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  • ep 53: what are you not letting yourself want?

    ep 53: what are you not letting yourself want?
    Nov 12 2026

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    there’s a version of you that everyone relies on: the one who’s always fine, the one who handles it, the one people come to. and from the outside that version looks like strength. i built a company about connection and mateship while being one of the loneliest people i knew.

    it wasn’t that i couldn’t rest. i wouldn’t let myself want rest. it wasn’t that nobody offered help. i wouldn’t let myself want help. and the one that took me longest: for years i sat with my own pain, named it precisely, analysed it from every angle, and never once let myself want to heal.

    whenever we talk about the shadow we talk about the ugly parts. the rage, the jealousy, the shame. but Carl Jung pointed at something almost nobody quotes him on. the shadow is mostly gold.

    this one is about the four places that gold hides, why you buried yours in the first place, what it’s costing your body to keep it down there and one question you can ask tonight that shows you exactly where it went.

    enjoy 💙


    what we explored this episode

    00:00 the loneliest man in the room

    01:17 i wouldn't let myself want rest

    03:09 the shadow is mostly gold

    04:20 intro

    05:44 how being the dependable one became my job

    09:19 why you hand your gold to other people

    11:22 the four places it hides

    15:00 the hardest desire to admit

    16:14 authenticity or attachment

    18:36 what the armour costs your body

    21:17 three things to do this week

    23:20 the question


    references

    Carl Jung — the shadow holds everything pushed out of conscious awareness, including what’s valuable.

    Robert A. Johnson, Owning Your Own Shadow — the source of the golden shadow. We disown our own gold and then project it onto the people we admire.

    Robert Bly, A Little Book on the Human Shadow — the long bag we drag behind us. First covered in ep 43.

    Gabor Maté — authenticity versus attachment, and why the child chooses attachment every time.

    Donald Winnicott — the false self, the competent persona that goes out to meet the world while the true self stays hidden.

    Peter Levine, Somatic Experiencing — defensive responses that never complete stay switched on in the body.


    mentioned in this episode

    ep 52 — when healing becomes the new addiction with Pat Chirico

    ep 51 — do you even want to heal?

    ep 43 — why do you hide parts of yourself?


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    26 mins
  • ep 52: when healing becomes the new addiction

    ep 52: when healing becomes the new addiction
    Nov 5 2026
    📺watch and subscribe on youtubethere’s a feeling you get after a good session. you’ve cried, you’ve shaken and something moved. you leave lighter and more spacious than you’ve felt in months and you think, that was it, that was the shift. and then 2 weeks later you catch yourself doing the exact same thing you’ve always done. Pat Chirico knows that cycle from both sides of the table. he’s a meditation teacher, breathwork practitioner and Spinal Energetics practitioner, founder of Insight Breathwork and the man behind Barely Regulated, one of the funniest meme pages in this space. he also spent 4 and a half years as a corporate accountant having panic attacks before work, and he didn’t leave, he got fired. his whole position cuts against how most of us treat this work: the modality isn’t where the change happens. what you do in the days between sessions is. in this conversation we get into the dark side of healing, why an emotional release is not transformation, how intensity has to be earned and the embarrassingly small step that finally moved the needle for him. enjoy 💙~Pat Chirico is a Melbourne-based somatic practitioner, breathwork facilitator and educator who believes healing is simpler than the wellness industry makes it.A former corporate accountant, Pat left finance in 2014 and built a career spanning personal training, meditation teaching, breathwork and Spinal Energetics. His teaching centres on the breath as a real-time signal of the nervous system, and on discernment as the quality that separates good facilitators from great ones. That work has taken him to lead group sessions around the world and he continues to offer sessions one to one today.Pat is also the creator of Barely Regulated, a brand that blends humour with nervous system education for people who'd rather laugh than be lectured about their stress response. His aim is to help people understand their own bodies and stop chasing healing at the expense of joy.connect with PatInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/patchirico/ Barely Regulated: https://www.instagram.com/barely.regulated/ Insight Breathwork: https://www.instagram.com/insightbreathwork/ what we explored this episode00:00 meet Pat!01:45 healing and humour are not separate05:02 i didn't leave, i got fired07:22 how he overrode his body for 4 years08:16 a familiar hell over an unfamiliar heaven10:33 the shame of looking like you went backwards11:28 the lie he told people for years14:08 the root cause of the panic attacks15:29 the mask is what burns you out, not the workload22:30 what leadership surfaced that corporate never did24:11 wherever you go, there you are26:27 coping versus healing27:51 the day he told his wife he was just sad32:54 ice cream, doom scrolling and the permission to suppress36:08 awareness can trick you into thinking you're progressing40:45 from a nervous system to a chill system42:08 what spinal energetics actually is45:02 why it looks like a scene from the exorcist46:22 the field, the biofield and the aura47:49 what animals and 3-year-olds know53:49 your child will trigger every unhealed wound55:12 10 years of hip pain and what it was holding59:21 putting down weight that was never yours1:04:20 the dark side of healing and chasing the high1:06:06 the hamster wheel of more intensity1:09:16 an emotional release is not transformation1:13:43 the grief nobody warns you about1:16:02 what liberation means to Patconnect with me👉watch the root cause training free, 33 minutes. for anyone who understands their own pattern completely and is still run by it. a third of it is a practice, not a talk. watch it whenever.👉need more support?if you’re interested in coaching programs and more support.👉linkedin👉facebook👉instagram👉tiktok👉youtube👉websitelots of love,david 💙
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    1 hr and 21 mins
  • ep 51: do you even want to be healed?

