In this episode, we discuss whether people are primarily driven by logic or emotion, sharing how being more logic-driven can create frustration when others communicate emotionally, especially through long, detailed stories or heightened reactions. We talk about the need for emotional intelligence and better communication—acknowledging feelings while staying clear on what can and can’t be solved. We emphasize personal responsibility, emotional resilience, curiosity before blame, and taking time to cool down before reacting, concluding that both logic and emotion are valuable and that balance is essential.

00:00 Welcome Back + Today’s Question: Driven by Logic or Emotion?

01:10 Why Logic vs Emotion Matters (and Why It’s a Pet Peeve)

02:54 Processing Styles: Storytelling, Patience, and Emotional “Pacing”

07:09 Can Logical People Be Romantic? Media Bias & Mental Intimacy

08:55 Movies That Make No Sense: Romance, Horror, and “Logical” Plots

13:17 Anime Example: Maomao (Apothecary Diaries) and Logic-Led Characters

14:15 Dating as a Logical Woman: When Romance Lines Don’t Land

18:00 Real-Life Logic at Work: Hospital Frustrations & Emotional Families

22:29 Emotional Etiquette: Acknowledge Feelings, Then Redirect to Solutions

24:32 Not Everyone Has to Match Your Mood

26:28 Staying Calm Under Pressure: Hospital & Scuba Diving Examples

29:00 Use Curiosity to Defuse Anger (Driving & Daily Triggers)

32:09 Life Comes in Seasons: Choosing Your Reaction

35:00 Dating, Relationships & Balancing Logic With Emotion

40:00 Cooling Down Before You Respond (and Why Bridges Burn)

42:25 Emotional Resilience as the Real Test of Character

43:52 Being the ‘Logical One’ in an Emotional World

47:22 Personality Types Tease: INTJ/ENTJ and the Next Episode

49:04 Final Takeaway: Balance Logic and Emotion + Where to Find Us

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In this episode, Choolwe and Zelda engage in a heart-to-heart discussion about the challenges and nuances of maintaining family connections while living abroad. Reflecting on their own experiences of living in the US and the UK with family back in Zambia and Kenya, they explore the frequency of family communication, the role of technology like WhatsApp groups, to the cost of missing important family milestones. They also delve into how one adapts and changes in a new country and the impact it has on familial relationships. Join the conversation and share your own experiences of loving family from afar.

00:00 Introduction and Family Communication Dynamics

01:06 Welcome to The Feminine Outliers

01:54 Navigating Family Relationships from Afar

03:59 Balancing Independence and Family Ties

08:09 The Role of Technology in Family Connections

20:07 Visiting Family: When and How?

26:30 Travel Mindsets and Preferences

27:05 Challenges of Traveling from Africa

29:47 Emotional Costs of Living Abroad

32:56 Missing Family Milestones

34:25 Holiday Nostalgia and Cultural Differences

37:45 Balancing Work and Family During Holidays

41:55 Changing Identities and Family Dynamics

44:56 Maintaining Connections from Afar

50:19 Conclusion and Call to Share Experiences

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Welcome back to the Feminine Outliers Podcast! In this episode, we tackle the topic of beauty standards and how they are influenced by cultural perceptions. We share personal anecdotes and discuss the impact of Western beauty ideals on black women, the challenges of embracing natural hair, and the importance of self-acceptance. We also highlight the significance of building a supportive environment and maintaining healthy self-esteem. Tune in for an insightful conversation about redefining beauty standards and embracing authenticity.

00:00 Introduction and Hosts Welcome

00:21 Today's Topic: Beauty Standards

00:53 Personal Experience with Hair and Beauty Standards

03:01 Discussion on Hair Perception and Compliments

07:52 Cultural Differences in Beauty Perception

20:23 Fitness and Body Image

23:22 Conclusion and Final Thoughts

24:31 Embracing Unconventional Beauty

26:05 The Strength in Self-Acceptance

26:40 Challenges of Beauty Standards

28:14 Natural Hair and Cultural Pressures

29:14 Questioning Beauty Norms

30:22 The Role of Media and Movements

36:17 Practical Hair Care Tips

38:41 Simplifying Hair Care

44:44 Building Self-Esteem and Health

46:23 Conclusion and Podcast Information

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In this episode of the Feminine Outliers Podcast, we delve into the complexities of accents, attitudes, and assumptions that arise when living abroad or in a multicultural environment. We share personal experiences about cultural misunderstandings and the biases faced due to different accents. The discussion touches on how accents can affect perceptions of intelligence and competence, both in social and professional settings. We also highlight the importance of embracing differences, expanding one's mindset, and being curious about other cultures. Join the conversation and share your thoughts on navigating identity beyond borders.

