claude, or Gemini
• How to personalise the story for your child’s needs and communication style
• Quick ways to turn your story into a visual or audio version using Canva or your phone

Debs also shares a free guide to help you get started with AI safely and confidently - no tech jargon required.

Free Resources for Parent Carers:

Find all the guides, printables and tools mentioned in this podcast at lifeaspland.com/resources

You’ve emptied your head onto paper - now what? In this follow-up to last week’s Brain Dump episode, Debs shares a realistic way for parent carers to turn that chaotic list into something that actually works.

Forget perfect planners and colour-coded schedules - this is about matching your energy, not your fantasy self. Debs explains how to group tasks by action, batch them to save mental load, and create your own “menu” of to-dos that flexes with your day.

Whether you’re the lead actor, supporting role, or just an extra today, you’ll learn how to plan without guilt, build momentum, and stop lists from bullying you before coffee.

Highlights:

Turning your brain dump into a flexible “menu”

The movie-role trick for realistic daily planning

How to batch tasks so your brain can rest

Why “Eat That Frog” actually works for parent carers

Because some days you’ll star in the show - and others, just making the credits still counts.

Free Resources for Parent Carers:

Find all the guides, printables and tools mentioned in this podcast at lifeaspland.com/resources

If your head feels like 57 tabs open, it’s time for a brain dump. Debs walks you through the simple process of getting every task, worry and note out of your head and into one place - plus how to use AI (or just a highlighter) to sort the chaos into categories. Clear space in your brain so you can finally breathe.

Free Resources for Parent Carers:

Find all the guides, printables and tools mentioned in this podcast at lifeaspland.com/resources

When the social worker knocks and chaos reigns, this is the episode you’ll want. Debs shares the unforgettable spaghetti-hoops-and-social-worker story that inspired her viral “Today” video — and the hacks that came from it. Learn how to fake calm in ten minutes flat, clear the sightlines, and focus on what really matters: your child, not the clutter.

Free Resources for Parent Carers:

Find all the guides, printables and tools mentioned in this podcast at → lifeaspland.com/resources