Low libido. Stress. Menopause questions. Orgasms that feel impossible. If any of that sounds familiar, this episode is for you.

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In this solo Q&A episode of SIP With Summers, board-certified sexologist and menopause coach Jennifer Marie Summers answers your anonymous questions about desire, stress, orgasms, menopause, vaginal dryness, pain during sex, sleep issues, body hair, herpes disclosure, and so much more.

We talk about why anxiety kills desire, why foreplay matters more than you were ever taught, what’s actually happening in your body during perimenopause, and why not orgasming from penetration is completely normal.

You’ll learn:
• How to get in the mood without pills or supplements
• Why stress directly affects libido and arousal
• What helps with vaginal dryness and painful sex during menopause
• When fertility actually ends and what perimenopause really looks like
• Why so many women struggle to orgasm and what actually helps
• How to talk to partners about pleasure, STIs, and shame-free sex

This is sex education without judgment, medical shame, or whispering. You’re not broken. You might just need better information and support.

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Host: Jennifer Marie Summers, Board Certified Sexologist, Certified Sex Coach, menopause coach in training
Guest: Dr. Christine Hart Cress, DNP, APRN, WHNP-BC, MSCP. CEO of a telemedicine practice for midlife and menopause care, Menopause Society Certified Practitioner, Air Force veteran, co-host of The Dusty Muffin.

If your brain says “let’s get it on” but your body says “let me sleep,” this one’s for you. We talk responsive vs spontaneous desire, why faking orgasms backfires, how clitoral stimulation actually works, and what evidence-based options can help with arousal and orgasm in midlife. We dig into testosterone, Addyi, Vyleesi, vaginal estrogen, DHEA, lube and moisturizers, and the not-so-sexy basics that change everything like sleep and stress. The theme of the day is empowerment. You are not broken.

What we cover

• Why most medical training skipped sexual health and how that is changing

• The full clitoral anatomy and why penetration alone rarely does it

• Responsive vs spontaneous desire and how to work with both

• Tools that can help: vibrators, clitoral stimulators, and why solo practice matters

• Hormone therapy myths vs facts, plus when to consider transdermal options

• Testosterone for women, timelines, common dosing formats, and realistic expectations

• Addyi and Vyleesi basics, where they fit, and cost access tips discussed in the show

• Vaginal estrogen and DHEA for comfort, arousal, and orgasm support

• Why sleep, mood, strength training, and protein quietly drive libido

• The mindset shift that unlocks desire in midlife

Resources mentioned

• Vibrators and clitoral stimulators for blood flow and arousal

• Testosterone gel or compounded cream under clinician guidance

• Addyi and Vyleesi as options for certain women

• Vaginal estrogen and vaginal DHEA for GSM comfort and orgasm support

• Daily vulvar moisturizers and quality lubricants for pain-free play
  

  Talk to a qualified clinician to determine what is right for you.

  
  

Find Dr. Christine Cress
Telemedicine practice for midlife and menopause care
Co-host of The Dusty Muffin podcast
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Disclaimer
Educational content only. Not medical advice. Consult your own clinician.

midlife libido, perimenopause sex, menopause desire, clitoral anatomy, orgasm difficulty, testosterone for women, Addyi, Vyleesi, vaginal estrogen, DHEA, vibrator benefits, responsive desire

Welcome to SIP with Summers, the show where we talk about sex, intimacy, and pleasure. Today I’m joined by clinical sexologist and intimacy coach Dr. Stacy Friedman, host of The Purple Passion Project. We get real about orgasms, sexual energy, and how to trade performance pressure for pleasure.

In this episode you’ll learn:

• The differences between clitoral, vaginal, cervical, anal, and blended orgasms

• Why sex is a transfer of energy and how to set an intention before you touch

• How to shift from performance to pleasure so anxiety drops, and desire rises

• Practical ways to stay in your body when your brain will not shut up

• Gentle first steps when sex is painful and how to advocate for your care

• Toys as teammates, masturbation as education, and orgasm confidence for life

Listener questions we answer:

• “Why does oral feel good but I cannot finish?”

• “Do different orgasms feel different and how do I know which one I had?”

• “I clamp down because the kids are home. How do I get a full release quietly?”

Resources mentioned:

• Dr. Stacy’s free PDF: Confessions and Lessons of a Sex Expert at DrStacyFriedman.com

• Podcast: The Purple Passion Project

• Follow Dr. Stacy everywhere: @drstacyfriedman

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Please note: This show contains frank, sex-positive discussion for adults. If you are healing from sexual trauma, listen with care and take breaks as needed.

If this episode helped you, send it to a friend, rate the show, and leave a review. Pleasure loves company.

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Ever feel like your hustle is stuck in neutral, no matter how hard you push? In this episode of SIP with Summers, I’m pulling back the sheets (literally and figuratively) to show you how your libido, mindset, emotions, body, and energy all work together to fuel your success, in and out of the bedroom.

I share my own journey from toxic “think the worst” conditioning to a total mindset breakthrough that changed both my business and my pleasure life. You’ll learn why a wobbly “inner table” can sabotage your goals, how emotions get trapped in your body, and why orgasms aren’t just fun... they’re good for your health and your hustle.