00:00 Introduction and Initial Thoughts

00:37 Welcome to the Family Lias Podcast

00:58 Accents, Attitudes, and Assumptions

01:52 Experiences with British and American English

03:52 Challenges with Language and Communication

04:46 Navigating Cultural Differences

07:25 Perceptions and Biases in Language

09:37 The Impact of Accents on Perception

11:56 Relatability and Bias in Communication

16:22 Discrimination Based on Speech

23:46 Regional Accents and Stereotypes

26:05 Stories of Immigrant Professionals

27:00 The Importance of Curiosity

27:29 Navigating Conversations as an Introvert

28:03 Respect and Understanding in Communication

28:45 Dealing with Stereotypes and Assumptions

30:45 Challenges of Being a Female Doctor

38:39 Strategies for Addressing Bias

41:24 Embracing Differences and Change

47:34 Conclusion and Call to Action

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In this episode, we dive into 'The Art of Consistency'. Choolwe shares her fitness journey and insights on staying motivated. We discuss the challenges of transitioning our podcast from audio to video, the importance of planning, and how identifying with your goals can keep you on track. We explore how external factors and personal discipline play roles in achieving long-term goals. Whether it's fitness, podcasting, or personal growth, this episode offers valuable insights to help you stay consistent in your endeavours. Tune in and let's explore the journey together!

00:00 Introduction and Personal Milestones

00:48 Welcome to the Feminine Outliers Podcast

01:04 The Art of Consistency

01:24 Challenges and Growth in Podcasting

02:16 Personal Reflections on Fitness

03:13 Consistency in Life and Work

11:38 The Journey of Medical School and Residency

14:32 Perfection vs. Consistency

18:03 Fitness and Discipline

21:28 The Power of Identifying with Your Goals

22:37 The Role of Accountability in Consistency

25:16 Balancing Motivation and Realism

26:12 The Impact of Social Media on Focus

28:02 Creating a Plan to Stay Consistent

28:26 Adapting Goals to Personal Rhythms

32:51 Protecting Your Energy and Willpower

34:14 Practical Tips for Staying on Track

39:22 Final Thoughts and Listener Engagement

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In this episode we delve into the world of Double Standards that exist in this world especially from the Western and non-Western view points. We tap into our experiences as African women who have experienced some of these double standards.

00:00 Welcome Back to the Feminine Outliers Podcast

02:34 Discussing Double Standards: Western vs Non-Western

03:25 Expat vs Immigrant: A Deep Dive

10:37 Personal Experiences and Observations

19:17 The Power of Labels and Media Narratives

22:40 Media's Negative Portrayal of Non-Western Countries

23:11 Perceptions of America from Abroad

23:39 The Illusion of the Western Dream

24:54 Psychological Impact of Media Narratives

27:42 Questioning the Narrative

29:12 The Power of Marketing and Perception

32:56 Conspiracy Theories and Critical Thinking

35:57 Reflecting on Double Standards

42:33 Conclusion and Call to Action

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Join Zelda and Choolwe as they dive into the multifaceted topic of Black women's health. From physical health issues like vitamin D and iron deficiencies to the emotional and mental health challenges encountered in the western world, this episode explores a wide spectrum of health-related experiences and insights. This engaging conversation also delves into societal pressures, family expectations, and the critical importance of self-care and health advocacy. Tune in to hear personal stories, expert opinions, and valuable advice aimed at empowering Black women to prioritize their well-being.

00:00 Welcome to the Feminine Outliers Podcast

00:42 Introduction to Black Women's Health

01:24 Personal Health Journeys

02:34 Common Health Issues in Black Women

05:01 Exploring the Why Behind Health Trends

10:41 Impact of Hair Products on Health

13:53 Cultural Standards and Health

20:25 Physical Health and Cultural Norms

21:26 Emotional and Mental Health

22:20 Unexpected Hair Store Encounter

22:43 Navigating Social Judgments

23:55 Cultural Adaptation and Stereotypes

27:03 Challenges in Professional Spaces

29:44 Emotional and Mental Health Struggles

31:28 The Importance of Self-Care

34:43 Family Expectations and Stress

42:36 Taking Control of Your Health

45:26 Engage with Us

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In this episode, Choolwe and Zelda share their experiences as African women in STEM fields working in the western world. They discuss the unique pressures and mental exhaustion that come with high-functioning careers like medicine and engineering, while also highlighting the rewarding aspects of their professions. They delve into the competitive nature of STEM, the importance of compartmentalization to handle stress, and the need for a work-life balance to prevent burnout. They also touch on common misconceptions about STEM careers and emphasize the value of seeking help and embracing growth. This episode aims to motivate students and non-STEM professionals by providing a candid look at both the challenges and the fulfilling moments in STEM careers, offering valuable insights for those considering this path.

00:00 Welcome to the Feminine Outliers Podcast

00:28 Catching Up: Life Updates and Work Experiences

03:16 The Realities of STEM Careers

07:30 Unspoken Truths and Challenges in Medicine and Engineering

12:05 Balancing High-Functioning Careers and Personal Life

23:59 Transitioning from Specialization to Podcasting

25:05 Embracing Failure and Learning New Skills

26:10 Perfectionism and Its Challenges

27:07 Balancing Professional Skills with Creativity

27:36 The Misconceptions of Being Highly Skilled

30:51 The Emotional Detachment in Medicine

39:47 Burnout in High-Stress Professions

44:50 Final Thoughts and Listener Engagement

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