    ep 51: do you even want to be healed?
    Oct 29 2026

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    for three years i watched people online talk about healing and nervous system regulation and shadow work, and i thought they were full of sh*t. weird. unhinged. a bit woo. performing for attention.

    and the whole time i was doing that, i was drinking too much, on my phone 9 hours a day, taking substances and curating a version of myself in every single room so that nobody would look too closely.

    this is a short one. 10 minutes. one question.

    do you even want to be healed?

    enjoy 💙


    what we explored this episode

    00:00 three years of thinking they were full of sh*t

    01:23 the question almost nobody asks out loud

    02:19 why insight never changed the pattern

    03:18 what the drinking, the phone and the jokes were doing

    04:14 you are not failing to change (you are being paid to stay)

    05:41 why i needed them to be fake

    07:06 contempt is cheaper than transformation

    07:41 part of me wants this and part of me is still getting paid

    09:02 i didn't decide to heal, i ran out of options

    09:57 the one question to sit with


    connect with me

    👉watch the root cause training

    free, 33 minutes. for anyone who understands their own pattern completely and is still run by it. a third of it is a practice, not a talk. watch it whenever.

    👉take the root cause audit

    free five minute assessment - answer a few honest questions about what's showing up in your life right now. i'll personally review your responses and send you back a detailed breakdown of the specific emotional pattern driving your behaviour within 48 hours. no call and no pitch. just clarity on what's actually keeping you stuck.

    👉free resources

    practical tools, guided practices and resources to help you create more clarity, confidence and alignment - all 100% free. no catch - just high-impact support for high performers & purpose-driven humans ready to grow. enjoy!

    👉need more support?

    if you’re interested in coaching programs and more support.

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    david 💙
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    11 mins
  • ep 50: one day I’ll slow down

    ep 50: one day I’ll slow down
    Oct 22 2026
    Vincent Van den Broeck is a Brussels-based entrepreneur, restaurateur, and survivor of a near-fatal car accident that changed his life forever. On October 11th, 2024, he was struck whilst riding a scooter in a collision at 55 km/h in a 30 zone. The impact left him with multiple fractures and major brain trauma. Doctors gave little hope with most injuries of this severity having only a 10% survival rate.He spent weeks in a coma and three months in intensive rehabilitation, but recovery didn’t stop there — it became a daily mission. Against all odds, he not only regained his strength but came back stronger than before: working out 7 times a week, running a business, and building new creative projects.Today, Vincent shares his story as living proof that resilience, mindset, and community can make the impossible possible.connect with VincentGet Vincent’s book: https://www.theuidclub.com/the-book Instagram PERS: https://www.instagram.com/vincentinthekitchen/Instagram HASHTAG: https://www.instagram.com/hashtagbrussels/Instagram UID CLUB: https://www.instagram.com/theuidclub/Website: https://www.theuidclub.com/TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@vincentinthekitchen0Youtube: https://www.youtube.com/@vincentinthekitchen~📺watch and subscribe on youtubeVincent Van den Broeck spent his early 30s building hospitality businesses, working 300 to 400 hours a month, telling himself the same thing most high performers tell themselves, “one day I’ll slow down. one day i’ll spend more weekends with family. one day i’ll actually enjoy what i’ve built.” on the 11th of October 2024 he was hit while riding an e-scooter. three weeks in a coma. less than one percent chance of survival. his wife was told to start preparing the funeral. he came home and then had to learn to walk again, speak again, hold a knife and fork again. in this conversation we get into what was really driving all that building, what his wife and family lived through while he was unconscious, why he believes resilience is a muscle you train long before you need it, and how his definition of success changed completely. honest, direct and full of fire. enjoy 💙what we explored this episode00:00 the promise he made before everything changed01:28 what drove all that building02:54 where the “one day” mentality comes from04:20 why some industries call this normal and others call it madness05:46 losing his mum young and bankruptcy08:21 the job that built his entire life10:15 working 300 to 400 hours a month11:30 what success meant to him before the accident11:55 three questions to ask at the end of every day13:34 the last morning, the last conversation and walking back to say it properly14:50 three weeks unconscious and what his wife actually lived through16:59 belief vs conviction (and why the difference matters)19:52 relearning how to walk, speak and hold a knife and fork21:01 a thousand problems when you’re healthy, one when you’re not22:07 learning to talk louder than the voice in your head26:22 why resilience is built long before catastrophe arrives28:39 the trade-off nobody wants to hear31:20 adapt your situation to your dreams, not your dreams to your situation34:53 how ambition and non-negotiables changed after the accident38:11 being the same person whether anyone is watching or not39:49 what liberation means to Vincentconnect with me👉watch the root cause training free, 33 minutes. for anyone who understands their own pattern completely and is still run by it. a third of it is a practice, not a talk. watch it whenever.👉free resourcespractical tools, guided practices and resources to help you create more clarity, confidence and alignment - all 100% free. no catch - just high-impact support for high performers & purpose-driven humans ready to grow. enjoy! 👉need more support?if you’re interested in coaching programs and more support.👉linkedin👉facebook👉instagram👉tiktok👉youtube👉websitelots of love,david 💙
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    42 mins
  • ep 49: why do certain people get under your skin?