We’ll cover:

• 🧠 How mindset blocks and negative self-talk kill your drive (and what to do about it)

• 💓 The surprising link between emotions, body image, and business success

• ⚡ Why energy is contagious and how to raise your vibration to attract more of what you want

• 🛁 Sensual self-care, morning rituals, and products that help you feel unstoppable

• 🍑 Yes, even the power of orgasms for stress relief, confidence, and glow

This episode is your permission slip to prioritize yourself, reclaim your pleasure, and turn that energy into unstoppable hustle. Because when you’re turned on by life, everything else follows.

👉 If you loved this episode, don’t forget to leave a review, share it with a friend, or tag me on Instagram @TheSelfMadeDiva. And if you’re ready to go deeper, check out my free resources, coaching offers, and favorite self-care products at SummersOfLove.com.

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Ever wondered what really happens behind the doors of sexy clubs, resorts, and dungeons? In this steamy episode of SIP With Summers, I’m joined by my favorite travel partner, my boyfriend Will, to spill the secrets of “sexy travel.”

We dive into:

• The difference between sexy travel vs. sex tourism (and why it matters).

• Hedonism II in Jamaica: what makes it the “wildest place on earth” and why couples keep coming back.

• How to find safe, reputable sexy spaces closer to home... from clubs to dungeons.

• Misconceptions that first-timers often have (and what’s actually true).

• How to set boundaries, agreements, and safe words before you play.

• Tips to avoid faux pas in sexy spaces (because no one wants to be that person).

• What monogamous couples can get out of these experiences, even without swapping or playing.

• Our favorite sexy (and surprising!) travel moments together.

Whether you’re curious about booking your first sexy getaway, looking for confidence to explore locally, or just want a peek into the world of Hedonism, this episode will give you insights, laughs, and maybe a little inspiration for your next adventure.

🍷 Grab a glass of wine and sip along because this is one of our juiciest episodes yet.

👉 If you loved this episode, share it with your partner and start your own “what if we did this?” conversation.

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Join Jennifer Marie Summers, Board-Certified Sexologist and host of SIP with Summers, for a candid conversation with Amanda Vee, Board Certified Sex Coach and Sexologist.

From her career shift into sex coaching to her mission of helping people reignite their passion, Amanda shares powerful insights into intimacy, relationships, and the journey of self-discovery.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• What sex coaching really is and how it differs from therapy

• Simple ways to revive desire and deepen intimacy

• How to shift old narratives around sexuality and pleasure

• Tools for building confidence and connection in the bedroom

If you’re ready to expand your understanding of sexual wellness, explore intimacy on a deeper level, and discover what’s possible when you embrace pleasure, this conversation is for you.

Connect with Amanda Vee:

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Amanda regularly holds free virtual workshops on various sexual topics. Get on her email list to find out about which ones are coming up! Her next one will be in mid-September.

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We’re back, baby! 🍷 In the first episode of Season 2 of SIP with Summers, I’m pulling back the satin sheets on my own journey... both as a certified sexologist and as a woman who’s done a lot of inner work (and, yes, outer adventures 😉).

I’m spilling on my certification process, the beliefs about sex I had to unpack, the dating challenges that tested my emotional regulation, and even my wild, wonderful experiences in dungeons and at community events, always with a spotlight on consent and negotiation.

Then, I dive into your burning questions:
✨ How to finally reach orgasm
✨ Dating without the apps
✨ Hygiene tips for solo play
✨ Understanding clitoral sensitivity
✨ Navigating mismatched sex drives
✨ Communicating what you really want in bed

It’s equal parts real talk, sex ed, and a little bit of stand-up comedy—just the way we like it.

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In this episode of 'Sip With Summers,' host Jennifer Summers chats with Audrey Cruz, co-host of the podcast Rule 42. Audrey shares her experiences as a single mother of seven, her journey from a challenging past to achieving her dream of homeownership, and her current entrepreneurial ventures. She discusses her open and honest approach to discussing sex and intimacy with her children and reflects on the sexual trauma she endured as a child. Audrey highlights the importance of communication, trust, and setting boundaries in relationships. She also explores the transformative power of pleasure in her current relationship and the significance of community support. Ending on an adventurous note, they humorously debate the best car for spontaneous adult activities. Audrey's resilience and positivity shine through in this engaging conversation.00:00 Welcome to Sip With Summers00:40 Meet Audrey: Host of Rule 4202:22 Audrey's Journey: Motherhood and Entrepreneurship05:02 Overcoming Adversity: Audrey's Story06:45 Exploring Intimacy and Sexuality11:59 Navigating Relationships and Personal Growth15:54 Challenges in a Long-Term Relationship17:32 Navigating Relationship Boundaries18:10 Talking to Kids About Sex19:52 Finding Pleasure in Life25:14 Respect and Communication in Relationships28:49 Upcoming Projects and Ventures31:28 Adventurous Side and Role Play33:01 Concluding Thoughts and FarewellConnect with Audrey Cruz: Rule 42 Podcast | Instagram @rule42podcast

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