In this podcast episode, Chris interviews Scott Mallon a licensed marriage and family therapist. They delve into Scott's personal experiences with divorce and co-parenting, as well as a challenging patenting advice. Scott also discusses his professional work with addicts and first responders, emphasizing the importance of resilience and learning from his clients. He also shares some WILD storys with his time with marriage therapy! Follow Chris HERE! IG - @christarta TRANSCRIPT Chris (00:00:00) - Being a marriage therapist and being divorced yourself has got to be some lessons and probably some stories that you may have. Scott (00:00:06) - You know, after my my divorce ten years ago, Tinder, which is sort of embarrassing to admit, but but so I hopped on that, like after my divorce, kind of trying to see if I still had it. And I was actually counseling a husband and wife, and I saw the wife on Tinder. Chris (00:00:24) - And they were. Scott (00:00:24) - Trying to they were trying to reconcile. Chris (00:00:26) - Their relationship. Yeah. Gosh. What's up everybody? We are back. Live today. We are here with Scott Malin. Scott is one of my best friends. Lifelong best friends. He's a licensed marriage and family therapist. He is. He works at Tri America Health and Wellness. Uh, there's offices all over, but I think your home office is Oakland, right? Yep. Um. Scott's got a lot of stories. They got a lot of stories about me. But today we're going to talk about, uh, we're going to talk mostly about him and what it's like being a therapist and what it's like being a marriage or family therapist, especially when, um, when you get to know Scott, you're going to understand that he's had a few struggles of his own in those areas. Chris (00:01:11) - And that makes me very curious about, uh, what kind of experience, what kind of a life experience that has brought to him. Um, it cannot be easy to deal with other people's problems all day and then go home and face your own. Uh, I don't know that I could do it. I think every therapist has a special job, and they help people. And it's a very important, uh, it's a very important in our community, in our culture, to be able to do that and offer advice. Um, so what's up, bud? Scott (00:01:42) - Not much. Uh, you know, if I thought we were going to be on video somewhere, I would have thought it would be in the news. Chris (00:01:48) - But there may be news clips somewhere. Uh, we didn't grow up in that. That era, you know, there was a lot less cameras, a lot less videos when we were growing up. Um, which I'm. I'm. Scott (00:01:58) - Yeah, we're grateful for. It's funny, you know, like, I just literally dealt with that, uh, you know, you talk about, like, struggles and personal life. Scott (00:02:05) - Um, you know, my daughter's 11. Uh, she made a mistake, and it found its way onto Facebook, and it went sort of viral. Um, you know, I won't get into too much about what she did just because I like to protect her a little bit. Um, but, yeah, went viral. And, you know, thankfully, it was, like, over a break. Um, but still, when we came back from the break, uh, you know, she was getting ostracized and stuff like that. So we had to kind of come out and say, you know, you know, put a post out and kind of try to rectify what happened. But thank God we did not grow up in that time because we definitely would have been, you know, I don't know if I'd have this career. Well, they knew some of the stuff that we used to do. Chris (00:02:56) - If I get talking, you may not have this very much longer. The, the, the I think that's an important thing that you just said because, you know, I think a lot of stuff gets done on social media now. Chris (00:03:08) - And that seems to be like, you know, the story that you're telling is, you know, maybe something was posted and it shouldn't have been. And even adults probably jumped on the bandwagon, which absolutely is is not a great message. And, um, you know, I. Scott (00:03:24) - Spent two weeks reading what a shitty parent I was. Chris (00:03:27) - Right? Scott (00:03:27) - And they didn't even know who I was. Chris (00:03:29) - Yeah, these are people that are placing judgment. And I'm going to tell you, like I have an 11 year old also. And she makes mistakes. They all make all kids make mistakes. I made mistakes and I do it in a public setting. And to have other parents judge you and your child must make you feel so many different emotions anger, rage, sadness, embarrassment. Like I don't even know. Like you go down the list. Scott (00:03:52) - Yeah. And and also like, just sad for the fact that, like, you know, this adolescence is a time when you're supposed to me, this is a time of learning, you know, this is you're trying to learn how to be a person. Scott (00:04:04) - I mean, I look at these kids, you know, in middle school and holy shit. I mean, I was looking at my daughter the other day going out the house ...