    ep 49: why do certain people get under your skin?
    Oct 15 2026
    📺watch and subscribe on youtubesomeone comes across your feed expressing themselves with complete confidence and something in you tightens. someone announces a big win and instead of feeling happy for them you feel a flash of something sharp. someone expresses emotion freely and you find yourself pulling back. every one of those reactions is pointing at something in you. Carl Jung called it projection and i believe it's the single most practical tool in all of shadow work, because your shadow is invisible to you by definition. you can't see what you've pushed out of awareness. you can see your reactions to other people. in this episode i share the four triggers that have shaped my own journey, the three types of projection and why they need completely different responses, and exactly where this framework stops being useful (because there's a real risk here nobody talks about). enjoy 💙what we explored this episode00:00 welcome welcome!01:24 the reactions that point back at you03:41 my 4 biggest triggers06:41 what the irritation actually iss07:54 why cutting people down is socially rewarded here09:50 the part of me i exiled11:54 wanting to help people who never asked13:04 why shadow work never ends15:21 the virtual reality headset we're all wearing16:19 disowned trait projection17:07 why envy is disguised as moral judgment18:04 why the body reacts before the mind19:49 where this framework stops being useful21:46 the risk of spiritual bypassing22:42 practice one: the trigger audit23:40 practice two: the turnaround25:02 practice three: the envy inventory25:57 practice four: the somatic check26:56 what changes when you reclaim the trait28:22 why the shadow reorganising is a sign of depthreferences and thought leaders mentionedCarl Jung — everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves. The shadow as a moral problem that challenges the whole ego-personality.Byron Katie — The Work and the turnaround. Taking the judgment and turning it back on yourself. → www.thework.comRichard Schwartz — developer of IFS. The part of you that reacted is protecting something. You can thank it and still set the boundary. → www.ifs-institute.comPeter Crone — you will continue to attract people, circumstances and situations to reveal where you are still not free. → www.petercrone.comRam Dass — if you think you're enlightened, go spend a week with your family.Anaïs Nin — we don't see things as they are, we see them as we are.Tall poppy syndrome — my LinkedIn postconnect with me👉watch the root cause trainingfree, 33 minutes. for anyone who understands their own pattern completely and is still run by it. a third of it is a practice, not a talk. watch it whenever.👉take the root cause auditfree five minute assessment - answer a few honest questions about what's showing up in your life right now. i'll personally review your responses and send you back a detailed breakdown of the specific emotional pattern driving your behaviour within 48 hours. no call and no pitch. just clarity on what's actually keeping you stuck.👉free resourcespractical tools, guided practices and resources to help you create more clarity, confidence and alignment - all 100% free. no catch - just high-impact support for high performers & purpose-driven humans ready to grow. enjoy! 👉need more support?if you’re interested in coaching programs and more support.👉linkedin👉facebook👉instagram👉tiktok👉youtube👉websitelots of love,david 💙
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    31 mins
  • ep 48: confidence comes second

    ep 48: confidence comes second
    Oct 8 2026
    Helen von Dadelszen helps smart, thoughtful professionals get their brilliant ideas out of their heads and into the world with clarity, confidence and impact. She believes that confidence is built through action, not something we need to wait for before we speak, and that everyone has a unique way of communicating that can be strengthened, shaped and shared.As a communication and vocal coach, Helen supports people who are doing valuable work but need help expressing their message in a way that feels authentic to them and clear, compelling and useful to their audience. Helen is the founder of Present Potential Sàrl, where she provides practical training and coaching in public speaking, presentation skills, vocal presence and confident communication. She works with individuals, teams and organisations across technical, scientific, academic and humanitarian fields, helping them communicate complex, important ideas with greater clarity, authenticity and persuasive power.She is also the author of Courageous Action: Your Playbook for Communicating Confidently, One Small Step at a Time, a hands-on guide designed to help people grow their communication confidence through practical, achievable steps.connect with HelenPresent Potential: https://academy.presentpotential.ch/ Helen’s book - Courageous Action: https://courageousaction.ch/ ~📺watch and subscribe on youtubethere's a version of you that knows exactly what you want to say. you've done the thinking, you have the ideas, you have the expertise and then the moment arrives and something happens. your voice tightens and the words come out differently than they did in your head. you second-guess, you shrink and afterwards you think: that wasn't me. Helen von Dadelszen has built her entire practice around that gap. she's a communication and vocal coach, founder of Present Potential in Switzerland and author of Courageous Action. her whole philosophy runs against what most of us were taught: you don't wait to feel confident before you act. confidence is built through the action itself. in this conversation we get into what's actually happening in your nervous system under pressure, why your body's signals are being misinterpreted, how your voice and identity shape the way people receive you and what improv taught her about trusting herself. enjoy 💙what we explored this episode00:00 the gap between what you know and how you show up02:53 what revealed her life's work05:53 why brilliant experts are never taught to communicate their ideas07:33 what actually happens in the body under pressure09:41 how do we interpret the signals?11:50 the reframe that changes everything14:41 why waiting to feel confident is one of the costliest traps there is16:14 the confidence loop18:14 practical first steps before a big presentation21:43 identity as the foundation of communication24:41 what your body and voice are saying before your words land27:36 how a confident voice actually works32:13 what improv taught her about trusting herself36:27 abandoning yourself in conversation and how to come back39:19 what do i want them to think, feel or do?41:35 what being liberated means to Helenconnect with me👉watch the root cause training free, 33 minutes. for anyone who understands their own pattern completely and is still run by it. a third of it is a practice, not a talk. watch it whenever.👉free resourcespractical tools, guided practices and resources to help you create more clarity, confidence and alignment - all 100% free. no catch - just high-impact support for high performers & purpose-driven humans ready to grow. enjoy! 👉need more support?if you’re interested in coaching programs and more support.👉linkedin👉facebook👉instagram👉tiktok👉youtube👉websitelots of love,david 💙
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    43 mins
  • ep 47: the conversation with my dad that changed everything

    ep 47: the conversation with my dad that changed everything
    Oct 1 2026
    📺watch and subscribe on youtubecontent warning: this episode includes discussion of suicide. please take care while listening and pause any time you need.this week is a little different. i was a guest on someone else's show and the conversation went somewhere i wasn't expecting, so i'm sharing it here. we get into the moment at 18 when my parents divorced and i watched my father go through an immense psychological battle while i was falling apart myself, with no tools, no permission and no siblings to process any of it with. what happened when i finally opened up to him changed the trajectory of my entire life. we also get into building linkmate from a place of fear rather than love, why eight years of therapy gave me awareness without healing, what shame actually does to high performers and where all of this is heading next. enjoy 💙what we explored this episode00:00 melbourne and 3 words to describe myself01:53 my parents' divorce and my father's battle03:27 romania, discrimination and the attempt on his life04:29 the belief that shaped everything after06:02 turning pain into creative expression and why that process heals07:46 building linkmate and taking an emotional support app to market09:00 fear as fuel vs. love as fuel (and what happens when you build from shame)10:40 why i work with high-performing men (and the statistic that drives it)11:12 8 years of therapy (and the core wound it never touched)13:52 where time freedom comes from16:01 the elevator pitch16:37 where this is heading20:01 the hardest business lesson i've learned21:48 the biggest obstacle in front of me right nowsome takeawaysopening up first can give the other person permission to do the same. my father had carried his story alone for decades until i went firsttransmuting pain into creative expression is one of the most cathartic things a person can do. it makes sure the pain wasn't for nothingyou can build real things from fear and insecurity. it works until it catches up with youawareness and healing are two different things. eight years of therapy gave me a complete map of my patterns and never touched the shame underneath themshame is the core wound i see most in the men i work with. the sense of not being enough in whatever form it takestime freedom is downstream of nervous system regulation. when you're in survival mode the prefrontal cortex goes offline and everything takes longernothing is wasted. every role, every setback, every difficult partnership has been part of building the discernment i neededwe heal best in relationship to others, in person. there is only so far an online workshop can take yougenerational curse breakers are the people willing to say this ends with memental health support resourcesif anything in this episode brought something up for you, please reach out. lifeline australia 13 11 14, beyond blue 1300 22 4636, or your local crisis line.connect with me👉watch the root cause trainingfree, 33 minutes. for anyone who understands their own pattern completely and is still run by it. a third of it is a practice, not a talk. watch it whenever.👉take the root cause auditfree five minute assessment - answer a few honest questions about what's showing up in your life right now. i'll personally review your responses and send you back a detailed breakdown of the specific emotional pattern driving your behaviour within 48 hours. no call and no pitch. just clarity on what's actually keeping you stuck.👉free resourcespractical tools, guided practices and resources to help you create more clarity, confidence and alignment - all 100% free. no catch - just high-impact support for high performers & purpose-driven humans ready to grow. enjoy! 👉need more support?if you’re interested in coaching programs and more support.👉linkedin👉facebook👉instagram👉tiktok👉youtube👉websitelots of love,david 💙
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    25 mins
  • ep 46: when your body forces you to stop

    ep 46: when your body forces you to stop
    Sep 24 2026

    Fletcher Nugent is a Soul Guide dedicated to helping others reconnect with the power of their own soul. A qualified Yoga Teacher, Breathwork Facilitator, and Spiritual Healer, his work is grounded in lived experience and a deep realisation that true, lasting transformation comes from reconnecting with who they truly are. Today, he guides people back to their innate purpose by offering practical wisdom, techniques, and knowledge to reconnect with the deeper intelligence within.


    connect with Fletcher

    https://www.instagram.com/fletchernugent/

    https://linktr.ee/fletchernugent

    hello@fletchernugent.com

    ~

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    in his early 20s, Fletcher Nugent was a competitive athlete. football, the gym, a physically demanding job and an identity built almost entirely around his body. then a debilitating illness took all of it in about 10 days. he lost over 10kg, spent most of every day in bed and started doing a 30-day yoga series on youtube just to feel some sense of autonomy. what began as stretching became the doorway to everything he does now. in this conversation we go further than I've gone with any guest so far. we get into how the body stores tension and memory, the ancestral patterns we inherit without knowing, what actually happens in the nervous system during transformative breathwork, and what the soul is in a way that stays grounded and practical. enjoy 💙


    what we explored this episode

    00:00 from competitive athlete to bedbound in 10 days

    07:25 what it takes to release trauma from the body

    18:50 abandonment wound passed from grandfather to father to son

    24:45 breathwork as the key to unlock tension

    27:06 why most of us breathe from our shoulders

    30:40 going beyond the thinking mind

    34:51 what is the soul?

    40:50 practical ways to connect to your soul

    45:37 why so many high achievers feel empty despite everything they've built

    55:13 what liberation means to Fletcher


    show notes — references and teachings mentioned

    Bessel van der Kolk — author of The Body Keeps the Score. The body stores the imprints of unprocessed experience. → www.besselvanderkolk.com

    Lao Tzu — Tao Te Ching. The Tao that can be expressed in words is not the true Tao. The soul sits beyond what the thinking mind can grasp.

    Patanjali — Yoga Sutras. The first sutra, "now, yoga," points to liberation as something available in the present moment.

    Dr Zhi Gang Sha — teacher of the Ten Da, the ten greatest qualities, including love, compassion, forgiveness, humility and gratitude as pathways to connect with the soul.

    The yogic concepts of prana, Brahman and Atman — life force, source and the individual soul as a unique expression of that source.


    connect with me

    👉take the root cause audit

    free five minute assessment - answer a few honest questions about what's showing up in your life right now. i'll personally review your responses and send you back a detailed breakdown of the specific emotional pattern driving your behaviour within 48 hours. no call and no pitch. just clarity on what's actually keeping you stuck.

    👉free resources

    practical tools, guided practices and resources to help you create more clarity, confidence and alignment - all 100% free. no catch - just high-impact support for high performers & purpose-driven humans ready to grow. enjoy!

    👉need more support?

    if you’re interested in coaching programs and more support.

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    58 mins